Felix Ker's blog

There are so many stages to a relationship. Simplifying it, I’d say - during courtship, in a relationship and after marriage. This article shall cover what’s before/during courtship! Pretty sure this will very much benefit you. Read on.

How do I choose?

Not surprising when people ask this. So many people in the world, but who do I choose?

What do you expect from your partner? Expectation is the #1 killer, thus I firmly believe in getting your expectations right, maybe lowering it. If you think you’ve got too high expectations and cannot find a girl that’s suitable, lower them a little. Or perhaps, you haven’t met the right one.

What can your partner expect from you? It’s good to know what you can be giving. Everyone expects different kind of treatment and different amount of attention. Do ask yourself how much you can give.

Who can I choose?

Almost anyone. It’s all up to you to make your choice of who you want to fall in love with. However, I’m not a risk taker when it comes to risking my friends for a relationship which has risks.

Personally, I just try not to fall in love with a good friend unless I understand her so well and know that, if one day the relationship doesn’t work out, we’ll still be friends. If not, you’re going to lose a friend — a good one!

You may not want to choose someone who has too much close mutual friends too. The problem here is - when you both fail to work out, your friends will be the one getting the shit.

Do I fall in love with the person first, or do I know the person better first then decide if I should love?

Both are fine, but I’d prefer to know a person better before I start courtship. Here’s my explanation - you won’t wanna waste your precious wooing, and knowing the person at the same time. You might find out that he/she’s not the one you’re looking for. Why the hurry then?

Tips please!

You’d need to read:

• 99 Facts about Guys that Girls should know!
• 31 ways to make a girl smile (: (2,157 views)
• How to Know If A Guy Likes You
• How to tell if a girl is NOT interested in you

If you need additional help, contact me!

I happened to come by an article on The Straits Times today (27 April 2009, Monday) and I felt that I should write something too.

How much does the brand name of a school factor into youth identity? YouthInkers respond.

Let’s go.

I see myself no different from any student graduated from St. Joseph’s Instutution. Neither am I different from someone who studied at Raffles Instutution. Marsiling Secondary School, at the time I entered, was only a year old. (I’m proud to be the second batch!)

We’ll discuss the teachers first. I must agree that teachers are really important when it comes to developing a child, but again, it’s how the child process what’s taught. Anyway, I didn’t really agree that many things I was taught until now. I admit I’m slow in processing, that took me a few years. I’m glad I got it, eventually.

But I must mention that we’ve got a fantastic headmaster (aka Principal). Mrs Choy had totally no airs and was easy to get close with and to talk to. It’s sad that her career had to come to an end just when I graduated. If not, it would be awesome if she could spread the motherly love to more batches. All good things come to an end, don’t they?

I was given a chance to develop myself in the world of technology. School got me started in programming (Pascal was the in-thing, hurhur.) and that was when I found my hobby and love for technology. They developed me and sent me for competitions and through that, I learnt that I’m not the best. (Indirectly, I benefitted lots.)

Cherish the chances given to you. I was given many for my evil-doing. I’m not going to talk about them.

I’m not successful at all, now. But someday, I will make my mark.

Felix Ker (class of 2004), 20 going 21, is a first-year Business student at SIM Global Education (University of London & London School of Economics).

So, how did your school ‘brand’ you?

Hey ppl!

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This is a guest blog post by May Wu. May Wu is a good friend of mine& one of the contestants of the FHM Girl Next Door 2009 Contest/Pageant. Check out her facebook here. Do vote for her and stand to win many prizes.

It doesn’t matter whether she’s your girlfriend, girl you’re after, or your wife.. Here are a few tips to make a girl (in general) happier.

1. Be true to her. The truth might hurt, but when she finds out you’re lying, it’s worse.
2. Love what/who she loves. How can her little puppy at home be irritating?
3. Spend quality time with her! She wants your full attention.
   
4. If you’re really that busy, give her a call when you can.
5. If you’re not even free to make a call, or cannot call during working hours, a text message warms her heart as well.
6. Hold her hands in public. Be proud of her!
7. Hug her! Hugs are stronger than kisses.
8. Kiss her more, of course.
9. Don’t sweet talk. Say nice things to her but make sure they’re always true!
10. Respect her.
11. Listen to her. Spend some time everyday listening to what she has got to say!
12. Gifts! It doesn’t have to be any special day. Neither has it gotta be expensive.
    • Flowers - they love it.
    • Soft toys - if she’s not allergic, why not?
13. Get to know her friends. Especially the people she mix around.
14. Remember the anniversaries. Men often time forget these dates. It’s time you have an organiser to remember them.
15. Care for her. Who doesn’t need some care?
16. Tell her you love her. Simple 3 words “I love you” isn’t so hard to say, right?
17. Send her a text and say good morning. She’ll feel good to see her boyfriend’s text early in the morning. It might wake her up, but she’ll still smile.
18. Buy her her favourite food. Not hard right? How about dining at her favourite restaurant?
19. Drop some vocabulary - such as ‘old’, ‘fat’, ‘ugly’. If you love her, these few words shouldn’t exist in your dictionary.
20. Praise her. Be it a great job done, nice make up or a nice dress she wore, she’ll be happy.
21. Compromise! She loves it but you’re not having pasta everyday, are you?
22. Let her feel loved (on bed). She needs good sex as much as you do. Do I still need to elaborate?
23. Sing her a song. Just a verse would be good.
24. Share a joke with her. Laughing is the best medicine.
25. Be romantic. The beach and the stars? The park and the bench?
26. Don’t mention your ex-girlfriends. She hates it.
27. Don’t compare her with other girls. I know Jamie was good at this but every girl is different. Accept it. Move on.
28. Surprise her. Who doesn’t like surprises?
29. Massage her. She’ll feel you care.
30. Don’t quarrel over anything. Discuss about it. Problems can be solved with discussion.

The points above can be summarised: Spend optimum time, Buy some gifts, Love and care for her and give her more attention. That’s about all.

How do you ususually make your girlfriend happier? Any tips to share?

With all the stupid quizes around, everyone’s doing them. Really too many people doing it everyday and it floods my feeds.

Can facebook allow us to use regular expressions to block what we do not want to see?