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• Some of you may have forgotten all about this.
• Some of you don’t care.
• Some of you are still waiting patiently.
• A few of you nudge me so often for it.

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I’ve gone through them and they’re rather accurate. What do you think? 

1. Lack of Confidence.
   Have you ever woken up early in the morning, looked at yourself in the mirror and wonder: “Who will ever love me?”

   Low self-esteem and fear of rejection can cause such episodes to cripple anyone’s love life! As long as such thoughts are foremost in the mind, singles will be unable to take the all-important step to initiate a date or accept one.

2. Clueless In Love.
   Gone out with a date who looks like he just woke up, has not brushed his teeth, does not open the door for you and picks his nose at the table? You’re probably not alone.

   Lack of grooming and communication skills, social and dating etiquette can spell disaster for any potential social opportunities. If you want to network, impress someone on a date or connect with anyone in a relationship, better pick up a copy of Grooming and Etiquette for Dummies.

3. Denying the Coming of Age.
   Mummy’s boy and Daddy’s princess. These big kids can’t admit that they are adults and of marriageable age. They are comfortable in their roles as mummy’s pets and daddy’s little girls. Either too spoilt or too sheltered to take the next big step, the day they actually decide to settle down would be the day you strike lottery.
4. Bo-Chap! (Can’t Be Bothered).
   Some singles think it is cool to ‘act cool’ about their singlehood. When their motto is “Singles have more fun!” there really isn’t any impetus to get out of this comfort zone. And even if they do want to get attached, they expect their other half to accept them as they are, warts and all. Don’t expect these singles to change for the better or settle for compromises.
5. Consistently “Not Ready for a Relationship”
   This is the most commonly heard ‘default’ reason for ‘un-dating’ singles. They are simply “Not Ready for a Relationship”, and are extremely reluctant to do anything constructive to get themselves ready. But as long as you are not ready to prepare yourself for a relationship, you will never find yourself in one.
6. Kia Pai-Seh, or Afraid of being Embarrassed.
   Afraid of taking the first step, kia paiseh is known as the fear of ‘losing face’. Sufferers of such a syndrome will not be caught dead asking someone out for a date or attending any singles events to try and know more people, even self-improvement courses such as dating etiquette.

   These activities are akin to announcing to the whole world that they are desperate to get out of singlehood. Grow up! There is nothing wrong with wanting to get hitched. Human beings are born to procreate. Be proactive about your dating lives! Truth is, it is much more practical to attend social events and get to know more single friends then to sit around and wait for a life-partner to drop onto your lap!

7. The Fear of Commitment
   This phobia is the inability or unwillingness to share their life with someone else or resolve their past hurts. While it can be a valid and emotionally debilitating phobia, a lot depends on whether the single in question recognizes the phobia for what it is. Once they do face up to it, there are life coaches, counselors, self-help books, forums and informative websites that singles can turn to for help. The trick, as always, is to first recognize that you do have that problem.
8. No Money to Date
   The financially insecure among us will lament: “No money to buy expensive dinners, how to date?” or “No money to doll up, how to impress anyone on a date?” Well, the good news is dating is about having fun. There are many ways to have fun without spending a lot of money. Sometimes, fun is all about looking into each other’s eyes, sharing a laugh or a moment together.
9. Too Busy
   All drained after a hard day’s work and too caught up with other commitments to find time for romance? Find the well-spring of strength and stamina that is inside everyone. Being busy not just a Singaporean affliction. The youth in Hong Kong work as hard as Singaporeans and their lifestyles are as stressful as ours. But they adopt a work hard, play harder mentality which makes them such a vibrant population.

   Their singles still make the time and effort to date. The question is: How much is companionship worth to you?

10. Haven’t met someone suitable yet
    There are 600,000 singles out there in Singapore. If I had a dollar for each single out there, I would be very rich. I am sure you can find one among the 600,000 whom you can relate well with. But are you making the effort to meet them?

Source: asiaone

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I got my semester results last week, but just had no time to write an entry about it. I’ll just share alittle about my results and results of people around me! 

My grade point average (GPA) for this semester is 3.0. It’s been a stressful semester with final year project. Actually not really. I felt stressful because of the last minute work! I cannot promise myself, but I will try not to do anymore last minute work! My cumulative grade point average wasn’t much affected by my GPA though.

Let’s move on to my peers

To hell with Jonathan: he worked hard enough and got himself another GPA - 4. Note - another. 4 times GPA 4.0 and once GPA 3.9?

Edwin Ang didn’t do badly too! GPA of 1.75 isn’t that bad, right? At least he passed all his modules. And, he’s damn satisfied and happy, lah! In case you didn’t know, SP stands for Sure Pass. Thats why no one should fail.

That german friend of mine (Adolf) achieved GPA 3.64 this semester, which I helped raise his cumulative alittle. He’s targetting an A for internship, which is achievable. Good luck. I mean: you should work hard too!

Shermian felt that a ‘C’ shouldn’t appear in her results this semester. Sadly, she didn’t thank me for being her supportive friend. (LOL!) =(

My ex-wife (Qiuhui) thinks GPA 3 is an achievement (I think so too!). She added on that 3 is her highest GPA ever (highest for me too -.-)

fishy (siiyu) blogged that her GPA remained stagnent. To go university, you need money. SIM or overseas. Worth considering? (I can talk to you if you need someone to talk to. You’ve been emo lately, girl!)

Nathaniel thinks that GPA 3.3 isn’t good enough as his group has done more than other groups! Try harder next time?

Congratulations, Cara! You’ve done well this time. Keep on working hard okay! I’ll push your boy if we get to work in the same company for internship! (I wonder how Belinda fare)

With current semester’s GPA of 3.944, ur-dex (aka Bing Huan) is wondering how he can push his cumulative GPA to 3.5 from current 3.2. Only way is to find a time machine, I think.

Siewling wrote that she got an A for her ITP, but didn’t mention anything about her GPA. Maybe it’s some high but unsatisfied value. =)

How to improve?

Friends, I’ve got tips for you. Please share this with your friends.

• Wake up early and don’t be late for classes.
• Listen during lectures. Don’t fall asleep. Leave the chats to break time. SMSes are fine, but limit them.
• Participate during tutorials.
• Practicals are hands-on, so use your hands, NOT mouth.
• Work on your projects/assignments early. Don’t start last minute.
• Don’t know, must ask. Remember this.
• Be nice to your lecturers. You know why. Remember there’s something called class participation.

I think I should write an entry to help students study better. HAHAHAHAHAHA! (I didn’t do well, so I doubt it’ll be helpful.)

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