My family don’t understand me; I’m very upset.
I’m really very sad. Very disappointed with my family.
Let’s put it this way. I’m from a Malaysian (Johor) family but I study in Singapore. I’m very happy on weekdays I live at the hostel. I got to live my own life without much limitations. Back home, I’ve got to stick to a 7am wake up life. Dad works early, so we have to eat breakfast early. That’s why I’m always needing sleep during weekends.
I was scolded for sleeping late and not having enough sleep and looking like a drug addict. If only I’m so stupid to indulge myself in drugs; purely not my style. I don’t know why my parents cannot understand that I perform better during late nights when it’s quieter and peaceful and when no one makes any noise. Or maybe it’s because not everyone has an early-wake-up-lifestyle like mine.
How about my recent building reusable components (brcom) assignment? I just don’t understand what teacher taught. Tell me I didn’t listen in class, but they all sound so foreign. I’ve already tried my best sourcing for tutorials online, reading textbooks and asking around but nothing helped much. The only way I can go about doing, is by understanding it myself and my partner.
My parents also spend time doing other unimiportant stuffs and that I should prioritise. God’s sake. I’m in poly and I’m sure there’s more than just studying I can do. Perhaps blogging is another thing I waste time doing - No, I’m very happy maintaining my blog. felixker.com is just like my home. Somewhere not myself, but my feelings reside.
Besides the current assignment I’m trying to complete, I’ve still got two (three)Â other assignments on hand. All are due end of July. So much work, so little time.
I just hope my parents can understand me better. Many things are just beyond my control.
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Actually, having been a son and now a father, I realise the perspective is two-way: Not only should parents try to understand the children better, the children should try to understand the parents too.
I guess your father’s working hours quite long since he wakes up so early. I think your father works quite hard to support your poly course and living expenses in Singapore. Since you stay in hostel during the school days, the only time your father can see you is during breakfast time. Many traditional Asian parents find it hard to express their true feelings to their children. I think your dad just misses you and didn’t know how to express those feelings. I mean, I think you would find it weird if your dad becomes emo and talk to you about feelings all of a sudden!
I share with you my personal entry and you may have a new perspective.
Cheer up. =) Like you said, there are many things beyond your control, but I believe you have done whatever you can to be a good son. At least I THINK that you do not abuse the freedom that you’re entitled to and that’s a great thing you have done to your parents.
Trust me, give it some time and things will get better. And just buzz me if you do need any help, SQ is always here. =)
hi felix,
i’m a JB girl who studies in SG too. i often feel the way u do, too. my family is very much like urs - they keep regular hours, and somehow, think that everything i do is pointless or time-wasting.
i used to study in a university in singapore. but because i hated the course, i quit school, and went for a course in a private institution. because of this, my mother often uses un-nice words like ‘failure’ to me, and i feel like they don’t understand me. i have been doing very well in my current school - straight As n all. but apparently it doesn’t really matter because i ‘failed’ once, by quitting uni.
well my point is this: u cannot let other people get u down. even if ur family doesn’t understand u at this point in time, one day they will. so continue to work hard at school, and try to compromise a little by keeping to their hours when u’re home from the hostel. i moved home when i started school at this private uni, and i had to try to change my lifestyle n habits to suit my family’s. altho i can’t really do it (yes i agree with u abt being able to work better at nite, cos our TV is perpetually switched on at home in the day time), i try to make up for it by not talking back to my mom regarding this when she nags at me for waking up at 1pm on days that i dont have school. i also try to help her with some chores, etc.
all the best in ur studies!
There has been countless private/MNC/GLC/Gov projects about making reusable code, all of which have mostly failed. Reasons being:
1) There is no such thing as reusable code.
2) Good programmers rarely reuse, they prefer to rewrite.
3) The base platforms change very fast.
Maybe your family understands this, and they are trying to let you know….
@Cobalt Paladin : I commented at your blog. Thank you!
@SQ : *smiles*
@Daphne Maia : So we have an ‘almost’ alike life. I left lots of my details out, but it’s fine. Thanks, and wish you success too! Cheers!
@Harro! : I’ve got no choice. Teacher makes us learn, and makes us do. I don’t see a purpose, but just to pass the module and move on. (: