By
Felix Ker on April 18, 2007
This is not a very tough question. It can be a tough question too, depending on the girl. Everyone has a different character, thus it’s impossible to know if the girl is interested in you by just following the points below.
If she’s not interested in you…
- She NEVER initiates contact with you, be it on MSN or sms.
- She is uncomfortable with light touching for eg. playful punching or nudging.
- She cancels dates with you without proposing a make-up date.
- She does not even agree to go out with you and does not suggest alternative timings.
- She pours out all her emotional baggage to you. (When not together yet.)
- She takes a long time to reply your sms or may not even reply.
- She playfully call you her brother.
- She talks about other guys to you.
- She is indifferent towards you.
- No matter how hard u try to impress her, she just ignore u.
- She never want to look at your eyes, or stay any minute with u and would find uncomfortable with u around.
- She will not engage in open communication with you
- She makes up stories for not wanting to meet you
- She keeps things about herself from you.
- She is self absorbed and preoccupied with her own life which does not include you.
- She rarely initiates a call or sms to you.
- When you ask her out for a date, she’ll ask, “who’s going?”
- You buy expensive gifts for the girl, she thanks you very politely and tells you not to spend so much money on her or that there is no need to even buy her a birthday gift.
- If you invite her to concert or expensive dinners, she tells you that she is not free almost immediately.
That’s almost all, but this doesn’t apply to all girls. You must know that some girls are generally too shy to express their love for you.
Guys, although it’s the 21st century, I feel it’s only right for the guy to take initiative.
Whats your opinion?
Category: Love & Relationship
Tagged: girl, girlfriend, Love & Relationship, relationship
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Heya i am for the first time here. I found this board and I find It really useful & it
helped me out a lot. I hope to give something back and help others like
you helped me.
funny to know that all of us here having problems about a girl we love.
well I have a problem too.
well I’ve just read these words from google too. and it helps me somehow. here it is:
“you just have to lay back and accept the fact that you can’t get what you want all the time.
…and it makes life beautiful”.
its so hard to accept the fact that you can’t get what you want all the time but its all there is sometimes it is easier to accept the truth.
Its kinda hard to accept the fact “that you cant get what you want all the time” when you cant get what you want ever! and your life is shit and you know your going no where and you are going to end up alone.
Problem : Well..I am in love with this gal from my medical school..She actually had a couple of failed relationship before but single at the very moment..We are god friends and even did our evening classes together which i arranged and she approached me to do it..well we had a pact to inform each other every thing that will be declared regarding college classes..and both of us actually follow it..initially she was just a friend,but now i started to like her..its being 2 years now and i could not say that to her,partly because i am too shy,secondly because her mom is a friend of my mom and lastly i fear if she refuse the friendship will end..Well,i have never been too vocal and friendly with gals throughout my life and has been a complete geek..so i cannot even decipher if she likes me or not and wanna me to take her out on some date..she smiles at my jokes and when i compliment her,she laughs and also tells me am a good man..and even goes overboard revealing that she is into alcohol(she tells me that her mom dont know about it) and when her grand ma had a surgery she herself told me how she felt bad and how close she was to her grandma..but most of the time the chatting is over facebook and sms…because rarely we do get time in college to really sit together,but one or two ocassions we did we chatted for hours..but these may be common among friends too and since i had never ever had a girlfriend before i really feel at sea whther its just friendly or she likes me..her mom is afriend of my mom too and that what makes me even more jittery to ask her out..many a times she is the one to start the chat in facebook and delve away from study gossips to other things..She takes my compliments and well laughs a lot at my compliments and even sends me compliments like nice man and good man and i respect your determination etc and suggest me this and that brand of liquoir and when quizzed tells me she has no bf.She once told me she had a crush on a certain senior but when i replied that senior was married(obviously i was jealous) she told me marriage cant be naice and i replied in affirmative..She praised me when i baked cakes and that was the last time she ever talked about a guy she likes to me..She has a couple of good female friends and a couple of male friends all of whom are engaged..she texts me now and then about classes on her own but when probed further just reminds me of the pact we actually had.She evn tells me her career goals..but as i said before i am still sceptical to take the plunge because i dont wanna end this friendship and also riun our mom’s friendship too..but this is probably the last year we have in graduation in college and next we will move into different Post grad courses and we wont ever be so close again..so i really want an honest opinion what to do…because am all but exhausted pondering the right path..Thanks in advance:)
I’m only a freshman in highschool. I met this girl in 8th grade, I’ve liked her ever since the beginning of the year, we now go to different highschools, so the only communication I have with her is facebook, there are a few things that bug me about that, 1. She can easily find a boyfriend before I see her again
moving on is not an option, especially at the school I go to :/
2. Some of those reasons listed above are true, I believe its the sms one, although she did tell me she is shy.
3. I don’t even know if she likes me back, I wonder how to figure it out since I can only chat with her online
tel her man!!
i met a girl at one of my mates parties. i was being the alpha male of the party be far. Some of my friends were being mean to her but so was i but in a funny way. all at once she yells out that she hates my mate and likes me. As the night is going we talk and shes always around me, all my buddies are saying fuck her man shes in to you but im not that kind of guy. I like the game but im a relationship type of guy so i just left it to talking.
Then the unexpected happened she gives me her phone and asks me for my number. i give it (i think a little to easy), she texts me 2min later. your the biggest guy here. I replied can you handle it. she says “yes!!!!”.
As that was going on my mate was being a dick to her and she wanted to leave to some TED guys party. she left 5mins after( asked me twice to go with her) but im not giving up me mates.
4 days go buy i texted her and we chatted all day, asked her out for a casual drink but she had practice till 11pm witch i know she was not lieing becasue my female friend did the same sport the year before, she tells me to text her tomorrow.
tomorrow– i wait till 4pm start texting her for about two hours then i ask how about that drink? she said she cant becasue her room mate was in a bad mood she had to hang out with her. i text her – well now im just mr.bad timing eh ahahha, give me a text on the weekend and ill see if i can fit you in.
do you think i have any chance or is shes saying fuck off in a nice way.
Meh, this is just my opinion but, who knows everyone is different. But if my roommate was in a bad mood, and someone I really liked wanted me to hang out, I’d still be with my roommate, but probably not for the whole time. And usually as well if someone really likes you but cannot make it that day, usually I’d think they’d come back and say well I should be free at such and such a time. That’s how it has usually worked with me. But there is like you said bad timing. The first incident I know you can write off. It was no excuse what so ever, so if she does it again a third or fourth time without trying to make it up, then I doubt she is really into you, probably just a casual acquaintance or good friend, or may be she’s scared as well about leading you on? There could be a lot of things, next time ask her if she is free anytime during the week, and if still comes up with something then I am pretty sure she doesn’t think anything more than friends. If you really want to be near someone you like, u wil find time to fit them in, even if its only for 5 minutes of their company.
i liked a girl in my colg, i was a sophomore and she ws a freshmen..at her freshers party i gave a rose, she dint knew it was commin…okay after then i passed out i dint even speak to that girl for like 3 yrs…
now, after passing out from my colg., i send her a text tellin her that that rose thing was not meant in a disrespectful way, from dat day its been 7 months v are chattin only chattin.
she said she had a very bad relationship and cant b in one right nw, she only text she calls me but tells me over text that she couldnt speak to me, or meet me in personal bcoz she says shes afraid..
i keep reminding her from time to time that i lyk her n ol…i dont knw what she thinks of me, i really like this girl, but what can i do, if she doesnt want me to call her, or meet her…i’m startin to hate her for these kind of things.
She’s using you dude,.. Be careful and don’t put your hopes up for her,..
I like a girl in my school. She smile twards me and i also.its in only three days,i wants to purpose him but i fear that if she reject me then whats about my emotions. Pls tell me what i will say to him. 9982146525 .
I met this girl about 2 months ago and I was pretty sure she liked me. She went on a 2 dates with me and we seemed to have a good time. After the second date I feel as though I messed things up and this is how… I haven’t kissed her yet and had I some opportunities, but failed to do so. Yes, I know… I’m a pussy for not kissing her yet. I just get really intimidated in the moment and wimp out. I want to kiss her really bad too. So I tried setting up another date and I told myself I was going to kiss her on the 3rd one. She said she might be able to hangout this weekend but didn’t know yet, because of softball. I texted her again and had a great conversation and she said she would text me back the next day and hasn’t the past 2 days. Should I text her? Do you think its over and should just give up?
Ugh this is what is wrong with you please talk to her…. As me being a girl most of the time we ARE afraid to talk to you. Just talk to her.. she could be busy.. Don’t give up if she hasn’t aid anything. But don’t be so annoying… don’t text her every second if she doesn’t respond she is either busy or ignoring you. Talk to her like you would a friend. And just because you didn’t kiss her doesn’t mean she doesn;t like you. Sometimes we don’t want to be kissed right away.. We want that perfect first kiss with the boy she likes.
GOOD LUCK- MEEE
p.s. JUST BE YOU…AFTERALL HATS WHY SHE DATED YOU
I like a girl in my school. She smile twards me and i also.its in only three days,i wants to purpose him but i fear that if she reject me then whats about my emotions. Pls tell me what i will say to him. 9982146525
Little advice most girls are like you with the kiss we’ll wimp out I guess you could say because we don’t want to be the one to screw up but don’t ask why she hasn’t called
I like this girl. she’s different. we have too much in common, we laugh , have eye contact a LOT, we think in the same way about a lot of things, i like being around her, she touches me a lot when we’re walking. the thing is, when we are not together shes diferent, she talks too little over the phone or facebook, but i think she does that to every person. i should mention i got out of a 2 yr long relationship 2 months ago, and she almost the same . sometimes i think she’s into me sometimes i dont, i mean when you are into someone you like to talk over the phone, you try to have lots of contact. well she doesnt and i dont contact her because i dont wanna seem too needy wich i am not, i just wanted to get some more attention from her. help
Look, bro. I have the same problem as you. So i would recommend you, text her once in 3 to 4 days, the same with calling. Yeah, you will need for her to invest in you, not the opposite way around.
How do you make her invest on you, make her scratch your back, give you a massage, cook for you or cook together. Get physical with her. Play some sports with her, but be the same team. This kind of girl is rare and special, she rare to lie to you. She is the kind of girl that is only for one man, so she also afraid to give herself to you. So that way, she is attract to you when you are around, but when you not she acts very uninterested towards you. She usually falls in love with guy who is dominant, spontaneous, passionate man, who has his life handle.
hey guys, i really need your help for this. i met this girl around 3 weeks prior to this comment, a friend of mine introduced us at this party event in uni (the reason was because we do the same course together). anyways, the thing is i never really thought about it until after i’ve talked to her over facebook, and she seems like an awesome person. we’ve only been communicating over facebook (with the exception that i saw her on the bus and we talked all the way to our lecture). the thing is she shows all the “signs” that say that a girl likes you (i.e. replies are in reasonable length, has “haha” or a smiley in every reply, laughs at my jokes(even when not funny), and she thinks i’m really smart). the question i have is, is she just being nice or does she geniunely like me? if so, what should my next move be?
thanks for reading guys, some help would be much much appreciated.
I’m well pissed off i asked out this girl. she took years thinking about it and said no. Then she decided to start go oh thx bbe an shiz like tht. Mate don’t worry she might like u but don’t leave i to long before u ask her out because she won’t want to go out with u because u will be great friends and if tht happens u have got a 3 in 10 chance mate. so try not to be gay about it and ask her out. I know it didnt work for me but it might for u.If people laugh at u just say well least ive got the balls to ask someone out. go for it guy.
I am leaning towards one direction but i want to make sure I’m just not trying to put something there that is not. I met this girl a little over a month ago. The first few days were really great, a lot of contact by phone and in person. Then she cancelled a dinner date, I’m separated in the waiting for the finalization date, and she knows this- I was up front with her when I talked to her and asked her out, she said a big yes by the way. She mentioned she was out of a LTR of three years not too long ago and was not looking for a relationship, (which i told her right now i couldn’t either until the finalized but was interested in building a good friendship that had potential for more in the future) and she didn’t want to complicate my life right now any more than it is. I called her the next day and she sounded relieved that i called and told me several times that she was glad I called. At that point I thought I was in the “friend zone”, the next day she started texting me and she invited me out to lunch, which was great, complete eye contact, always smiling and laughing. We normally text, a lot of
and 
and no really short answers though it does take sometimes a long time for her to respond, but she will initiate conversations too, especially if we had not talked for a couple of days. We have hung out a few more times, always good eye contact and laughing. Nothing physical has happened, which is fine for now pending my situation. Long story short this week things have seemed to jump forward but I keep recalling that conversation where she said shw wasn’t looking for a relationship. She kept hinting at that she wanted to hang out, so we had lunch on Friday. Things went really well, she offered me to try some of her food using my fork which I had already been using, I offered to go get another fork, her response was that she didn’t care. I then took it up a notch and we both shared a dessert off the same bowl. She offered three different things we could do togerher to hang out, and one of the things I sugested i got a “Hell Yeah” before I could even finish. The next day was pretty much quiet, then Sun. I cooked her some food and brought it to her. We talked for an hour in the hallway, great eye contact, smiles, laughing at dumb jokes, and messing with her hair and kept touching her mouth and had some nervous energy. The next day she textd me and we talked on and off all day, telling me over and over how good my food was. We missed a connection for lunch that day but she mentioned next time I go to that restaurant she wants to go. The next day, she called me out of the blue and left me a message, basically to say goodmorning, told me a little about what she was doing, wished me a good day, and that she was calling to say hi. I did not call her back right away, i was sleeping from working overnight, she did not answer when i called back. I later called her and caught her on the way out to work, she told me she was napping when I called her back, we talked for a little bit, ok conversation but she gets bad service, so garbled too. So I’m beginning to think that there is the potential for more there and she is interested, but as I mentioned that whole “not looking” conversation. She hsa been completely honest with me, no questions about that. Am I out of the “friend jail” or she is just being friendly?
Hi! I need some help! I’m in a relationship that doesn’t make me happy! It’s the second time when I’m in a rel with this guy. He’s my ex, last summer we were together and my prnts didn’t agree and we broke up. Now they don’t know about him and we have a rel at distance. The point is that I realized that he doesn’t deserve me. I just read the 45 things that a girl wants and I figured out that he doesn’t act like that. I need someone to treat me right. To admit it, he’s under my standards, I know I deserve better that this. He NEVER has time for me, and I’m serious about that, like never never and I just want someone to make me happy. I ask too much? I just don’t understand why guys don’t see the real me. I’m nice, polite, beautiful, smart,friendly and I can cook.
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I think I would be such a good gf but it seems like my prince doesn’t come 
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Cough* Cough* Self-centered whore.
I agree with you mate.
Me too.
Ok, I am looking for someone EXACTLY like you! Now, the places I meet girls are mainly in class, but a lot of the girls are focused on learning rather than dating. I suggest that you find someone to study with in class, or in a co-ed educational institution where you may find someone that can study with you. Like you said, you can cook; thinking ten steps ahead, you can make dinner when you bring him over to study! Use your attributes to your advantage, as they emphasize what type, and kind, of person you are. And this is a win-win situation, because if school is uninteresting for you, then said “guy” will MAKE things interesting. Also, bringing a guy home from your class to study puts a good rep in for your parents. And I can’t seem to figure this out, but girls never consider a man who their parents will like; YES this is a free country and there is rarely any honour killings in North America, but the guy has to be your parents son-in-law…. don’t you want your boyfriend/husband/companion/common-law to make your parents proud? And you can also rate the guy based on his academic success about how much he cares about things that are important to him. If he achieves high grades in school, then he cares a lot about his future because it is IMPORTANT. SO, if you happen to start a relationship with said “guy,” wherein you confirm that you are both mutually attracted to each other, then he will care about you A LOT in correlation to his good grades, academic achievements and success. Try and go for the guy that keeps to himself, but every now and again tries to start a conversation with people that sit around him in class. This suggests that said “guy” doesn’t have a lust for power or control over things, i.e. will not control you in the relationship. There’s a lot to consider for women, as now they have become equal in most of contemporary societies around the world. Women always want guys that neglect them, that treat them wrong. Why? Because its our innate human nature to always want what we cant have; to want someone who doesn’t want you. As a women, you have to break that law of attraction, which I have seen done, and find a man that will make you happy. Also, a more formal contextualization of finding your “man” can go like this. Theory, theorizing is within a larger spectrum of inquiry. Now, what does this mean? It means you have to think about what you want; when you see a cute guy, don’t approach him right away. To meet “the one,” a woman must stalk a man they are interested in, this means on almost a daily basis, so a classroom, workplace, or frequent community gatherings are best, a woman must stalk their said “prey.” Yes, gather information about the man, what his interests are, his grades in school, former sexual/intimate relationships, personality, and his immediate friends. I must say, to judge a man, look at his immediate friends, that is an awesome way to find out what a guy is really all about. Because a man’s friends portray who he is interested in communicating with within his milieu. I know this is probably a lot for you to think about, but contemporary men are depreciating due to being raised improperly by modern family households. If you ARE SERIOUS ABOUT FINDING YOUR MAN, this is the way you will have the highest probability in finding him. Remember to theorize how he will interact with you, your family, your milieu, and who he really is. A lot of these guys, not to be conceited but I would say I am one of them, suggesting that I am a very caring, smart, extremely honest and intelligible man myself, are not guys you normally find chasing after you, or trying to sit next to you. NO. These types of guys, the presumed “one,” i.e. your soul mate, is around you, but not clearly visible at first glance. In order to find him, you must use unbiased observation to weed the good ones out. Think of these men as guys who are not worried about finding the right girl, because they know their honest and sincerity will do it for them… Remember, learn to use and master observation. Only then, will you find said “guy.”
Dude, she just wants to get over her guy by getting on you….. let it happen. she just wants a **** buddy right now. better do it before someone else does
Guys gimme a help here:
I received a letter with the number of a girl i found really pretty; we talked alot via SMS and we even ended up spending whole nights speaking on the phone, she was always telling me beautiful words, asking me to call her and so on; n also the 1st time we met she was always looking at my eyes and my lips, always smiling and playing with her hair…
But SUDDENTLY, she started ignoring me; she keeps saying im a bad boy to her; the last time i met face-to-face with her..3 random guys appeared and she gave them full attention (and when i walked away, she told to me to stop being bad to her?! WTFF???)); etc etc…she no longer initiates conversations nor calls me….All I know is that she told me once that she likes to see boys “suffering” a bit for her…and while this may seem something strange, she’s a really cool girl…but at the same time, a bit immature i guess?
This doesn’t look like as “suffering”…seems much worse now =.=”
IDK what to do, nor if she still likes me or not….help plz? =3 Is this some hard-to-get immature game?
Could be she was interested in you, showed signs and you didn’t respond so she lost interest. Giving full attention to three other random guys could have been a test to see how you would handle it or she could be an attention seeker of men? In my opinion she was kind of disrespectful to you if the two of you were out and she ignores you while giving three random guys her full attention. You wrote that she told you that she likes to see men suffer for her? Sounds like a game player to me. Do you really want to be a pawn in one of her games? She sounds like the type of woman who will jump ship when someone better comes along or gives her the attention she desires. Games are for children. Let her play games with other suckers while you move on and find a woman who doesn’t play games.
((Replying to both answers))
To make something clear here…I’m 16 and she’s 14; There are 18-20 years old guys that give her their numbers or ask her her number.
In front of me, she never accepted any of them; and she also told me she normally never gives out her number… (which, as i mentioned be4, i got it from a letter =3…); But how do I know if she doesn’t act like this to everybody else? =3
I do hate ppl that like to play with other’s sentiments or playing immature games such as the “hard-to-get” game..but this teen just caught my eye for some reason; so, in order to check if she was a decent girl i tried something out xD… I acted like I a “weak” guy, and watched how she’d react to it, would she make a move and indirectly tell me to not give up?…Well, i kinda got the same sh1t…still ignores…
BUT, every time I’m with her she acts really nicely to me; she constantly asks me to dance; plays with my hair; crosses eyes and so on..but the fact is that every time I’m with her, our parents are near! And every time I want to start a conversation and ask her out, she ignores me! I won’t kiss her in front of my parents but I really don’t know if I should keep trying…
Im not an ultra high-confident man, but duh, I look at myself as a pretty guy according to what girls say; i’ve been trying to get a better attitude but it isn’t that easy, since I’m a natural shy guy… (so much off-topic, but i wanted to share some more info)
If she lost the interest, is there any way I can get it back?
Important stuff to have in consideration:
PROS
-got a letter xP
-she showed me loads of interest 2 weeks ago (as I mentioned: looking at my lips, playing with hair; asking to dance; “sleeping –like” near me -> she than changed when I wanted to move on..)
CONS
-24/7 ignore
-A lot of the stuff she does with me, she also did with the other 3 guys
-She fcking keeps telling me I’m a bad guy since day 3-4!!! I don’t know why…
PROS+CONS+parents = Mind-Blown
I AM STUCK and I want this girl badly!!!
(ty for the help u guys have been giving me, I’ll try to get u guys up-dated with stuff until I actually make “the last move”..
I had the exact same thing happen,but I think it’s just because girls tell each other everything and I think she may of found out what I done with some other girl,so that’s probably the reason but It wasn’t sex just fingered her so it isn’t even bad
Im a girl and I’ll admit, that is really weird. Did you maybe do something that she found out about that made her think that you are a “bad boy”??
just remember… women need men more than men need women. Allow me to elucidate. The hormone element called “estrogen” that resides in the female body is driven by emotional and sexual tendencies. Where GUYS HAVE TESTOSTERONE! The greatest hormone known to humankind. It allows you to build muscle, and release sexually stimulating odours to the opposite sex I.e. women. What I am biologically saying is, DO NOT WORRY! THIS HAS HAPPENED TO ME SO MANY TIMES! 9 times out of 10, when i showed i was mature and that I didn’t care when said “girl” was trying to make me jealous, they came crawling back to me. Remember, as a man, as an historical authoritative figure within global empowerment, as the presumed DOMINANT SEX, do not fret my friend. I’m not going to be colloquial and say “there’s more fish in the sea,” what I will say is not to worry. Don’t show weakness. As the italians call them “fredo.” Meaning weak. Don’t show girls getting you down, start lifting weights, or begin a proactive activity wherein you metaphysically develop a better self understanding of yourself, and change your life. Don’t let one little, weak, dumb, bimbo get you down. As shakespeare states “Frailty thy name is woman,” in context to women being susceptible to male affiliated attraction. Just go find something you like doing, and be a pro at it. Chicks will follow….. trust me.
References- Personal experience chopping bitches
Empirical biological data.
Females are not weak!!!!!!
Play it back if she does this it means no ones every tried it with her
Ok ive know this girl for a while now we go out and txt alot i mean we dont talk by phone ever!.she says that she dosent like to talk by phone and our conversation are always by txt. Ge go out and everything is fine we talk like normal. Ive never tell her that i like her i dont know if she likes me or not, i mean some times i invite her out some time she ask me out, but the thing that shock me was that she told me one time that she was heart broken cuz a guy that she like was maried and he only wanted to get in her pants. By that time she broke my heart too jaja. I mean should i tell her how i feel. Everything is normal now she never again mention the guy. One more thing do you guys know if she posibly know that im into her i mean i do anything and everything for her. Thnx
You asked if we think she possibly knows that you are into her….Don’t know but she knows she can get you to do anything and everything for her. Stop doing anything and everything for her….unless you want to be a prisoner of the friend zone. Stop with the texting and call her. I bet if she had a boyfriend she’d be talking with him on the phone. At this point what do you have to lose but to tell her how you feel but be prepared for the worst. She may indeed already only see you as a friend and if the two of you become more then friends and break up she will no longer have you around to conveniently do anything and everything for her. My last advice…become a challenge to her. Stop texting or seeing her for awhile. See how she reacts. I have a gut feeling she only wants your friendship…but I could be wrong.
Thnx one more thing today she invited me to dinner to wish me good luck for a job intervew i have tomorrow i mean it was her treat. Does that means something?
Does it mean anything? Stop analyzing things and just go with the flow. It could be a friend treating a friend to dinner and dessert or it could mean she invited you to dinner and is going to have crazy sex with you afterwards. Seriously, this analyzing everything is just going to drive you crazy.
Thanx for your help im gonna take the jump i will let u know
I hung out with a girl for a little while who followed some of your rules, but not others, e.g. *never* initiated contact, poured out emotional baggage, cancelled our last date without proposing a make-up one. The weird thing is, for a little while, she went from taking forever to replying to my texts to replying to them almost instantly. She was also *incredibly* touchy. I could never interpret her signals because they were so mixed. Anyway, I have a CD of hers which I said I wanted to return; I said text me when you wanna meet up and never heard from her again. Maybe she liked me and I blew it, or maybe she’s just a serial flirt and got bored. I don’t wanna be a repository for her crap though, so do I just mail her CD back/dump it in her letterbox? Or hold onto it and forget the whole issue?
Me and my girlfreind just got together and she’s a very shy
kind of girl but whenever I hang out with her she always brings her friend
and I talk to her on Facebook and she tells me she wants me to kiss
Her then why I try she goes and talks to her friend????
Hold on to it and forget the whole issue. Perhaps she started replying instantly to your text messages because she was having problems with another man in her life? Mixed signals or just stringing you along. Obviously the CD or meeting up with you again soon isn’t that important to her if she never responded. Move on.
How do I know she is interested in me,, she act’s really calm around me, when her brother says a bad joke she immidiately looks at me, & she is older than me, & she isn’t shy around me almost anyone… Looking forward 4 ur help
well i asked this girl for her number , she gave it to me and now she allways takes long to text back .. it makes me think what was the point in giving me her number in the first place
She could just be busy, or it could mean that she’s not interested. Talk to her in person, but don’t mention anything about the late replies.
You know what? That’s what I’m experiencing right now. I ask her number, she gave it to me. After knowing that I have a crush on her, she never get interested in me anymore. I think I should stop thinking about her, cause it’s just a waste of time. Why you waste your time on someone else who’s not interested in you? I think the best thing to do is to forget that person.
Agree with me Bro?
mate i am have the same thing wtf ? init
hay im 18 and iv been talking to this girl for about a month or two now flirting with her non stop. iv told her id do anything i could for her, she asked me if i know some one with horses and i did so i took her down there to ride well that night we went up to the park here in town and a couple of my buddys were there. well one smokes so she didnt get close but than after a few min a seen she was just drifting away.. i came over and asked wat was wrong and she just said to go away… she did this several times.. well she went to walk home and i said id walk her back like i normaly do.. but she told me not to walk with her and to go away… than later that same night she txted me and said i was like sorry but ur like my brother and i just dont know wat to do anymore…
lol
ur in the ” friend zone ” lol
Ok i went out with this chick tonight. I was really into her i had a good time. i told her found her very attractive. She said your making me blush and she found me attractive too. then she said she was going to karoakee with her friends and i said well im getting a migraine im a head up. and then i told her have a good night im a take some meds and probably go to sleep on text. she ends with talk to you soon and leaves a smiley face. Talk to you soon means shes not interested right? She woul say talk to you tomorrow i would think. So i guess i should just leave her alone and just do my own thing. Or does talk to you soon not mean anything? To me shows dis interest. I would never say talk to you soon to a female if iw as interestd id say all talk to you tomorrow
she invited me to karaokee to meet her friends but i said im a head out and go home.
Your retarded
How long did it take you to come up with that Hazz? Your a clown.
How long did it take you to come up with that Hazz? You’re a clown.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with “Talk to you Soon” Sometimes I say that to people and even people I like. Soon could mean tomorrow, it’s hard to tell, but I dont think that thats a bad thing at all. You should probably hang in there and see if she puts up a bigger sign telling you if she likes you or not.
There’s a girl I met on my birthday in Jan. We went bowling with a group of friends in March where I drove her home, then she took me out for dinner in April where I did the driving again. So we only met 3 times, but I really liked her and told her my feelings, only to my disappointment. Reasons: she’s older than me, and she wants someone older than her and to be more secure and mature. Can’t really help it.
We went bowling the day after I got rejected with a bunch of friends, and I drove her home again. The other day we went out for dinner again because she wanted to repay me for some translations that I did for her. Again, I went to pick her up. Our houses are about a 40min drive apart.
Her English isn’t up to scratch sometimes because she’s a non-native speaker, so what she says can be confusing. I took a few hints from her, or so I thought. She wanted to know what “I like you” translated to; she said I was sweet — so I asked her if I was — and she replies with, “I dunno, I haven’t tasted you before..”
I really didn’t know which way to take it. We used to text a lot, but now she takes a long time to reply so I take it that she’s trying to put some distance between us.
Problem with me is that I’m too much of a gentleman (I don’t like bragging, though) to let her go home alone etc, and she never says no, though she does hesitate when I say I’ll come pick you up. Dilemma much? I’m probably wasting my time.
It sounds like she only sees you as a friend. If you can deal with being just friends with her remain friends. But if you have feelings for her when she already told you she was looking for an older man, sticking around will just bring you heartache my friend.
At least she is repaying you back for your favors by taking you out to dinner, that’s cool. But don’t misinterpret her friendliness as anything more than it is or it will only cause problems between the two of you and ruin the friendship.
She may be putting distance between the two of you because she knows you like her while she doesn’t like you the same way. I’m thinking she doesn’t want to hurt or mislead you. Nothing wrong with having women friends as long as its a two sided friendship and neither have attraction for the other.
Thankyou for the post.
After I posted the above comment, I found out from my friends that she was allegedly four-timing me – apparently she has a bad history of doing it in the past and hence the reason for her being single. She doesn’t know what she wants, and juggles guys around to find the best one. So I wasn’t actually “out of the question”.
Some people would say that is totally appropriate, some would say otherwise. I just broke off the friendship and pretended I had never met her. ‘Twas easier said than done, though.
Oh…she’s one of those types of women who likes to keep four or five guys around in her life, stringing each one of them along. No doubt each one of these guys believes they have a shot at having a committed relationship with her, unaware that she has these other guys in her life.
I would bet that she is one of those women who dominate her relationships with her guy friends. She has probably been put on a pedestal by every guy in her life, so she gets away with acting like a bitch and being rude or disrespectful if she disagrees or has a misunderstanding with one of her guy friends. When this happens the unfortunate sap gets thrown to the back of the line, to sit in turmoil. The same thing will happen if one of these guys starts developing feelings for her.
Best stay away from this woman, she will use and abuse you. She knows exactly what she wants. Guys in her life who will do things for her and jump through hoops for her.
Yeah, I felt like she was just using me as her emotional punching bag. She always complains about things, worries too much, saying negative things.. not just to me, but to her girl friends as well, so I’m guessing she does it to the other guys too.
All I can say is that life is a whole lot smoother without someone “punching” me now
This is the result to societies misfortunate mistake: Women’s rights. In the eyes of what you have just said Dr. Luv, women’s rights was a huge mistake… before their rights were constituted, society was much more intelligible and rational. Now, everyone fends for themselves… Truly one of society’s BIGGEST mistakes.
I’ve known this girl for a few years as a friend. One night it seemed like we were starting to get closer. It felt like we both were feeling it. She called me two days later all excited about the great time she had.
That night I started to develop feelings for her but held those feelings in for a couple of weeks until we talked one night and I said “I enjoy your company and would like to spend more time with you and see where things go. She didn’t really respond. Not a good sign.
Finally after two weeks she said she had too much on her plate right now with her job and raising a daughter and didn’t want to deal with a relationship right now but wanted to still hang out and see where things go. Not a good sign again.
Fast forward 4 months later, where we started to spend a little more time together as friends I asked her if all she ever saw me as was just a friend, I said I needed to know because it would make things a lot more easy and comfortable and she didn’t reply.
Should I just move on or should I just go with the flow? Last time we talked she started mentioning things I do that bug her. I’m guessing this could be her way of saying I annoy her and we are just too different to attempt any kind of relationship???
I do have feelings for her and would hate to end a friendship but I know as a friend with feelings I don’t want to see her with another guy, which tells me I really can’t be friends with her. Help!
A lot of these are false, especially if it’s a shy girl like me. Some girls wait for guys to make the first move. Or she’s pretending not to like a guy because she thinks he’s too good for her (story of my life). xD This might be a guide about an open girl, but not one that’s an introvert.
i love a girl since 6 years and she is elder than me by 2 years.but she is my best friend sister.so i control my feelings.we were like best buddies.she used to tell me all her problems(only problems) .now she was job less.i gave her a nice job through my reference.she is alone here now.her family is staying outstation.her brother left her at my responsibility.last week i proposed here,but she told me that i am her friend,and also she told that she is thinking of some1 else.now she stopped talking with me and doesn’t want to see my face.but i am living my life by watching her face only.just help me out i want her back in my life as my girlfriend.
heey man, you can get her back !
but first youve got to make the friends step !
youve got to get her back to be ur friend !
after that work on making her your girlfriend !
but try not to push her away by doing this dont make her hate u!
show her that u care about her and u can handle her !
i just dont know the girl so i just cant tell u what to exactly make with her but take it easy ! and remember always be who u are and have faith in who u are !
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right so i met this girl bout a month ago when her friend asked me for my number because she liked me.we started texting a lot and i met up with her that weekend i n the nightclub.things really clicked and we ended up kissing a good bit.week after same story lot of texting weekend met up again and kissed again she seems to be really intereseted in me.now the week after i ask her out she says she cant that night ok its possible.so i text her a bit more during the week but now shes not replying so i wait a few days and then just ask her if she is still interested i get a reply and she says she is she just been busy.i go out that weekend again and end up meeting her again we hang out for about 2 hours end end up pasionatly kissing again.we talk the next day laugh and joke around on the phone no problems.next day i ask her out again no reply.i dont know what to think because she seems really into me but she keeps coming up with excuses during the week and giving me the cold shoulder.really like her and like this to grow but have a feeling shes just playing me
this doent apply to me at all………… i guess im just shy. and when a guy buys me something i usually dont want to take cause i feel im not that important for him to waste his money on!!!…………sorry.
U r sooo worth it!! Yes, u may feel this way, but girly, you should love urself!!! Then you will feel confidence and ur already halfway to getting a bf!!! Trust me, ur worth it!!!
i know this girl at work since 3 months.she is very reserved,serious kind of professional.Good looking and very smart and very indivualistic.She gave a good eye contact first 2 times we bumped into each other and smiled.I smiled back and said hi.we had good first introduction in the first week at a common event,she was asking lot of questions,seemed very interested,laughed a lot and after1hr,said it was nice meeting me and left.Then for next 2 weeks it was just hi,how are you stuff since we work at different place and in between she came for coffee upon my request.we both get a bit nervous unless we have someone else with us.
I felt very strong feeling that she is intersted only cos of her body language and constant eye contact.I was careful about each other cos it is workplace.she seems to smile and come nearby me,only when i ignore her for few days(i have no idea why she does that).instead when i approach or msg,she doesnt respond or seem interested atleast by face expressions and her tone.
apart from me there is someone else who noticed taht she is interested in me by the way she leans over and constant eye contact and immediately turning her face when i catch her.
After 2 months,once she started looking and smiling,i took a chance and said i like her a lot and complimented about her .even though it was just 2-3 months we know each other and might be too soon to express,i was happy i did that to atleats let her know that i dont want to be a normal colleague or her common friend.
she said that i dont know anything abt her.and said she is not comfortable talking about that now.but later said thanks you think it that way but would like to keep things at work smooth.i said ok i will not disturb you more and left.next day she was beaming with big smile but i didnt return that back.i dont know why she was smiling,which she usually doesnt do.
after few days i asked her to have a short talk and she said that i dont know why you keep asking that and we are only colleagues.
Does that really mean she is not intersted in me or she wants me to try hard or give her some space?
i was thinking not to look or talk with her.
i just cant believe that her body language and eye contact had different meaning of what she is actually telling.
ThankYou
You see, THAT right there is a situation that becomes known as the “paradox” which means that the tell-tale signs of female attractions fall far from the truth. In other words, there are girls out there who are simply attention-seekers and manipulate those signs of attraction (i.e. eye contact and smile) to gain interest from as many men as possible. Believe me, I have just seen too many…
If what I have said so far seems to be utter nonsense, then try to see it from her perspective and you will understand. If you were interested in a guy and he asked you out, would you even hesitate to give a response? Think about it. From experience, I believe that any form of hesitant response from a girl can be taken as a sign that the girl is not as interested in you as first thought. Hope this helps.
Thanks Jay for the reply.Yes, i understand what you said and completely agree that she is just gaining interest from as many men as possible.
So now i was ignoring completely from last week with not even an eye contact(may be likewise from her as well) and she happend to see me with another girl at lunch.And i saw signs of jealousy and also she appeared around my seating zone,which didnt happen before…what would you do in a situation like this….how would you go about to mould this situation into your favor….keep ignoring or play smart?
have you tried to ask her why is she doing this?
tell her what you feel !
tell her that you feel that thing inside you when she stare at you ! when she smile, ask her is it a friendly thing or does she like you ?
try to ask her out if u really love her show her that u care if she rejected !
just keep talking to her and show her that you really like her !
she might like you and feel comfortable talking to u and tell u what she really feel !
Am sorry i can’t her you any further because i don’t know her personality
Zaid,
Thank you Zaid.That was very nice fo you.
I will say those things,next time i get a chance.Even though the delay which happended now might be a bad thing still will try to see what she replies.She is kind of a moderm peorfessional women,who is tough and serious from the outside.
i am a girl and all of this is completely bogus especially #1
So this female friend of mine invited me out with her, her girl friend, a guy friend and his guy friend. She was trying to set up her girl friend and guy friend. We went to the bar and had a good time, went to another bar when she started getting stumbling drunk. She asked if I wanted to play darts so I did. We never even finished the game as she staggered over to a table to talk to other people. I got kind of pissed. Like she was dissing me…and that she was so drunk.
We all went back to her place, I said something smart ass about her and her hill billy neighbors whom she hates and she erupted, screaming “get the hell out of my house”…I didn’t because I was too drunk to drive the 16 miles home.
After everyone left I asked her why she seems to have so much hatred or anger for me? We have been friends for 4 years. She really didn’t say much. So I took her in my arms and told her I didn’t want to fight with her, that she was one of my best friends and than inexplicably I leaned in and kissed her on the lips and told her I just want her to be happy whether I was in her life or not. Everything seemed cool after that.
The next morning we hung out, ate, watched movies with her daughter and then her guy friend called and she invited him over. After the phone call she said, “I’m sorry I should have asked you if that was okay” Not sure how to take that as it was her home and I’m just a friend.
Thing is the other guy came over at around 4:00 pm and stayed until 11:00pm. And the two of them seemed to get along better than her and I.
I almost felt like she wanted him to stay that long due to the kiss I gave her the night before???
Not sure if her and the other guy have ever been together intimately. She says he is just a good friend and she was setting him up with her best female friend. Do women set up guy friends they may have slept with, with their best female friends. I’m soooooo confused.
Screw these kinds of women. Find girls yourself. Take initiative. Its more productive to play video games at home rather than meet girls this way. Find your own way to facilitate chicks within your milieu.
I’ve known this woman for 7 years. Have had on again off again relationship/friendship. After a year apart we hooked up again as friends.
She is a single mother with a drinking problem and major anger issues. She can be sweet and at other times she can be mean at the drop of a hat. I feel like she doesn’t appreciate our friendship and that I’m just a convenience for her when shes bored…also when we talk on the phone I feel like I’m nothing but an emotional tampon to her. Should I remain friends at a distance. Hang around or just walk away.
A single mother whose an alcoholic and has major anger issues…! Here’s six words and sound advice: RUN AWAY AND NEVER LOOK BACK!
This woman undoubtedly has it tough enough being a single mother but throw in the anger issues and being an alcoholic, this is a very bad and toxic mix.
Hey doc, you miscounted
there were only five words but I completely agree.
So i met this girl, went on a date the next week and had a good time, lots of kissing etc. She text me the next day to say she had fun. We were meant to meet the next weekend for brunch and i text her to confirm 2hrs before but she said she wasn’t too keen on coming in to meet me (live 30mins away) due to the forecast of rain, suggested another time. I said fine and didn’t text her back again. She text me during the week and said she might be able to meet me if she was near by on the weekend and I said cool. We set a tentative date. She never contacted me to say she couldn’t come. Should i just cut my losses with this girl? She did text again today asking how was my weekend etc…
You are only 30 minutes away and she says she will meet you on the weekend IF she is near by? She canceled a date because of rain in the forecast. She doesn’t contact you to let you know she can’t make it?
Sorry dude, this woman sounds like she is playing you. She had a good time with you on one date with kissing…now nothing but lame excuses. Ignore her and let her come to you. If she doesn’t you’ve saved yourself lots of drama and let downs.
i really like this girl….sometimes she talks to me in a normal conversation with no smiley faces or anything…..sometimes she gives me a really big laugh….and i help her alot on her friends and sometimes she thanks me like this “thank you so much!!!”, “thanks for everything!!
” and sometimes i talk to her she just says “ok” with no emotion…and i think of something and mock her and finally she smiles at the end, and sometimes we have a smiling competition…. what does this mean??? pls reply
Find out more info then get back to me. I can’t tell from what you’ve said in your post. I need more detail.
agentorange
how about this, she talks to u normally and then she says “ok” and i say the same and after words she smiles. what sign is this, ohh and sometimes she talks with a “hahaha” and leaves a big laugh with a smiley face.
My situation is confusing, shes in her early 30′s and im 27. ive known her for about 2 months we met through a mutaul friend. ive been on 2 dates with her that went really well but most of the time we hangout with mutatl friends. we get along really well when we interact with one anohter. over the course of knowing her i tried the “hand test” lol and she didnt move her hand but whenever i directly flirt with her in person or via text she kind of ignores my come ons. she makes efforts to contact me somewhat often even if its asking about our mutaul friends so i know she has some kind of attraction to me. last night i told her how i felt about her and she said that shehad to think about it but shes flatterd regarless. what should i do?
Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 6 years now and I moved out for personal reasons we are still going out but it seems like she is not interested anymore she barely calls me and when I call her it seems she does not want to talk or if I can not go over there it is no big deal to her and she always miss are calls on friday and when I ask what happend on that day she tells me she fell asleep I do not know if she is lying or telling me the truth she has lied to me before about so I find it very hard to believe her any more can anyone help me.
Shes probably…sad to say…cheating or unintersested…i hate people like that
So I haven’t seen a female friend for two months. I haven’t been asking her to go out during the two months, I guess I’ve been backing off because I figured she had someone new in her life.
Anyway, she calls me last Friday and asks if I like to make some money. She needed someone to assemble an entertainment center, dinning room table and a TV stand. She said she’d supply the beverages and food.
Now what ran through my mind is we haven’t seen each other in two months and she calls me to do something for her and for money. Not sure if she offered the money so I wouldn’t feel like I was being used or not? Also didn’t feel comfortable taking the money from a friend but she did offer.
During the weekend she mentioned things like the next time we have a big dinner…or I can bring a change of clothes over and shower if I want… want…
There were a couple of red flags. She talked to her son on the phone for over two hours later in the evening, although she let me talk to him also…her 15 year old daughter even pointed out quietly to me that it was rude of her.
The other red flag was that she had Mt. Dew in her refrigerator. Now I know that is silly but she usually only drinks ice tea, bacardi and diet coke while her daughter drinks coke zero…perhaps she does have a guy in her life but he is too stupid to put things together for her or I am just a useful idiot???? Or perhaps she really missed me….nah?
Presently I am holding out to see if she will call me again just to talk and maybe make plans to get together in the future but I’m not holding my breath…Was I used or just helping out a friend????
dang dude, don’t think so hard. just chill and talk to other ppl see ho it goes, dnt let a girl use you, cuz they’ll tke and be gone next day.
i met this girl 4 3 years ago and i really liked her but still dont know why. i help her solve a lot of problems, some major some petty,been beside and comforted her thru 4 guys,at the 3rd which i told her how i feel about her but she friendzoned me. recently we are quite close ,closer than ever but then she just told me she had feelings for another guy( she thinks im over her). i myself dont know if i should be patience and continue to wait or just give up( i tried once but failed)
You can continue to be her friend and have to put up with all that nonsense if you want, but your not getting out of the friend zone or get a date with her that way, unfortunately. I know how that works all too well my friend. Your best bet at a date is to leave her and not come back and see if she really starts to miss you and wants a date with you. Good chance it won’t work, but its probably your only chance. And to be frank, I’d rather not be a friend and put up with all stupid garbage she puts you through. Your better off looking for other girls
I agree with Kory. It’s time to move on. If you want more from her, staying friends with her will just be hell.
bro i suggest you cut all contact with her for a while. I was in a similar situation. I stopped calling, txting this girl and when she tried to contact me i would be too “busy.” Long story short, i ended up hooking up with her and we are still friends to this day. women are weird. They dont know what they want but still like to be in control.
so me and this girl started talking she would always stare at me and smile when she saw me. she would always walk with me and stay near me. she would lean on my shoulder and stuff like that. one day my friend told her i liked her and i didnt know. so when she usally waits for me shes gone. so i go to lunch and her friend asks me so you think shes pretty. and before i can answer she comes over and covers her mouth. so then two days later my friend talked to me and said he talked to her and she said im a creep. she hasnt said none of this to my face. so two months pass and she still does everything she did before we just dont talk much anymore. so i just need help knowing if she likes me or not. i though she liked me at first but then as soon as someone tells her she acts completely different and calls me a creep. then after two months she does the same stuff she did at first when we met. she started talking to me but i dont bring it up. just need some help telling if she likes me or she dosent like me.
I can’t give a definitive answer man. She could be just “playing you”. Be careful about it, keep talking to her lightly and maybe throw in a subtle flirt or something and see how it goes. Don’t get too emotional or too heavily involved yet, that would probably end it
I like her truly and she likes another 100 guys. I just realized m just one of the other 100… They treat her like shit and i hate it. I’m lonely
Anyone else suffered this kind of a situation? Plz reply asap…!
If she has 100 other guys in her life I would move on.
I have been there man. I have been friend zoned way too many times to count. It’s not like I’m out of shape either.. 6 foot tall and probably 160 pounds.. I went 21 years before my first three dates and then it turns out I was just played for a 1-2 week relationship fling during college spring break
I am trying to court a girl. I gave her love letter, flowers, & chocolate. She just smile at me and leave no comment. But after an hour later, she text me that she don’t have feelings for me and l should look for another girl. It will be a waste of time if you pursue this.
Will I continue courting her? Will I not get hurt if I’m going to continue loving her? Please help me on this. I need your help. Please. Thank You.
I’d be really relieved if a girl I was courting gave me such clear signs of disinterest. I suggest just calling it off, and after a period of time when you feel better look for another someone.
Now, what about a girl who takes a long time to answer? I sent her an email and she takes *a month* to reply. Just when my interest has drifted off it comes back. She asked me what I did and I tell her I went with my friends and that we try new restaurants every week and, casually, asked her if she wanted to join us next time. So *a month later* she replies to my email “Let me think about it. xxx”. She already had a month, and she tells me she needs more time to think about it? I thought she was never going to reply after like 5 days, but NOOO, she replies after a whole month. I mean I wasn’t even seriously asking her to hangout (though of course I wouldn’t mind bring her along…) BUT WHY?! The sad part is, the more she does this the more I’m hooked. I can’t assume that’s the reason she is doing this either because it is dangerous but its just such a tempting connection to make…
Just my humble opinion. Ask for more.
She’s not interested man, and nobody can tell you why. It’s best not to sit back and analyze it because it will tear you apart, believe me, I have tried to over analyze things.
Look for other girls man
Mate,
There’s nothing worse than unrequited love! But I believe if she likes you, YOU WILL KNOW – unless of course you’re pretty God-damn thick! Guys, when a woman takes longer than a month to answer an e-mail or she doesn’t reply at all, it’s pretty much indicative that she doesn’t fancy you. Think about it: if you feel the way you do about her, would you take that long to respond if she sent you an e-mail or message? NO!!
Everyone who’s posted a concern on this site has a degree of uncertainty about the response they may receive from their potential lovers/partners but the evidence that’s being posted (the girls response) is very much damning.. i.e she’s not answering calls, she replies a month down the line or she’s washing her hair. These are all subtle hints that’s she’s just not that into you!
Unfortunatley when persuing a woman, you have to be prepared for the fact that she just might not feel the same… and if that is the case, then move on. There’s plenty of fish in the sea… just no chips!!
agentorange
I really love this girl i’m 12 and i can’t stop thinking about her she talks to me when i sit near her she compliments me when were doing work together and things like that and sometimes messes around with me but she dosent really hang out with me or anything. and thing notices me says hi to me but I dont know if she likes someone else but the thing is i dont want to embarass myself in front of everyone if she rejects me because she is really popular and really pretty.
I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO PLEASE HELP
Now that I’m in my twenties I think my earlier romantic interests when I was your age as “cute” and “silly”. Though I’m really glad I gave it a go asking girls out. It gave me a lot of confidence.
The best answer you can get when you ask a girl out is a “Yes”. The second best answer you can get when you ask a girl out is a “No. I am not interested.” The worst answer possible is “Let me think about it”. Yet the most common answer is the last one. Why is it the worst? Well basically (usually) the girl isn’t interested and is just afraid to embarrass/offend you, but it keeps you thinking you have a chance. A straight rejection at least does not waste you any time. “let me think about it”‘s can use up months of time trying to figure out if they really not sure or just trying not to offend.
Something I found useful: When asking girl out, ask for something specific, like “There’s a movie [x] I thought you’d like, would you like to join me to watch it next weekend.” It’s more likely she’ll give you a more favourable if you manage to do it in the middle of a conversation like it was *almost* expected you’d ask, rather than a surprise. Also, try not to ask her out in front of her friends. That usually ends up embarrassing for both, whether she already likes your or not.
simply put i have a girl who i like and she is 2 yrs older than me. we have known eachother for 1 1/2 yrs and we are good friends. We talk say hello in the hallways and text each other every so often. Now here comes the problem, i dont know if she likes me. I not sure if this is classified as flirting but she does touch my arm to get my attention and when she sees me she always similes and says hello.i want to ask her to her prom but i am nervous and dont want to make a fool out of my self like every guy out there. any help is much appreciated.
where did that icon come from thats deff not me
Can’t tell if she’s interested, need to get to know her more. She definitely seems to think positively of you. Also she doesn’t have to already like you to agree to go to prom…. does she? If I’m right that means you can ask her out to prom as “friends”. And the reason? “Was too shy to ask anyone else, don’t want to make a fool of myself”.
(You weren’t shy with her because…possible joke or pickup line here for laughs, but be sure to back it up with a good reason that makes her feel good)
I don’t know if that’ll work. My school never had a prom. (Not from the US). Maybe the prom thing over there are only for couples, in that case disregard everything I said.
ty and i want to ask her out as a girlfriend
ok, i just met this girl a couple weeks ago and i took her on a date. i really like her, but the thing is shes pregnant. shes about 11 weeks. the babies dad broke up with her once he found out that she was pregnant. i dont know why but she still likes him. im planning on taking her on another date. i just want her to know that ill be that one that will be her everything. but i dont want her to be creeped out. i know shes pregnant and she still likes her ex but i just dont know what to do. any advice?? id really appreciate it.
Taking care of someone else’s baby is a BIG obligation. I would take the relationship very slowly and think about if this is what I want to do for a long time. It won’t be good for her if I was around for a year or two and then left and she has to find someone else. Also babies are *very* expensive. They’ll cost *at least* $10,000 a year. You up for it?
1st she tell that don’t msg me again then she send a msg that i m thinking about u give me some time then one day after she send a msg that do not contect me again,what should i do?
Don’t contact her again, she’s just playing you man. The girl I went on three dates with and she referred to herself as my girlfriend did the same damn thing to me.. We had problems and she wavered back and forth for 5 days of I really miss you and I want to be in a relationship with you, and then next day would be pissed at me for no reason and stop talking to me. Of course next week she came along and wanted to be friends and try the relationship again… of course she was dating a new guy just 1 week later… Your getting played, move off and have a backbone
Well, I’m having a great deal of trouble understanding women in general, haha…a co-worker of mine was very flirty at work with me, but was generally a flirty kind of person and joked on with a few guys like that too, so I thought nothin’ of it. Until she began to fob some of these guys off, and just flirt with me a little more. But still, I thought she was just that kind of girl, looking for nothing other than a bit of harmless flirtation.
Just before she left, we started to initiate quite a bit of contact (probably the most contact we ever had). I was beginning to like her. Oh yeah, that kicker. But yeah…we were talking, and she gave me her number (I didn’t even ask!). That also had alarm bells ringing. I thought ”hmm, maybe she might like me too…” She gave the reason ‘to keep in touch with her’ which seemed fair enough, really. haha.
But then again, ‘friends’ give each other numbers too. So we get texting each other, considering we don’t work together, and we flirt a bit more. Until she drops the ‘f bomb’ and says something along the lines as ”I’ll always be there for you if you have any problems…that’s what friends are for.” Yeah, I keep interest, but almost completely give up on her, and decide to live with the fact she wanted to be just friends with me.
We are both attending a party at the same place (same party) and she doesn’t sit next to me to start, but moves over after a little while and sits right next to me, pulling up a chair. I’m in her personal space, our legs are touching (to which she doesn’t really mind) and she begins flirting like hell with me, to the point where she is drawing on my arm playfully, and dragging me up to the dance-floor for a dance.
Might be completely random to ask, but I just need a bit of guidance. I can’t even begin to guess whether or not she likes/liked me or not. :/
if she flirts like alot ; u do the same or probably straight out ask for a date ;
and one the date show her how u feel about her and if she says no then forget her ;; but good part is if she also feels the same but is waiting for u to
break the ice ; u might just get lucky
” life is a risk ” take the risk to enjoy to the max’
I am trying to use this to show a guy that I don’t like him. Even though he has loved me for his entire life but he needs to move on. Does anyone have any ideas?
I’ve liked a girl for 3 years and finally got her out of my life. What happened was, she was never interested in me as a boyfriend but liked me as a friend. Throughout the 3 years she’s always known my interest in her. Even when I had no chance with her we were talking several times a week, talk on the phone for hours, and hang out many times. We would be doing this even during the times when she was in relationship with someone else. I even spent one valentine’s day with her eating chocolates she got from others together. After 3 years though I was really frustrated and depressed about it. Here’s someone I really loved and she was just *there*, almost within reach, seeing and talking several times a week.
So one day, I asked her to block me on every channel possible. She declined, but I kept asking, and eventually she did it. And then, life went on, getting better and better from that point.
I’ve had several relationships since and am quite content with life, but I still have feelings come up when something reminds me of her. I just leave it at that and then they pass when I have something else to think of.
Here’s something I wished I heard from the girl I really liked for a really long time. “I’m *really really* glad to have you as my friend, but I’ll *never* be interested in having you as my other half.”
Of course your friendship with your friend might be different and this may or may not help him, but just thought I’ll give you my perspective.
Hi i like this girl and i am 13,we have been friends for a year and some months now,about 3 weeks ago i told her i liked her she was fine with it and we are still friends,at the time she was going out with someone.She broke up with them over the holidays,she then told me at school she broke up with him.Recently she has been calling me cute and stuff.On tuesday a new guy came to class,she said he was cute,i dunno if this is friendly or like-cute.But i got her friend to ask her if she liked me and she told her the answer but her friend was off yesterday.I’m scared she likes him,i doubt she does and ik he does not like her but what should i do?
Hi I m in love with a girl. I love her for last 5 years but I spoke with her recently last week for the first time in facebook. I told her that I m in love with you.
I was suprised that she too know me before 5 years and telling all my details but she want to marry a person for her same profession.
But she compliements me that you are a good guy, I always care about and i pray god that you have to be get a good life and very good improvement in ur business.
And we chat casually for a week. after that she suddenly turned off and told me dont text me and i have to study a lot so dont disturb me.
I dont know whether she is intrested or not. please help me
hey guys, i’ve got a pretty big problem, and it would be very much appreciated if you guys can help me.
the story (promise it won’t be long):
ok so i like this girl, she seems pretty awesome. we started talking for a while at an event, and had her contact details added. then i find out that one of my really close friends is going for her, so out of my friendship to him i told him that i would step aside. the problem is that, ever since that day i can’t stop thinking about her. so guys, is there any advice that you can gimme? thanks
Hello there Mike!, first I think you should consider how “this girl” and your “friend” met, are they also close friends before it? and how long they have known each other? If so, then chances are your friend has a stronger response from the girl than yours, but I don’t discourage you Mike, I suggest try to keep in touch with the girl, and that is If you really like her, but try also to think logically if it will lead to disaster or not. (because as you said you’ve only talked for a while at an event) and that is not enough ground to win her, I suppose if you get more time to keep in touch with her, chances are this girl will have a potential to like you also (or maybe now she does) try to feel it man. I hope this helps.
hey louise, well to be honest, the best friend i’m talking about was helping me “win” this girl at the event. i think his feelings overcame him and he told me that he liked her so yeh. we’ve been exposed to her for about the same amount of time. the complicated part is that my friend is in the year above her, and i’m in her year at uni. i constantly bump into her at tutorials and lectures. so yeh. but your advice did help. thanks a lot.
Take it one day at a time its not worth losing your bestfriend that you knew forever for some girl you just started talking too.
Hey man I definately get where you’re coming from! I was in the same boat. I think part of it depends on how long your buddy has been going for this girl. If it is something new vs something that has been going on for a while. I know that it is kind of junior highish but if you are kind of close with one of her girlfriends maybe you could find out if she is into you. Also chat with your buddy and find out if it would be ok if you took her out on some dates. good luck bro
i am try tro get agirl to stop liking somone and like me
Need some help! I been talking to the one girl for over a month we texted and chilled 2 times. She calls me babe a lot and texts with hearts. She also used to say goodmorning a lot. Before i even texted. I know shes busy and all but last time we talked was on valentines day. Now when i see her facebook seems like shes hanging and talking to another guy buy her statuses. She doesnt respond to texts anymore. I know she had a thing for me before…Is she done with me you think??
Hey man its a 50/50 shot, ask her to hang out one of these days, and if she makes up an excuse and never offers to re schedule, i think its done. If she takes forever to respond to texts etc I dunno man, when girls do that they are throwing hints they dont like you. I could be wrong about your situation, but if shes hanging out with other guys, try and facebook another girl you find attractive, and try working on that. Dont give a girl too much attention, if she says shes gonna text you and doesnt, just let it slide, and if she does like you she will text you back, maybe not right away.
Stop the facebookin and SMSIN! You might think this is hard but if you want it you have to go out and get it. Tell her in person that you like her and or enjoyed the times you went out and think you should do it again. You can’t expect to get her when you lurk on her profile and assume that shes hanging with other dudes. Be one of those dude. Hope this helps… Peace and remember even if unsuccessful dust your shoulders off, jack your slacks and know there’s plenty of fish in the sea.
Yup… Sry dude she’s over you.
ok thers this girl. wer gd frnds we always hang out and txt but heres the prblm, i like her and i always strt the texting conversation she nvr does. and im not that popular or gd looking she is though. i honestly cant get her out of my head she sometimes stares at me like w8tng for me to lk or somethng but i dnt know. im also a little pervrted to but it kinda rubbed off on her to. so wat does this mn does she like me? or r we jus gd frnds? also i always wonder wat other pple thnk plzzzz HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There is this girl in my math class that I like but I don’t know if she likes me we talk sometimes and make eye contact and stuff and she likes talking To me also. She doesn’t care if were alone together we will just sit there and talk and stuff
Hey dude, if those are most of the details, and she doesnt have a boyfriend, next time you see her in class, ask her if she wants to hang out friday and see a movie or go to the mall. If she is one of those girls that has alot of guys texting them 24/7 dont let it piss you off, just dont expect it to be long term.
Ive been reading alot of these commments and replys from individuals..im trying to find one relating to my situation that im in limbo about..she my sons mother and i really want to be with her but i no its inevitable and wont happen..i know thiss. but she sayss things and does things out of the blue and always at the right moment to make me doubt myself and not trust nothing i think or feel. We kick it a few times a week. she stays the night for days sometimes..all this time my sons 2 the whole two years weve never had the title b.f g.f cuz watever happend back wen happened and broke up…but after the baby was born we kicked it alot more and actually got to no one another on a different level and talked about anything and everything and we got super close like never ever before like we acted both like b.f g.f with the kids yes she has another kid from previous. bt it all vame to a stop one day when we got into a heated argument and she took off ignored me for months on end then jsut all of a sudden showedd up at my doorstep out of the blue i wish i didnt let her in man i was just at the stage of going out and looking for other females and it threw me in a loop. and now its just like she ignores me she forgets simple shit about me. or what i say. sshe dont text me back. never. never responds on f.b to my messages so ive slowed down the texting and contacting her. i no shes not into i think..but the lil things she say and does..make me question..its hard becuase shes the mother of my son and how can i tell her no about certain things when she has my son when its her time with him..i dont want her taking my son to some dude or drug flop squating house you no i cant have my sons mother on the streets and the boys(kids) look at me like u dont care about ur sons mother idk its confusing as helll and i need some advice on how to just not let her walk over me or use me cuz thats how its starting to be and it cant be done not now not then not in the future…plssssss plllsssss helllp…srry for the novelty.
there is this girl i like, i see her most days on on the train and at the station, i’m to shy to talk to her, but we talk a lot via facebook, i really like her but i don’t know if she likes me, she makes eye contact occasionally, i never know what to say to her or what to do. PLEASE HELP!
Hey man,
has nobody responded to you yet? Question: How did you become Facebook buddies? I’m guessing you initiated the whole thing?! If not you’re pretty slow on the up-take my friend ha haa!! Okay, so either way th two of you are virtual friends which counts for something, and here’s a high-five for getting to this very crucial stage… well done!
She makes eye contact which is so good… AAANNND you noticed it, which is a plus so again, well done! I’m noticing the date you posted this message and it’s like two and a half months old – I seriously hope you’ve bagged her by now! – if not no pressure.
The next time you see her, and she makes eye contact, go up to her and ask her on a date. She’s going to say one of two things: “yes I’ll go out with you” or “no, I don’t fancy you”. You’ve nothing to lose although it seems to me she really likes you dude! In my experience eye contact is always good. Think aout it:
So I need some help…im 20 years old, I started talking to this one girl for a couple of months…then we kinda stop talking we only hung out 1 time, sovereign stop talking and on xmas I texted wishing her family a good christmas all so we started talking again …. now today jan.23 we still talk I told her a couple days ago I liked her and we need ti hang out more, she agreed on the hanging out part but im worried because I invited her 3 different times to places and she already had plans…now I kinda understand because I incited her kinda of last minute but im not sure she has the same feelings as I do for her and we have SO much in common its like we are twins…and we she can’t text me when she ia at work im kinda sad. Im pretty shy guy im not the one yo be asking for sex because I wanna take things slow with her if she does like mr but I hope om not wasting my time….so people I need help should I move on or invite her somewhere and of she denies me should I move on? Or continue to play games??????Helppplppppppp
i agreed
Kay. im stuck in t fllwing situation so…
i like a girl she is my grader. i don’t even know her we never talked. ‘Cuz
im very shy and can’t start conversation. you will think that it is fake love cuz i never talked to her but… i think that she is my life. every time i wanna see her. i have her photo in my pocket. sometimes i watch her photos for 1-2 hours but im nt getting bored. Once i freeze in winter after lessions to watch her going to home from school. every night i see a dream about me and her. i thought many strategies to let her know that i love her but. when i tried to realize it im getting chickened out. im getting SUP NERVIOS. i stare at her always i see her. she always smiles at me . need advice people PLZZ help… does she likes me and is my love real.?
OK, being that way is just sad. You like her a lot, but now it’s just a crush. Do you even know her name? Get over your shyness for just a moment and go talk to her. She smiles at you, meaning she doesn’t see you as a loser. But it does seem you stalk her a little bit. That shows a lack of confidence which is not attractive at all.
1) Find out somehow her hobbies, her favourite thing to do, and make a plan around that. If she likes to dance, you can think of going for a performance. Buy tickets. Even if she doesn’t go with you, you’ll learn something about what she likes.
2) Prepare what you want to say to her. Something short like “Hey, I was planning to go to on Friday night, and I would really like if you could come along”. (If you have a plan already, then she has an easier job to say “yes” or “no”)
3) When she’s with her friends (not alone, she may see you as a creep) go up to her, interrupt politely, and say your lines. If she says “yes”, great. Fix a plan with her in less than 20 seconds, and then WALK AWAY. Don’t make yourself talk to her with nothing to say in your head. If she says no, she has plans, it’s nothing personal, say “how about some other time, how about getting a coffee together?” or something. But don’t stick around to talk there.
Build up confidence by speaking to yourself in the mirror. Confidence means no stuttering, maintaining eye contact and having expression in your voice.
The point to remember is, what have you got to lose by talking to her? She’s no goddess beyond your reach. She’s a very real girl and unless you discover about her, you’ll never love her for real.
I did exactly what you said and it ruined my childhood with women…. there are some down falls to overcoming the shyness… easier said than done
Okay, are you Spanish or something? Because if you are then well done for being brave and submitting an e-mail in English. However, if you are a native English speaker then shame on you! Your spelling is atrocious!!! How old are you? Please reply and I’ll know what advice to impart. Until then I’m clutching at straws…
Sincerely,
agentorange
i have a problem with my girlfriend i have really failed to understand this girl we have taken time without communicating and when she had come back from her holiday i politely told her that i love you!!! but her reply was like she first laughed loud after she replied that i also do so .now i have failed to understand weather that is to much love or false love i want some one to help me on that????
i duntwanna hurt you but i think its fake love.
if she realy loves you when talking about love alone with her she will not laugh loud, even she will not smile. she will take it seriously.
She is not that mature she’s with her parents she don’t pick my call or reply an sms • I just new her & she accept to be my friend I love her so much please what will I do & what is the meening of that
I wonder who are all the jokers posting stuff on this page.
Dude I’m with you on that! On the other hand, the world’s pretty big and there’s some really thick people populating it. And notice the website name..
Alright guys…in 2011 i had enrolled for guitar lessons I turned 14 that year FYI and my guitar instructor turned 24. I know what you’re thinking (pedo) but he’s absolutely amazing and not perverted, he went to all my open mic nights and even wiped away my tears! Now I have been reading body language books trying to figure out the signs for a year. In December 2011 I had told him I liked him he said he was flattered but we should keep our relationship strictly professional. Innitially I thought okay I have absolutely no chance with him…he was even more flirtier, trying to help me with chord formations that were already correct and we’d sit in the teachers lounge and listen to Phish and moe. And the grateful dead or random jazz but over time the lyrics to the songs were fitting to the situation he told me he hated being with his girlfriend and he’d talk bad of her and then I got a boyfriend who was 19 at the time, when I told him this my instructor got all jealous saying oh he’s to immature, you would really fall for a guy who only listens to metal screams? And then I conducted an experiment, I texted him,”Anthony I’m so confused please help.” he txted back ,”whatsup?” (the concerned whatsup) “I don’t love lewis (my ex) any more and I always feel guilty when I’m talking to other guys even if the relationship is platonic.” Anthony,”well he’s also too far away, immature, and you have better options here.” “good point, I’m ending it.” Anthony waited till our next lesson to ask this…”how’d you break up with him?” weird concerned face. (in person not text msg) “I told him how I really felt and that everytime I talk to this guy I feel guilty so I’d rather end the relationship.”. Anthony.”well I’m glad you told him how you felt, I would want that too.”
real smile. Girlfriend-hurry up I want Thai food (she always bitches about something) Anthony-opens the door for me closes right before her foot escapes and then she huffs and puffs and gets her pants all in a bunch. I laughed….yesterday…
hehehe but I told him I was stopping by..I walk through the door he’s with a client sees me and tries to continue conversation but gets tongue tied, ends convo.
his germs are perfect, and I have my nose pierced and sometimes the stem shoes and to adjust it it looks like ur picking your nose, he literally doesn’t care he thinks I’m cute and he notices the little things, my question is if I should tell him how I feel and ask him how he feels about me I unconditionally love this man, every single chest hair 
and when he grows out his beard it really turns me on…plus, I wanna fluff it!!!! Lmao. Soooo scruffy :3 sometimes when he’s working (he also works backstage for the symphony orchestra) he’ll ask if I wanna go (I used to be first chair violin till four strings weren’t enough of a challenge.) and he’ll take me in through the back 
for freeeee ^_^ sure he could also just be really nice, but honestly, I feel im the only one he’d do it for….I need ur thoughts on the situation.
More intense flirty moments feet touching “bumping into eachother” and surprise meetings at the movies I told him I would be at (his Gf is there) hey Hollie! I didn’t know you were going to this theatre! *bullshit* cough me- yeah fancy seeing you here
I had to go get my dad some pipe tobacco and anthony works there
Hey Hollie
Hey Anthony ^_^
A-how are you feeling?
H-better, they didn’t do surgery, they are making me pass the stones on my own. I was asleep for three days, they gave me morphine and toridal.
A-I think it would be better to pass them on ur own considering you hate having a stent and I think stents would hurt pretty bad, I’m sorry that this is all happening. *gazes into my eyes* h- me too man, meee too. So when do you want to schedule my makeup lesson?
A- I was thinking of doing an hour instead of thirty minutes on Saturday, but I’m thinking about moving you to weekdays instead of weekends they are getting crowded (plus he’s lonely lol)
H-awesome!(weekday lessons mean chances for extra time)
A- yup and I got ur text about classical music and I’m just going to send u the hundreds of PDFs I have of sheet music.
H-SWEETNESS!:D
A-*huge smile and then misty gaze to which I return and hold longer than five seconds and I bite my lip.*
H- my dad wants something cherry flavored…(my softer tone)
A- *recommendations I didn’t pay attention to but smelled*
H-I like this one
A- an ounce?
H- mmhmm:)
A -blushes
I get ready to walk out the door and (this is so adorable) I hear BYE HOLLIEEE! in the im going through puberty crack voice.
I look over my shoulder and giggle see ya later Anthony ^_^
I know he likes me to some extent (he literally tells me how happy he is to see me) and we literally share everything, food, water, secrets, desserts, germs
You should just initiate kissing. No words. He’ll never do it cuz of the age trust me I’ve been in the same situation. Do it during one of ur gazing into eyes moments
Yea I was in the same predicament. YOU MUST INITIATE FIRST. Because he is afraid of legal shit due to the age difference or being a pervert. Tom, the guy im replying to and who posted above me, is absolutely right. Just start kissing him, make sure its a private place, and hopefully he will become adjusted to kissing you in public. After all… you are a lot younger than him, so make sure the first couple kisses are in private. And don’t hesitate, just go for the kill. I suggest calming your emotions somehow before kissing him so your calm and steady. Timing and setting are crucial.
Ok there is this girl that goes to my church that I like. Well at one point I was in choir that’s the first timed we meet. Well one day I told her how I felt and she was like don’t quit God loves you more that you think and that you are loved. So I went back to choir again and tried it out that time she was dancing around me but I didn’t think nothing about it. Well the week after I went up to her and said i’m done with choir and church and she was like don’t live god loves you more that you think. Well then I thought about it somemore and I was like ok I will go back to church well that day she was looking at me and started crying and I don’t know why? Well then wednesday comes around so I went to church and she looked at me then she had this sad face she looked down and again she started crying don’t know why? Then I deleted her off of facebook more then once but she kept on adding me? Now she has a boyfriend but yet she is always looking at me and I don’t know why? Buy yesterday I found out that she stopped going to my church my question is do you think she did like me at the time or was she just my friend.
well i have a pretty gud problem in hand…..this girl is a friend of mine though not really best friends…her mom is friends with my mom..i like this girl a lot but am quite shy type of boy so cant start conversation.i rarely mingle with girls.she do converse with me on her own sumtimes..sumtimes when i text her she replies promptly,sumtimes she takes hours..she talks a lot about her affection towards her grandma and during her illness she always kept me up to date with her grandma’s health.when i cook food,she compliments,,she asks me for suggestion what books to buy.i compliment her to which she laughs out loud..and says its gud to hear gud things bout self always.well still in a fix…is she doing these bcoz she likes me or just bcoz she is my friend and her mom is my mom’s friend.need to be supersure bout this before i can ask her for a date:)she herself sumtimes wishes me christmas or my birthday:)when sum other boy tries to verbally assault me she cums 2 my rescue,though i remain mum at the verbal provocation..of late i have been sharing secret notes with her and she also gives me sum secret notes and books.actually we made a pact to help each other with studies.may be she is following that..or may be she likes me??she mostly calls me friend,tells sumtimes my gesture r “naice”..well does she like me??please help me.am in dire consequences now in love..
Your English is shocking and I’m not too sure how old you are. If you’re young then good and keep the faith. If you’re older than 27 then I’m afraid I have no hope for you!
It sounds as if she likes you but I can’t tell if as a friend or more. Try and kiss her BUT wait for the right moment – if it works you’re in there but if not then well, you’re not, I’m afraid…
Hi all,
I have been friends with a girl for past four years.Let’s call her ‘X’. The thing is, I had loved a classmate from school, let’s call her ‘Y’. ‘X’ helped me in few things about that, but when I proposed in 2010 dec, I got to know ‘Y’ was in love with someone else, so I just chose to remain friends with ‘Y’ and move on. I have been friends with ‘X’ since the start of my college but she left the school I was in in 2003. SO basically, I had never met her until in october 2010. We chatted or texted occasionally but since past one year,this has been regular. Either she texts me or pings me due to some reason or I do, then our conversation goes on for at least 45-60 minutes. After that incident with “Y”, I didn’t want to get into someone fast, so talked about other girls with her, who looks good and all and still do that, she doesn’t mind that at all. sometimes we do talk on phone, buts that very rare, though the talks go on for an hour or so here as well. Last month,we went for a movie too, a hindi one. and again went on a kind of leaisure walk few days after. there, just to know, I suggested her that let’s be boyfriend and girlfriend. It was said jokingly because I always flirt with her, so she was negative in reply. Clearly, that might have indicated to her that I like her. I didn’t make another move after that, but our talks on sms and chats continue. She is my best friend and the thing is that I can’t hide anything from her. She also tells me most of the things that happen in her life. We haven’t talked too much about our personal details or likings, but just day to day activities. Now, I think that, if there is someone I would like to spend my life with her, that would be ‘X’ because she is my best friend. I can be ‘me’ with her and we can share our laughs just as we do. Nothing could be better. But the trouble is, first, I don’t know what she feels. Second, I don’t feel that strongly for her as I felt for ‘Y’ and I don’t want her to be comparing my feelings(also I am not interested in anyone else,I just joke around with ‘X’ abt other girls but have never approached them and she knows that). Third, I am scared that even if we get together, and god-forbids things don’t work out between us, I will lose an irreplaceable friend.
SO what should I do, just stay as we are and wonder how things could be in future, make the move, or try and wait till my feelings get stronger for her?
i think u have anwerd your own question. you say you dont care for X as much as Y and things like that women tend to notice(maybe she already notices). personally if i am single and have someone that understands me and cares that much and i eventually care and love them i will tell them how i feel.
I will suggest u tell her how u feel if u feel strongly enuf for her, Well there is always the chance that she will reject the suggestion and the friendship will become akward. But hey do u think the risk is worth it?
just my two cents
I was talking to a female friend whom I like and she started going into her lack of a sex life, that she doesn’t sleep around anymore and thinks sex is just self gratification. My first thought was she hooked up with another guy friend and had sex over New Years Eve and for whatever reason feels guilty and is trying to make herself look and feel better. But a friend told me she was giving me a hint, I don’t buy it because I called her three days later and she hasn’t returned my call. Why would a woman tell a guy friend this???
A few reasons but one that sticks out is this:
guys prefer girls who don’t sleep around. Correct or not (I don’t know), most girls believe this to be true….
I’m 18.I could use any advice there is to give. I have a girl problem and i dont know what to do.. me and this girl were flirting on facebook, i never met her. (btw shes very cute ive never been with a girl so pretty. (possibly the cause of why i feel like this)) so new years eve im with my boys and we end up at a party that happens to be at her house. halfway thro the night her friend keeps telling me to hookup with her. and my friends are drunk so there screamking and making noise telling me to hookup with her so we can go to another party( i was driving). and they arent being very friendly about it and she heard them so her feelings were hurt.(i know because she told me after) and she was embarassed that her friend was being awkward. So we smoked weed and talked for a little and we eventually end up in a dark room together and she stops mean and says she feels like i was forced to hookup with her when i could hookup with anyone. i told her i just wanted to hookup with only her from the start but it was difficult. so the party continues and other guys are trying to get with her and all talking to her.. i was playing beer pong and i looked right in her eyes and she was zoned out, starring at me biting her lip.. (SUCH A TURN ON) but anyway i missed my chance to chill with her that night but we did kiss shortly. Today is 5days after and when i text her she only answers me half the time. i also facebook message her too. and she never answers when i ask to hang out. But when she does answer shes the sweetest girl.. shes so nice to me and she says things that make me think she has strong feelings for me. she even says she cant wait to hangout with me(she wants to fuck too). I dont know if i did something wrong to make her not want to answer me but i see her on facebook talking to other people while im waiting for her text back.. i dont know if this girl actually likes me or not and it would be nice to know because i liker her..): sorry my story was so long
I know how you feel because im going the same thing and its driving me crazy cause i like this girl alt too and don’t know if i should be hooking up with.other girls other what. But with your situation its sounds like this girl does like you she is just probably a little shy right now so she goes over what she’s gonna say in a test or mail like. Million times before she does anything hope this helps
There is a girl who I first became interested in almost 2 years ago. A year and a half ago I failed to get her. A few months later she started initiating contact with me very often via text messages. I wondered if she regreted not coming for me. This was after I moved to another city. I was hearing from her average of twice a week. Last year she texted me to tell me it’s her b-day and she was lonely. Telling me she wishes she could find someone to get married with. Sometimes complaining to me about her life. I told her I’d move back to that city where is was living many times. She hoped I would live near her when I would come back. She bought a dog and even asking me if I’d help her take care of it. Later complaining to me that I don’t text her “first” anymore. This girl is Chinese. I’m an American living in China. I must say I still have interest in her. I still didn’t move back to the city near Shanghai, I live in Beijing currently. I told her I still plan to move back to that city when I finish my work contract. A few days ago, just after new years I wrote a very long email telling her I still have interest in her, but I still did not hear back from her. She is very busy with her management job and studying. I really wonder what’s up with that. I’m not sure what will be the outcome of this now. She’ll be 25 on January 16. I’ll be 28 this Spring. Her parents put huge pressure on her to find a BF. She has not had much luck at all. In most Chinese guys opinion she is not really good looking. But I think she is. Whoever reads this could give me some tips on this?
It may seem hard for you. But you must let her do most of the work if you want a relationship with her. you have given so much of yourself to her for over a year and then -only then- after moved away, she starts giving you any real attention. It may not be really you she is wanting, but rather she just misses being chased by (anyone, even if that means you) I’d be alot more harder to get than you are. Whatever you do, -Do Not- move back because of her. She should not be the reason you would make your life changing decisions by. Also, do not try to connect with her on a romantic level. Google (why do women like men who don’t want them?) -google any question you may have as to how you should deal with a girl who plays mind games as i think she is playing with you. She as well as you may not really know what is happening, but this can turn into an emotional train ride and go way off track if -you- do not keep your mind clear. Always keep reminding yourself that you are not so into her anymore and you may end up having her falling madly in love with you. Start doing everything she asks you to do and in the end you will be alone, bitter, and far away from where you wanted to be in life because you chased a women who found you less intresting the more you did whatever she asked you to do or wanted you to do. (Remember) google any question you have as to why women like certain guys. And read the responces. You can beat this game and come out the man she chases.
SO……. I have been talking to this girl for a couple of weeks. We work together as well. We have hung out at my place and her place multiple time. We usually chill and then end up making out. When we are together it feels right. We cuddle all the time, laugh at one another, and I make her smile. But once im gone, and we are just texting, it feels like she doesn’t want me. The past couple of days have just been weird. Im the one first texting, asking all the questions. I keep getting short texts and never being asked anything from her. One of my friends told me she was annoyed by me it seems like.
Can anyone help figure out what is going on????? i want to know if I have a chance or not.
Just had a weird phone conversation with a female friend. After some small talk and awkward silence, where I told her I’d let her go, but she said why and started talking again. She than tells me her Mom called her and was telling her that the Pastor at her Church was going to pay for the weddings for any couples from the parish who are living in sin.
After some more small talk my female friend then says her Mom asked about me and how the two of us were doing, implying marriage? My friend told her Mom we were doing fine.
Later, out of the blue she starts talking about not sleeping around or having sex for three years, mostly to be a good role model for her 13 year old daughter.
Before this she invited me to her daughters High School Christmas with some of her family and to her casual Christmas Eve party again with family and friends (Me being the lone friend to show). It was fun, we kind of seem to be getting closer.
Why would she bring up her Mom asking about me and her after this Church wedding thing?
Why would she just bring her lack of a sex life? A guilty reaction for possibly sleeping around? A test to see if I’ll stick around if she mentioned a lack of or disinterest in sex? Or is trying to push me away and not to expect any sex?
Signals that perhaps she is hinting at going to the next level? Or just small talk in a conversation with one of her guy friends?
Ok she brought up the lack of sex life to show you she likes you and has been waiting for that special guy… maybe idk tho
Well, i really like this guy.. i’ve been crushing on him just because we were teased to each other. As if I was just “developed”. I began to appreciate him but i don’t know if he likes me back.
i tried to tell him that i was crushing on him on his birthday just this december 2011–near New Year. But i couldn’t.
yes, his friends teases him. (and even make their voice louder so i could hear.) and they were even asking if i was really crushing on him (though it was already that obvious! duh?)
few months ago, i tried to stop communicating to him coz he wasn’t even replying. i changed my number and i did not tell him.
suddenly, he called me and i was dumbfounded when he asked my why i wasn’t texting him.
what’s this? hmMm
Don’t assume anything from that. You have to establish concrete evidence. Get some one on one time with him, look at his body language, and judge it from that. NEVER JUDGE THROUGH TECHNOLOGICAL DEVICES BEING THE MEDIUM. always judge first hand, from your senses, meaning from WHAT YOU SEE and experience
How can you answer this one? I have a feelings on a girl that 5 years older than me but we are communicating normally,when i send sms to her she replied only 2 words like ”yes” and ok and fine. when i ask something that i really have a time to care for her but she sometimes reason out why are you so kind and nice from me? when we see each other she was shy on me when i give her special gifts and smiles and thanking me for the gift.and she’s using what i gave to her. what are my chances?
i don’t think the age is the problem here (or it MIGHT be for her), but i think she’s trying to gently push you away. it might be best to just let her go and just be her friend and look for someone else. plenty of fish out there haha, i’ve just had my question answered for me by the girl i’m chasing, which was a no.
i have a thing with this girl and we have met up for like four times and have done stuff like to far stuff and everytime im with her she talks about hangingout with other guys and u know were not dating right and i can do whatever i want and such and when we texx she just says stuff likë “fine” and thats “cool” she has never sent me over atleast ten letters in a tex and its been like this for the start but one time when i called her and told her im piissed she tried calling like six times to solve it what kinda girl is this please help and what this situation called
Your chances are always 50-50. The only way you have NO CHANCE is if you DO NOTHING. What’s the worst that can happen? That she says no? pfft…you got this bro *ass smack–get in there!
Hey! My problem is a bit complex. I was dating a girl ‘X’ , and secretly had a crush on a girl ‘Y’. Now, after breaking up with X my feelings grew stronger for Y. So, I asked her out. She was a girl whom you could refer to as a person who had “beauty with brains…” ! When she rejected me (she wanted to concentrate on her studies) i backed off. I was hurt. But still we stayed friends, i confided in her a couple of times (some of my darkest secrets- dumb, i agree) . It’s been an year. Now, we both are in college. She’s single, and so m I. We haven’t dated any one in the past 1 year. She’s back in my life, now I feel I’m in love with her. Unfortunately, this feeling is not going away. I don’t know what to do, no idea at all! My friends say that, it’s a topic which requires some serious thinking. ‘Coz I don’t want to ruin our friendship. Please help me.
well you have to way the options. how hot IS SHE, and how SMART IS SHE. are we talking “girl that parents would be proud of,” or “girl that starts fire with the wood in my jeans as soon as she walks in the room,” kind of girl. You just gotta weigh the options bro. If she’s worth it, fuck the friendship. Girls can never be truly friends with a STRAIGHT GUY, because there is always some level of attraction between them or lack of attractions. You say shes pretty hot, and you say you have fallen in love with her. Tell her how you feel, be straight with her, tell her you have matured over the year she made you wait and have learned a lot from your studies. Tell her you care about her, and also your academic success as well, this will help you in the long run with her. But make sure you tell her all of what I just said in person. If you do it by sms or text, she will have time to think about it. You don’t want to give her time to think about it, make the situation in a way that your kind of pressuring her to make a decision. Don’t give her much time to think about it, because then she will have doubt/self-doubt
hi guys,
i’m sorta confused about my own situation here.
so i’ve been talking to this girl for about 2 months now.
i thought i was making progress but she never initiates be it msn or stuff. she seems to be cheerful when i MANAGE to make get through to her on msn or messages. but there are times where she doesn’t reply to my messages at all. there was once where she said ‘i missed you’ after i came back from a vacation, but the whole no reply or initiate thing still goes on.
any advice guys?
I have the exact same thing going on, she talks to me normally and we get along well but she never takes the initiative, whilst I know she isn’t the person to be shy about anything at all!
Personally I’ve tried leaving it be a couple of times for like a week and a half but even then she doesn’t initiate a text, sometimes I even have to send 3 texts (desperately trying to be fun to talk to without sounding like I am) before I even get a reply (waiting hours then days sometimes).
If it helps, something I’ve decided is that if she doesn’t take the time to reply to me, I ain’t gunna have the time to type anything to her nor approach her at school or w/e. I still can’t keep myself from trying to get in contact though so I still send a text once in a while x) guess I need help too lol.
yeah man. its weird. for me she seems really happy when we’re talking. but she never initiates and sometimes totally just doesnt reply me.
it was only on that one occasion where she suddenly said she missed me out of nowhere.
You sound desperate. Stop it. Girls hate it. in your case I would say that she likes you as a friend and is happy to talk to you in a social situation.
The big hint here is that sometimes she doesn’t reply. If a girl likes you she will always reply because she will always be thinking about you and will probably read your text 100x. if she takes ages to reply she’s just making you wait a little, so she doesn’t look desperate; wants you to believe that she’s busy; has a life and not thinking about you 24/7. If she makes you wait 2 days+ or doesnt reply at all i would say move on. Girls usually have a hard time being honest about these things because they dont want to hurt a guys feelings so they do it ‘subtly’. FYI just because a girl talks to you does not mean that she likes you)
In my mind there are usually 2 reasons why girls don’t initiate conversation:
A) they don’t like you (that way).
B) she does like you but wants you to initiate conversation
-so she doesn’t look desperate;
- cos she likes to be chased, all girls want to be wanted + most girls think the guy should make the first move;
-It’s a test to see if you like her.
In regards to the girl saying ‘i miss you’ after you ignored her, unfortunately there are few girls that just like to have a string of guys liking them, they get annoyed when a guy they don’t like pesters them a lot but when the guy stops they feel upset/ disappointed and no it doesn’t mean that they really like them- the girls immature, move on.
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hey i was thinking of your reply for awhile now and i realised what you said really makes a lot of sense.
so thanks a lot! i was really kinda dumb. thanks again!
hey guys, i really need some advice on this. i been trying to get this girl for almost 2 months. we talk almost everyday on msn/fb. she’s a friend of my friend, who intro-ed us at an outing. she seems really awesome, although sometimes it’s hard to make conversation with her (what i mean by this is that sometimes we run out of stuff to talk about and start random stuff). we don’t “flirt” that much, on occassion recently. i’m not sure if she’s got any feelings for me, she’s asked me about my ex (if she [my ex] is pretty or not). does this girl have any feelings for me? what do i do from here? thanks guys
Easy. Just ask her out.
ok, but is there anyway from now that i could determine the probability of her saying yes if i did ask her out?
I would definitely say she is. Just get to more flirting in the messages you send and then get her phone number (if you don’t have it already) and call her and ask her out. Worse case scenario she says no and you no longer have to wonder.
I would say that any girl that asks you if your ex is pretty – clearly likes you. It’s a girl thing, find out about the competition and compare.
Things to consider:
Who initiates conversations? If she does then she definitely likes you, although if she doesn’t initiate it doesn’t necessarily always mean that she doesn’t like you(confusing? Girls are complex creatures) since you’ve been talking for 2 months I would say that the fact that you’ve talked every day and that you still keep talking even when you’ve run out of things to say, from a female perspective I would say this means she likes you. Just be careful though, some girls will talk to you to be nice or because they like you as a friend. if she’s not giving you very detailed comments or not making n effort to prolong the conversation then it may mean she’s only trying to be friendly because your trying to talk to her.
I think you should ask her to go for a coffee or to the beach or something nothing to date like if your still not sure but I think from what you’ve said that she does like you.
She is always playful.,she talks wid me,we play games….
Atlast i proposed her,I told tht i love her and she just gave me a smile and went away……………………Really confusing…..
You did the right thing by telling her how you feel. She gave you her answer by going away. So, you must go away. You did your part, now she has to do hers by letting you know how she feels. Until then, hang out with other friends, don’t call her or text her unless she texts or calls you. Again, you got the big part done, you told her how you feel. If she calls or texts, you need keep her on the subject. Ask her, “did you understand what I said?” and ASK HER “How do you feel about me now?”
Make sure you are giving her enough space to think. Do not get obsessed with her, chicks do not like that.
well i am a shy type of boy and this girl i adore her and love her a lot.she is smart and never hesitates to talk to the opposite sex(unlike me).we went to a common tution,so she took my contact number and mostly the texts we exchenged were related to tutions and studies.she had crushes on two boys before but they dumped her:(..slowly she started to text me more personal message that she wish she possesed those and that qualities etc…i tried my best to soothe her,praise her..sometimes she replies to my text promptly sumtimes she takes an hour..now she willingly tells me about her family members and ailing grandma etc..my friend told me she looks at me too….well i am confused if she likes me or not…she often tell me i am a gud guy and thnks for my kind words etc…but still i am not sure..can u plz help me..pleaseeeeee
You are going to have to ask her. Make it easy, just ask if she would like to date you, or be your girlfriend. That is it. It hurts when they say they do not feel the way you do, but it is MUCH worse not to know. Just get it over with. Call her up and say, “I know this may sound crazy and maybe even freak you out, but I have to ask you. Do you see me as just a friend or would you consider dating me?”
thanks a lot edward for your kind advicse..i will definitely do as said by u.
I’m in quite an awkward situation, myself. I found myself working with this extremely pretty girl – she joined us and I instantly took a liking to her (looks AND personality, importantly). But she had a boyfriend at the time, so I kept our relationship on a strictly friends basis and played it pretty cool. She broke up with her boyfriend a few months later and a few guys I worked with expressed their interest in her, only to be rejected in one way or another. I, like I said, continued to play it cool. Maybe they weren’t giving her enough time to heal, after breaking up from her boyfriend or whatever (yeah, they were like vultures), so I decided to still become friendly, talk, and joke about and whatever…until one day, she threw out a curve-ball at me. I don’t know what the hell we were talking about, but she came out with the line ”I think Jay would be the perfect guy to take home and meet my parents”. Obviously, I didn’t know what to make of it, considering it’s not everyday a girl says something like this, out of the blue. So I just smiled and took it as a compliment. I probably could have played it a little better, admittedly, but you know…I’m a guy, I have my flaws haha.
But yeah, fast forward a few weeks, and she is leaving – she gives me her number ”to keep in touch” and comes to our Christmas Meal. She doesn’t immediately sit next to me, but about half an hour/an hour in, she comes over to sit directly next to me (after switching seats with someone). She didn’t seem to have any problem with how close we were sitting, our legs were touching, she was looking into my eyes when she was speaking to me, and she even drew on my arm (random, I know). It was when she got me up to dance was the main sign. She grabbed my arm and got me up to dance. It was a friendly, fun dance, I felt, but I wasn’t feeling up to it, and I am an insanely bad dancer, so I danced a little, but ultimately didn’t want to. There may be my problem. She might have thought I didn’t want to dance with her, whereas I just didn’t want to dance.
You may be reading this, thinking ”why the hell didn’t he go for the kill, then? is he an idiot?” Well, here is the thing. When we were texting, she said the f word. (friend, for the record). Threw me off guard, especially considering she had A) said she was sexually interested in me, B) said she would be proud to showcase me infront of her parents, and now C) she had given me all of these mixed signs at our Christmas party, by dancing with me, feeling the impulse to touch me (even if it was to draw on me) and coming over to sit with me in the first place.
Help a guy out! I’m confused! haha.
Same advice as I always give in this situation. If you don’t know, you must find out. You cannot beat around the bush. If you have feelings for her, you HAVE to tell her and ask her if she would like to date you as more than just a friend. AGAIN It hurts when they say they do not feel the way you do, but it is MUCH worse not to know. Just get it over with. Life is to short to go around wondering and waiting. If she just likes you as a friend, you have to put her out of your mind and look for another. There is ALWAYS another.
hello or watevr ur name is,.,i wud suggest u to stop thnkng about dat gal,.,if she wud hav been in u den she wud hav definitly tryd contctng u quite a few tyms,.bt still u cn test her by being her normal frnd,.,
I agree with your advice. But, if he cannot be her friend without feeling pain or anxiety about her feelings toward him and if she could date him, he should leave her alone for a while. Don’t you agree?
This girl, I liked her for 3 years now. She’s 15 and I’m 14 but we were in the same academic year. I used to chat with her a lot through msn messenger and the mistake I made was that I did not talk much to her in person because I was shy and we were not from the same class. We have moved on to different secondary schools and I did not contact her for a year. Recently I texted her and she replied me but when she said she was going to sleep soon, I said goodnight and she didn’t reply me, even the next day. And she didn’t reply my other smses (I didn’t spam her). But when I texted her asking if I could send her a teddy and roses, she said “yup 😊😊” and replied my next few texts. She agreed to meet me and text me when she came back from her trip to her home country. But when I asked her when she was leaving, she didn’t reply me. I’m very confused by her. Any help? I would really appreciate it.
look im a gal n it jst means she’s not interested in u she jst wants u for the gifts she didn’t answer those txt because she might have met someone else but jst to let u know go for another gal that’s interested in u not for the gifts for u.
Don’t make things difficult for yourself. Call her up and say, “I know this may sound crazy and maybe even freak you out, but I have to ask you. Would you consider going out with me? Don’t worry about her not texting you back. Girls answer and send about a thousand texts a day. DO NOT TEXT HER ANYMORE. CALL her and talk to her. Trust me dude, if you don’t start trying now to be bold and get straight answers, you are going to get played. NEVER assume, ASK in person. Be bold. If this girl is really pretty and has a lot of guys texting her, that gives her power too screw with your head because she has options. If she has 100 options, and you have none, so what. Be the guy that has the balls to call her, and ask her to meet you at the mall, or at a movie. Come on strong and you will get strong answers. If she is not ready for commitment because she has a lot of choices, then let her know how you feel, then cut her loose. It is SO weird how girls are really attracted to guys that can REALLY walk away from them.
yaar she cares for me,.,.talks to me too.,.
but she lies to me too,,.
she talks to few other guys in a very open way,.,.
she was my girlfriend,.,n she says to evryone dat i was her best boyfrnd.,
i try to ignore her nowadays but its too dificult,.,
at d same time i m afraid to talk to her,..
wat shud i do,.,can any1 help me???
priyam…..im a girl and if she lies to you and talks openly she probly got disinterested…apparently shes not ashame that you were her bf… are you two on friendship terms? If you are then totally talk to her but as a friend if not well……you can still talk to her as a friend… just be cool about it.
she’s into u but then she likes usin u but i don’t know if this gal is lke the other ones but she might really be into u but then she might jst like tellin people that she goes wit u n all that
yaar she cares for me,.,.talks to me too.,.
but she lies to me too,,.
she talks to few other guys in a very open way,.,.
she was my girlfriend,.,n she says to evryone dat i was her best boyfrnd.,
i try to ignore her nowadays but its too dificult,.,
at d same time i m afraid to talk to her,.
hi everyone, I got upset a text message from my partner s daughter texted me a message what my partner called her daughter what my partner says shut off her phone and she had her family member in the death in rhode island and my partner go with her sister in connecitut out of town. I asked her i want to know honest if my partner doesnt want to see me. I am surprised. thank for tell. I cried everynight. She is not interested in me anymore. she did cheated and lied me in past. i caught her cheated on website and my partner did talked to other woman on website. it hardly trust my partner cux she did cheated and lied to me in past. i guess i go moving forward not backward over. I prefer looking for the honest person and good treat, friendly, sweet, understand, respect. I am not okay hard for me. I still cry everyday no stop. my heart broke and i love her more. she doesnt want me anymore and she ignored me. i tried to text her many time so she spoke out to me she says leave me alone thank you. I am sensitive. I am big soft heart and i love her. i let her go bye
Hey guys, i got an issue where the girl i was dating, told me that we lost connection, or she did whatver the case,and that shes not intrested in me anymore, and when i tried txting her back she would not reply me back, and now its been a few days about it. my question is, how can i get her interest back? the situation is more deep then this, but its too long to write, so im just asking this, should i apply the no contact? for how long? and who should make the first move to inniciate a convo, if i was the last persone to conatct and never got a reply?
First you need to be strong know that she is playing mind game with you. Call her to talk things over and if she doesn’t pick your call leave her a message wanting to know what went wrong and how you can make it better. She may ignore you or never call you back. My final advise to you is to move forward and erase her from your thought b/c you will always meet and date someone more prettier and beautiful than her.
hello people i see that, everyone is trying to get an advise, am in need of one to, i met this girl from college, shes really beautiful, smart and very religious, she asked me to go church with her, so i said shes because i wanted to spend more times with her, our friend ship is mainly based on church thats like the only times we see each other an talk, we talk on the phone sometimes and go to the park sometimes but the main thing is the church thats keeping us as friends, 4 months later i have decieded to let her know how i feel about her, it wasnt face to face it was by a text message so i have told how i felt about her by text, she replied back by saying she was only interested in being friends and nothing else…its been to years now and the more i got to know her the more am falling in love with her, i have not asked her agian just that once, do you guys think i should ask her again its been 2 years now …..i would appricate it if i get a response from a female thanks everyone
ok question for somebody….I’ve known this girl for a couple years, we used to work together and she alweays had the biggest crush on me but i was dating someone else so we didnt get together…ok its 2 years later and she randomly messages me on FB and tells me to come see her. We both have fun on seeing each other again. I ask if she wants to go to dinner tommorrow, she says she would love to, and for 2 weeks everything is going great, i come visit her nights as she bartends and talk with her, we go out some nights for drinks. 2 weeks into it, we are kissing and I make the decision that I want to ask this girl out and make it official..I make plans with her that night and she says shes hungover so i figure i can ask her another night. the next day her grandmother dies, and i dont hear from her for 4 days when she tells me “sorry I’ve been so distant, I’m just having a hard time.” couple days go by, i try to talk to her, text her, message her…nothing. couple more days and she finally replies and tells me thanks for the support and its nothing going on is my fault everything seems to be great…its now been 2 weeks and I’m starting to wonder if I got played…the last time she replied to me was a week ago when she told me it wasnt my fault, and she keeps poting all these pictures of her partying it up with friends on FB, and I still havent heard a word since (sounds like shes having a terrible time adjusting doesnt it!!?)…so what does this mean?? is she legitely having a hard time and trying to forget or is she done with me???? PLEASE HELP (PS…the reason i have hope is on a couple dates she told me “this is going to be a great relationship”, and “I had the biggest crush on you, I’m so glad were talking now”, SEE HOW CONFUSING THIS ALL IS!???)
i met this girl at work and we were going seeing each other for a while. We were getting to know each other and we kissed after like 2 or 3 weeks. Then after that, she said that i like you but i just wanna be friends. So i just talked to her at work and txted her. then she stoped texting me like she did, and seems like she tries to avoid me at work. She does not really give eye contact and i try to talk to her and she is not really open to talking like hows it going or whatever. Does she think i am annoying or is she just being herself?
Hi! I really love this girl from my class. While she told me she was breaking with her boyfriend and i was waiting for her like about 9 months for her. But she still keeps contracting her boyfriend while leaving me like a piece of shit. I sms her and she will sometimes never reply at all. I feel jealous
Pls help
I really like this girl and we’ve been talking and hanging out A LOT. She just got out of a 2 year relationship with a girl (she’s bi)..we enjoy eachother’s company a lot, but whenever i say or text something like ‘i really want to tell you how much i enjoy your company’..she wont respond to it or ignores any type of situation where a convo like that would come up (via email or text) …i havent told her something like that in person, but what could it mean if theyre avoiding that kind of talk–but still hang out with you a lot? Am i in the friend zone? She doesnt really talk to me about other people she’s interested or anything either…HELP! what do i do? Should i just lay it on the line or give her more time and just be a friend since she just got out of something? I dont want to ruin my position.
i met this girl in my photography class. we are very touchy feely ( we sit next to each other) and i have gone to hang out with her once, but didn’t end up asking her out on a date. when ive texted her (ive initiated texts with here 4 or 5 times) she doesn’t normaly respond. she told me that she really ddoesnt like to text, but i feel like she might not feel the same about me. help
Hey,
I met a girl this year, in my high school. She’s one grade below me but only a month younger. Anyway, i started talking to her at the beginning of the year, and we pretty much talk every night. Pretty soon, I realized I really liked her. We have alot in common and she is a really cool girl who has had one boyfriend in the past but recently ended a non-committed relationship to another guy. We were both at a party not too long ago, and she asked me who I liked there, I told her Her. We kept talking after that for a while but she was kinda distant the rest of the night. Ive talked to her about it more recently as well. She says she like alot of things about me when we talk, but She told me she didnt want to hurt me. Did I come on too fast, knowing her only for 2 months or so and her just ending things (not like they were dating) with someone else? She never ignores me when i text/IM her, but she rarely instigates the conversations. Thanks.
I experience all of the above with all the girls I find attractive.
well, if she does do all of the things above, either she is way to shy, like new girls in senior year in high school, or so not interested that she just wants to be polite to you because she doesnt want to hurt your feelings
but if she doesnt ignore you for txt mesaage/IM,calling, etc, then there is a chance she might just MIGHT like u back,
hi i meet this girl and i think i fall in love with her and she stay with the same block and same floor with me so i did not have her contact number and when we go out with the girl mother,the mother call us to go for sport or go swimming and her mother is not going when we taking train(is pack so we separted) when i look at her she will turn away and when we eating she will say like:i am full can you help me eat some, so i agree to share with her and she was like call me big brother sometime when she start talking to me she wont say my name and when we eating dinner she will say i wont eat beef so she give it to me so i think she trying to know me more like how much fat i am or what my favourite thing i also ask her back and when i tell any lame joke she also find it funny does this mean she like me?? or what? please reply.
i think she is a shy type cos when her mother say go for sport she will like i no time but she will postpone the date of when we go for sport
can HELP pls reply
Ronald, right now you have nothing to worry about. Is sounds like she likes you, but as you say she is shy. IF the chemistry grows, she will begin to have deeper feelings about you. You will know because she will have more physical contact with you, like sitting close to you and much more eye contact. When you are out together and walking side by side, JUST touch her hand. Let her place her hand in yours. Now if she pulls away, that is a problem. YOU MUST BE A MAN and take charge of this situation. If she rejects touch or eye contact. BACK OFF! Stay away from her for a week. Don’t be rude, just use body language that says YOU ARE A MAN and if she does not like you the way you like her you can MOVE ON. If she misses you, she will let you know. She will make a point to be seen and will want to talk to you. DON’T WORRY it can work if you play your cards right. You may have to do a lot of waiting. It sucks, but if she is shy, she has to come to you. NOW, if you are impatient and want to know right away. AKS HER if she likes you.
ok. so ive liked this girl for a while and she has a twin. i like one of them as more then a friend but i don’t like the other one the same, i just like her as a friend. the one that i like, gave me her number when i told her that i could sing really good. we started talking and in the beggining she would text me and we would talk very often . one day i decided to ask her out, but she said that she doesn’t want a boyfriend. she still told me that i was cute and i told her if she was lieing(she said she wasnt) and we talked for a while after. then we stopped talking for a while. weve also hung out alot and weve become preety good friends. she also stares at me form across the hall sometimes and really looks at me alot as if to try and get my attention. sometimes she doesn’t do that and i have to look at her to get her attention. recently she has also not been answering texts that i sent her. could it be because i was going out with another girl, event tho i already broke up with her. i also haven’t mentioned if she wants to go out again because i haven’t had the right moment mostly because shes always with her sister and i don’t want to ask only the one that i like somewhere and not the other because i feel bad. might she like me or not?
If she is not returning texts, then don’t text her any more. Don’t be offended. Girls text A LOT. She may have waited too long to return your text and feels stupid answering you an hour after you texted her. She has to text you now. The “I don’t want a boyfriend right now” and the “looking at you from across the hall” is a game. DON’T play that game. She KNOWS she could have you if she wanted to. So, BE A MAN and go out with friends. Become unavailable, mysterious, and if she wants to talk, FOR GOD’S SAKE just listen to her, and don’t talk to much because the more you say the more trouble you could get into. This may be a little hard for you, but you do not seem to be a challenge for her at all. Just back off, let time pass without any contact until she contacts you. You are already in the ball park, because she said your cute. Let her come to you. Don’t be easy to get because I seriously do not think she is interested in being pursued. She may want to be the pursuer. Let her come after you. Remember, she said you are cute, if she wants some of that cute guy, she will go after it.
thanks, i really appreciate it.
I have this problem; I have known this girl for quite some time now. I have been her best friend for 3 months and a few days now. When we started, she was happy to have met me and at that time I didn’t like her as a lover. But my birthday came and we held hands like were more than friends. We have been sending emails, letters and text messages but these days she does most of the things on the list above and when I tell her to let me go, she says that if she does, it would break her heart more than a family member dying. Her birthday is coming up and I plan to do something big for it before I really let her go silently by shutting down all communication with her. She tells me not to buy her a present but I still feel I need to. She has everything I wanted in a girl, but she is too tied up with her life. I send her encouragements and other messages to lighten up her day but now I cannot hold on to our friendship because her existence in my life as my best friend is too much for me to handle. I think about her all the time, I care about her, I love her more than just a friend and now I’m trying to let her go. She knows everything about me, my email, my facebook, my number, my home address and most of my family. What should I do?
That is easy. If she is a reasonable girl, then you owe her “the talk”. Go to her and talk to her face to face. Make sure it is in a public place. Tell her you do not feel the same way as you used to. Make suer she knows it is nothing she has done, but that you just want to move on because you just do not love her anymore. Once a “normal ” girl hears “I don’t love you anymore” she will be out of your life completely and you will not have to worry about any of your concerns. Make suer you blank her completely out of her your life. Don’t answer her calls, e-mails or texts. A CLEAN and ABSOLUTELY clear break is essential here. Don’t be too gentle or she will think she has a second chance.
I love this site, it is really informative. I hope people are still listening because I have one hell of a problem. I have been alone for 10 years now. Because of my job and the responsibilities, I have neglected to get out there and meet other people, socialize and find new friends. I have been prying for a woman to come into my life but not really feeling that it would work because chicks are not attracted to loners with no friends. Then out of no where BAM I met this perfect chick on line and we have been dating for 4 weeks. She is JUST want I have been looking for 10 years now. UNFORTUNATELY as I suspected, my total anti social behavior has taken its toll on me and I am afraid I am going to loose this girl now. She is struggling with the fact that she has this BIG BIG life full of friends she is very close to. I have myself and the TV. Waiting around with nothing to do until we go out is very unhealthy. She knows I have no friends so where is the mystery? Where is the intrigue? Why would she put up with that? Now what in the heck am I going to do?
If you really love her you would change for her…if not then dont bother and just get on with your life like what you have been doing for the past 10 years for the next 10,20, 30 years and beyond…
Hmmmm, “Change for her” wow I can see you are offering some insightful advice, for your abilities. I was hoping for a more in depth evaluation from a equally insightful bloger as I have been reading.
correction-ask the one that i like somewhere and not the other because i dont want to make her feel bad.*
ok. so ive liked this girl for a while and she has a twin. i like one of them as more then a friend but i don’t like the other one the same, i just like her as a friend. the one that i like, gave me her number when i told her that i could sing really good. we started talking and in the beggining she would text me and we would talk very often . one day i decided to ask her out, but she said that she doesn’t want a boyfriend. she still told me that i was cute and i told her if she was lieing(she said she wasnt) and we talked for a while after. then we stopped talking for a while. weve also hung out alot and weve become preety good friends. she also stares at me form across the hall sometimes and really looks at me alot as if to try and get my attention. sometimes she doesn’t do that and i have to look at her to get her attention. recently she has also not been answering texts that i sent her. could it be because i was going out with another girl, event tho i already broke up with her. i also haven’t mentioned if she wants to go out again because i haven’t had the right moment mostly because shes always with her sister and i don’t want to ask only the one that i like somewhere and not the other because i feel bad. might she like me or not?
Hi, everyone I met this girl who is my junior in grad school..she makes me speechless even though she is not that beautiful..I cannot what so ever open my mouth I front of her. I talk to her friends and everybody else normally..but when it comes to her ntngs happening…I really like her and want get to know her better…I don’t know if she is interested in me coz she always travel in a pack…both her friends and mine are pretty OK with each other and we all hang out…she doesn’t text me regularly or sometimes doesn’t even reply.. now the question is, Can I ask her out?? Is she interested in me??
Why dont you ask your/her friends for some help? you can go out in a smaller group like 3 or 4 and proceed from there…
this is helpful this girl i liked still do kind of she does all these things she never calls i have to call she does not care about the things goin on in my life just talk about her old boy friend i going to let her soon thank you for these tips
@Ron……oh my gosh, your “wiff” comment was hilarious! So true. I’m dying of laughter over here.
I met a guy online and we haven’t met in person yet and we aren’t even dating, but I already don’t even want to meet him in person anymore. I thought he was really nice, good looking, cool, the works at first, then I started losing interest because he would freak out if I didn’t text him back right away. I had asked him repeatedly to stop freaking out because I don’t have my phone glued to my hand all the time. I DO HAVE A LIFE YA KNOW! He would always apologize and say “I’m sorry, I won’t do it again, I promise.” What a shocker, he didn’t keep his promise. I’m still kind of talking to him, but I don’t wanna hurt his feelings. I just want him to go away. Tonight, he did it again. Texting me and freakin out like a big baby. He puts “lol” at the end of every text when he refers to the time it takes for me to reply. I told him its not funny, but he just won’t stop! Ten minutes after he said “ok, I get it. I won’t say anything else because I don’t wanna scare you away”…..he said “is this better? Lol”. What is this guys malfunction?! How can I tell him I don’t want to talk to him anymore without being a bitch?
Hi i need help.
It’s about this girl I like in school and when i transfered to this school the girl i liked didnt even know me or even met me before,but she said hi constantly.when she came up to me and asked my name she was surprised and ran off excited (she knew three people with the same name) i dont know why its so suprising but after school she walked up to me and talked to me about socializing with girls more and how i havent got a girlfriend when i had a few. at the end of the day she asked for a hug,i gave her one. everyday she would give me a hug, its been a week now and i would be very happy to know if this girl likes me or not.
are you a piece of wood or what? of coz she likes you! I mean you would not want to hug someone you are not interested in right? Go for it? She’s yours for the taking…
hi everyone i really need help.recently i met this girl from a different school.my school had a badminton match friendly with her school and one of my friends who is playing asked me to go there to support our school. i did not regret it–this girl i saw,she’s a player too and she’s very very cute.after the match i got her facebook account and started chatting with her.well basically what i did was just say hello and we both commented on that day’s match. that was all.we’ve never communicated since then. can anyone tell me how should i make my next move? thank you =)
Of course, keep on engaging into conversations, slowly moving into personal topics such as family. And read 31 Ways to Make a Girl Smile!
wat can i do
hi i was wondering if someone can help me. Theres this girl i like in school and i dont know if she likes me. We both have each others phone numbers and we text alot to each other. lately when i ask her if she wants to hang out she allways says wat we gonna do. like if i suggest wanna hang at ur place or mine she say wat we gonna do and it she takes a long time to respond back
How about suggesting a movie or dessert?
If she says I am not handsome while her ex-bf are more handsome, wat does that means?
Hey Guys,
I really like this girl; been hanging out with her for about 2 months. We have very good chemistry and we connect on a high level. She has a complicated situation given she broke up with her ex after 1 year. She wanted free time before another relationship but then she met me and she likes me a lot, but she can’t give me a “commitment” (yes) yet… She is scared of the school year being too overwhelming, etc. If she liked me a lot, wouldn’t the school year not matter????
Also, I clearly like her more than than she likes me, openly at least. I usually initiate conversations. She doesn’t feel fully comfortable next to me (she says it’s because of her “situation”).
Is something off here, or can this be a normal girl???????????
Try to give her the cold shoulder for a while, and tell her that since she is not comfy to be stead you two will just remain as good frens…then keep repeating the words good frens to her in your conversations subsequently and keep a little distance from her…if she likes you there is bound to be a response…the key is to make the girl feel anxious for you and the sense of loss to make them realise what they are missing without you around…
Hi, i have only one problem, i am looking for a girl long time, she is different from other girls, she is studying with me, she usually don’t speak to any boys in the class, but she speaks with me, first she only send a request in social network, on that time she don’t speak directly to me but she chat with me, after sometime she starts speaks with me, then i felt love with her, my friends initiate me to tell my love to her. 1 month ago i send a email that explains how much i love her, the quick reply come with “don’t have such kind of attitude towards me, i want to be unique”, then for a week she don’t speak and chat with me, then after sometime she chat with me. Then she looks on me with smile, and touches my hand when situation occurs, but while i chat with her , i am only initiating the chat and she simply give reply what i am asking, so i am frustrated, it irritates me so the chat finishes within 5mins but if she wants something in homework she ask me while chatting, i think she using me. I am totally confused. I don’t know she is loving me or not. My question is she rejects my proposal and why she talks to me and tell everything to her friends? . I don’t know what to do. Please someone help me . Pls i need ur help
just because she rejected your proposal doesnt mean you guys cant be friends. and the reason she’s keeping distance is because she’s thinking about the proposal or she thinks by keeping distance it will lower your feelings for her.
K what i have to do to make her to love me
Pls tell Julia
I have a girl who i love alot to the extend that her friends, and neighbours knew about it , i call her more than 3 times er day and talk alot on phone, bt i find it difficult to go out with her to dinner or a date because ishe always give out reasons for her cancellation like i never go out with a man on dates so i dont want to go. What can i know about it because i want to marry her..Pls help.
maybe she’s just nervous type, take her out with her friend to “hangout” dont declare its a date soon over time if she really likes you she will over time be able to hangout with you alone.
I have a girl who i love alot to the extend that her friends, and neighbours knew about it , i call her more than 3 tumes er day and talk alot on phone, bt i find it difficult to go out with her to dinner or a date because ishe always give out reasons for her cancellation like i never go out with a man on dates so i dont want to go. What can i know abpout it because i want to marry her..Pls help.
This is somewhat real (partially, ends up in different ways) and is fun to read to.
hi…i have some problems..i like one girl…i am 22 and she is 18 …but she sometimes calls me ‘bro’..i think this is because she thinks that i am her brother because one of my cousin and she,both are cousin..so actually she is not my sister …i know it’s complicated..but actually in relation we aren’t brother sister as she thinks…but i afraid to tell her that we aren’t brother sister..cause i think if i go to explain her she might think that i am trying on her ..and she might stop talking to me..and most bad thing is that she is 4 years elder than me and living in different state..so i can’t be there with her to be as close as much also…and my cousin is also agree with relationship with her….but don’t know what to do…can anyone help me please…????
I’ve known this girl for about 2 years now and at about the 1 year mark something happened and we lost total trust of each other. It was resolved rather quickly but it still happened. Now were getting along really well she tells me everything from past boyfriends to how her day was. We even make plans for the weekends. I really like this girl, but I really do not know if she likes me. Just this past weekend we took a trip up to Cedar Point. Got each other to go on all the roller coasters talked about how we make up for each others fears and all that. Right after we eat though she starts talking about her past ex’s and then starts talking about this other guy who she is confused on if she should go out with or not. I just say do what ever you think is right and we go on the ride. Right before we leave I start talking with a bunch of friendly ladies. She seemed to get a little jealous when I was just asking them some questions about the ride. We leave shortly after and on the way back she barely talks to me in the car just completely silent. I would really like to know if I upset her in anyway shape or form, and if she actually likes me. Thank you so much if you can help me.
Man this is so true , i can tick on every point mentioned here and all from one girl ..the birthday gift part was the exact thing she said haha ….
Yeah she said she eas coming over and never made it. There is back ground noise on her fone. I just hung up on her. I mean if there is nothing then go where u are wanting to be. I hate phonies
Yeah, right, women, are confusing,
Ah, and we also talk to each other through video calls all the time. But she shows me pictures of other hot guys and i don’t know what she means by that. Does she treat me as a good friend?
I have been friends with this girl for awhile. We’ve been talking on MSN almost every other day and it seems that we are actually quite good friends. I like her, but i don’t know if she likes me or not. I have asked her out (on msn) before to the movies and she said okay in a not excited way like “okay…..” I am really confused. There was also a time when it was raining and i was holding the umbrella to shelter both of us. She wanted to hold the umbrella instead of me holding it, what does this mean? (The umbrella was borrowed from one of our friends that we met before walking out of the sheltered area). Please give me advise. Thanks!
ma grl is diffrent shes never sayd she likes me but were very close.
I met a girl Online, I used to chat with her. Soon We become good friends. Then i got job and i changed my city, i updated my phone number online. She contact me on my number, till than i never asked for her number. Then we started texting, at that time also i used to chat with her rarely. This happens for 6 months, i used to contact her once a week, it was going well. Then i resigned from my job, back to my old city. Now i started liking her as a FRIEND, so i used to contact her frequently, i.e texting her daily, for some days it went well, then now she started Ignoring me. Its been last 15 days she have not sent me any text or called me, even i did not coz i’m expecting her to initiate, I really don’t know whats going on her mind? I like her very much, I miss her. What should i do?
I met this girl at a party, we talked for ages, and got to know her fairly well even though it was our first meeting. I thought she was great and really liked her. We have each others numbers and text a lot, although it always seems to be me who texts her, she always replies but i have to make the conversation and she has only started the text conversation a few times. When I asked to meet up she said “it depends when i have time off work” then she said “maybe next week” although earlier in the day we had told each other when we were on holiday. Really confused don’t no what to do….
u c i really like a girl we r good friends and all but she talks about other guys and call me her bro but i think she has some feelings for me iv blown it with many girls before not crossing the friend barier so when school starts back up ill find out if she as a bf if not ill make my move wish me luck im in <3 with her
Several Points to make from reading this article…
1. The person who wrote it must be 16, due to the various grammatical errors on it.
2. I wish someone would’ve sent me this article several years back.
3. What guy would want to go out with a “self absorbed” girl?
4. To me it almost seems as if this article is implying that “any” girl can get with any guy they choose. Where is the “How to tell if a guy is NOT interested in your” sister article?
This sounds just like me with my ex.
Im the opposite with my current boyfriend <3
Who loves me?
if a girl isnt interested in you she keeps her distance,she doesnt talk to you,and she always looks anoyed when you talk to her.
my own opinion is that men shuld think wisely. i have a girl for almost two years now.each time i ask her about going out shewill refuse. she will come to my street to visit her friends without coming to my do u think dat is a good girl who i can love?
I fallen in love with some one who visits our home some times. i made quite good relations with her. she often came to my room and watch her favorite channels and believed me as her friend but one day when i expressed that ”i am fallen in love wid u” she just went out of my room and after some minutes she said ” I AM NOT THAT TYPE OF GIRL” and left next time when she came to visit. she wasn’t giving me lift and answered only my serious questions when i asked her that y r u so rude she often reply’s nothing. thats clear that she dont want to be my gf so what shud u do?? ur kind reply will be appreciated.
can someone tell me how to know if a girl that doesn’t talk 2 u fancies u,itz 4 my guy friend?
Yeah, that sounds about right to me. The comment above is right too, that if a person likes you they’ll keep the conversation going. Or at least will try to if they’re not all that sociable. If a girl only answers you in yes/no type responses and DOES NOT INITIATE ONLINE CONVERSATIONS ever if you have her on facebook or whatever, she doesn’t like you.
Suitcase flying at me from the window is usually a clue
Following by the potted ficus I bought her for Valentines…hey it was in a pink pot!!
I agree. Most guys seem to think that girls want more freedom and independence or whatever, so they can do the asking, but, speaking from my own point of view, guys should still be the ones doing the asking. I am shy and i don’t want to be the one put on the spot. Plus, guys are less likely to get rejected than girls.
yeh, some of these apply a little but not all. like you said it doesn’t apply to all girls. im really into this girl at my school but the weird thing is shes like heeeyyyy one minute and the next she just ignores me, that was on the list but still no others were so i might still have a chance…
Oh, about the girl saying she just wants to be friends but she likes you, I cant speak for every girl, but if you are still in school or university, girls might be telling the truth about that. That they really like you but since they feel young they want to keep you as a friend and think about their studies at the moment. Also, they may not want to jump straight into a relationship if they are shy or not used to that since they are young. They might want to see you as a friend first, and the a bit later they will know you better and have the confidence to decide to be a girlfriend. I remember having this problem when I first started university, where guys misunderstood me. I was very shy and I wasnt used to having a boyfriend, so Id say I like you very much but I dont know you so well, Im not ready just yet, I want to focus on my studies, but if we can go out as friends, maybe in a couple of months I’ll be ready to be your girlfriend. Some guys didnt understand that when I said that and just got very angry and ditched me, and it hurt me very very much since I had actually liked them a lot, I had just wanted to go more slowly and have time to think a bit first. When I realize I shouldnt have said that, since I hadnt meant for the guy to dump me but just to slow down a bit, I would try to talk to the guy again about it to explain better, but the guy would take revenge by pretending he had never asked me to be his girlfriend, and telling me to get lost. To me he had almost been a boyfriend, so I was very hurt. This also happened to a couple of my girl friends. One reason a girl might say that too is if her parents try to tell her to only be friends with guys and focus on her studies, as mine did. But if the girl gets to know you, so long as you treat her well and dont push her, she will normally decide to be with you anyway even if her parents dont want it. I would have done that even though my parents were telling me not to if the guys had given me a chance. And guys have also told me sometimes that they need a bit more time first, so if guys can say that, so can girls. I know about another case like that in China where the girl was a university student and really liked the guy but she had had a bad experience before him and since he was from Europe she was also afraid that he would go back home and not be serious about her. She also had to focus on her studies and not get hurt by him in the middle of the school year. He decided to stick by her and be her friend but he also told her that although he respected her, he did really like her more than a friend. A bit later she did become his girlfriend and now they are married.
Just go with the situation, every case is different. Girls get hurt too.
Im Western, but even in the West there are many guys who dont feel comfortable if the girl asks them out if they like each other more than friends, so many girls are nervous to show too much of their feelings, or to initiate contact. Many girls have also been told by everyone that they should let the guy be the one to initiate most of the contact, and that if they do anything like that they might be pushing him which would turn him off. I actually had bad experiences in the past in the West with guys who I was just being a little friendly to, when i realized they liked me, without even talking directly about my feelings or asking them out, who then flipped out, saying I had pushed them, and dumped me before even making me their girlfriend even though they had said that that was what they wanted to do. I also had guys in the West who were already asking me out, who flipped out and dumped me when I then got brave enough to invite them to something with a group of my friends. One of these guys even told me that only he should be calling me and asking me out. I then decided that it was best that I never ask any guy I liked out. There are a lot of guys like that out there, even more in the West (Ive lived in both cultures), so many girls have had bad experiences and would rather wait for the guy to call them, just in case they do the wrong thing by accident.
Some girls also want the guy to do most of the initiating to prove his seriousness, since there are many guys, even more in the West, who are not serious at all, and only want to have fun with different girls, and it is hard to tell them apart from the serious ones, and the girls dont want to be hurt.
About the girl talking about her emotional things before she is a girlfriend, girls are sensitve, sometimes they have personal stress which they need to share with a friend, and since before being a boyfriiend the guy is usually a friend on some level or other, the girl sometimes might have a problem and have no one else to talk to, and even though she doesnt want to bother her friends, if she feels she trusts that guy who likes her, she might end up confiding in him about her problem. That actually means she likes and trusts him, and if he shows he cares enough to try to help her or at least to listen to her talk about the problem and encourage her, he can also demonstrate to her how much he cares, and that he likes her more than in just a superficial or physical way. That doesnt necessarily mean she will then become his girlfriend since she may only like him as a friend, but if she does like him more than a friend and he seems sincere in his concern, it might help her to be more interested in becoming his girlfriend since girls like a guy who is caring and not just a guy who is macho and only thinking of himself.
Some of the comments above may apply to certain girls, but you cant generalize them; you have to get to understand the particular girl that you like and not just write her off if she is doing any of the above things.
love is very sweet when you really loves a person, no matter if she/he loves you or not.
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shell tell you when she’s hanging out with your friends or other guys
A girl will usually just be absent and smile a lot at you if she’s not that into you. I know for me that when I’m not into a guy I’ll either try to ignore his texts or advances. You should just straight up ask her if she likes you. It’ll give you an answer and then you can move on to someone who does like you. Girls become very uncomfortable when guys make advences on them and they don’t like them. You can usually tell if they shift away from you, smile but not talk etc…good luck to guys out there. Also be accepting of that fact and don’t come on strong it just scares them away even more.
I think she won’t just look you eye ball to eye ball.
There is this girl. She has told me she likes me, but doesn’t want a relationship. Then we decided we were going to just be friends and I started to pull away. Granted she was drunk when she said this, but she told me that she didn’t want me to hook up with anybody. Why would she say this if it was her idea to just be friends?
She’s scared that if your guys are more than friend that if something goes wrong in the relationship it could cause you guys not to be friends. at the same time she would be jealous if you dated other girls.
Why is it my girlfriend who always says she loves me does almost everything on this list.. :\
Hmm, she does exactly the oppossite of all those things, what does that mean?
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Agree on most parts but I suggest you modify “she rarely initiates a call or sms to you” … to…. “she never sends you an SMS. If she replies, she only replies out of respect, no implications of attraction to you whatsoever. She replied hoping he’ll shut the F up.
Also, if a girl is NOT interested, she will NEVER allow the guy to ask her out on a date. For the record, It’s not called a date…a girl’s tactic to ditch him perhaps?
Note to the clueless guys out there, there’s a fine line between playing hard to get and GO AWAY. So pay attention, before it punctures your ego.
He told me that he likes me . But I never take it seriously because he is a sweet talker.
Personally , I’m too shy to express how I feel for him . I would like guys to approach me first. In my situation , I will never initiate a conversation with him. I called him brother. I told him all my problems. I pretend I never care for him. Sometimes , I dont even sms back to him. I talk about other guys to him . I do not want to meet him. The only reason I did the exact opposite actions is I’m afraid that he does not like me . When things started to become more serious , I start to freak out and back off. In the end , I’m still stuck in this special friendship that we have and nothing more than that . We concern for each other like siblings do . I know I ‘m stupid for not putting any efforts to be with the guy whom I really loved. Everyday , I stay out late just to see him online ! how terrible is that.
theres this girl, we went out once for a movie and hanged out at the mall. everything went great and all but on the next day she never answered any of my text messages until now, i still want to text her and go out with her if she wants but it seems like shes not into me. what should i do?
I am bound to be a virgin for my entire life.
I find it so hard to take the lead, coz im not good with girls and im scared of regection
i also dont want to beak up w/ my gf
there is this girl i like she like me too but i have my gf snooping around wat should i do please help by da way im 13
alright, here is my story hopefully I can get some responses on here. I know this girl who just broke up with her boyfriend. I have known her for 2 years and through 2 boyfriends at this point. We have always flirted back and forth but I think mostly because we have the same off brand sense of humor. I am overweight and I know that isn’t supposed to matter but I will put it out there anyways. This girl on the otherhand is georgious and all the guys seem to be interested in her. So like I said, I have been flirting with her for a long time (even when she had a boyfriend). It was always playful but she recently started becoming (what seems) genuinely interested in my life more than usual. Although she shows alot of interest she does occasionally walk the other way after we have a brief conversation (but she always comes back). She will walk up behind me often and play with my hair or just stand right behind me. Just last night she sat on the counter really close to me (so we were touching) and sat farther away from the other girl that was next to her. She even at one point rested her head on my shoulder briefly, then lifted it. Enter my roommate. My roommate is leaving for Spain in a month to live there for a couple years. I have noticed that when someone mentions his name she becomes really interested. Last night at the same time she was getting close to me…when I mentioned my roommate’s name quietly to my friend she asked what I said. I acted like I didn’t hear her at first and then she asked again what I said. I almost know for a fact that she likes my roommate (the guy is really attractive) but I need to know if she likes me too. WIth me it seems like she is really interested in me personally but with my roommate it seems almost like a school girl crush but she never asks him personal questions, just laughs at his jokes. I know for a fact that she is a virgin though so she is not just trying to hook up with this guy. Her last boyfriend was a long distance relationship and it started that way (lasting around 5 months) so I don’t think she is against another one but Spain? I doubt it. We live in Arkansas. I need to ask her how she feels but it might be too soon she broke up with her boyfriend only a couple weeks ago. I would much rather prefer to find out through signals and the information I have posted here. Can anyone (preferably a girl) tell me if she likes me or is this not enough info to tell. I really don’t want to embarass myself because we both go to the same campus ministry and see each other every week. I don’t want things to be awkward but I stayed up last night thinking about this…I can’t get her out of my head
I want to add that I we are catholic and we (as a group of 5) were praying the rosary and while this was going on I was playing instrumental guitar to keep the mood. At one point I looked up and she was already looking at me. She didn’t turn away but gave me this very sincere stare and a faint smile almost like she was straight up telling me she liked me and wanted me to know that.
I want to add that I we are catholic and we (as a group of 5) were praying the rosary and while this was going on I was playing instrumental guitar to keep the mood. At one point I looked up and she was already looking at me. She didn’t turn away but gave me this very sincere stare and a faint smile almost like she was straight up telling me she liked me and wanted me to know that. Also she flirts with everyone not just me but with me alot more than everyone else. Everytime we are in a group our eyes constantly lock when everyone is joking around. Another thing we share is awkwardness. We love making each other feel awkward for fun so a lot of times when I am looking for something more sincere to talk about she falls back on that awkward sense of humor almost to cover her nerves.
@ Me…..Don’t think nobody likes u because you’re ugly or somethings….it just because people have different way to express their felling…For my experience, when i really like a guy, It is really hard for me to look straight in his eyes….but most people think that when u dont like his or her then you dont make eyes contact with his/her…Be confident Goodluck
Not all of these above true…..Because when a shy girl likes a boy , she is really shy to make eyes contact with him.
All of the above is how wmen treat me. it hurts a lot. i wonder if I am really ugly or something. I feel like it because no women are ever interested in me. wish i oculd help not being ugly. But I guess there are things that a person just can not change. It hurts because it is something I have to deal with every day.
hey ive recently started talking with a girl that i havent seen for 4 yrs and so far weve gonne on 2 dates in the past week and when i asked her out she said she wasnt ready for a relationship but she really really liked me and that she had just broken up with her last bf like 2weeks ago that she was with for 2 years. is there hope for me or should i just stop trying because shes not interested? pls help and respond.
She might be on the rebound Anthony. Take things slow and ask her again in a few months, that is, if she doesn’t cave in and tell you she’s ready before then.
Wow, u wouldn’t happen to be a guitar instructor would you?
Haha i might be a little late to this thread XD but i met this girl at school iv known her now for like 7 months and i like her but i always get this mixed signals from here like she flirts with me and then she stops and starts talking about some guy she likes but anyways i said i liked this other girl also but then they both rejected us so that was weird but we werent serious with them so now like a few weeks later her friend asked me to be her boyfriend and i said yes but just playing and she started saying stuff like ”Hhhmmm i was the one supposed to be your girlfriend” and ”Mmm she beat me to you” then she stopped and is like i have a boyfriend. And you know were good friends me and that girl we tell each other everything she says she really likes him and stuff but i dont know could she like me and just do that because shes shy or like upset about me and her friend?? or did she like me and stop? it would be great id somone answered this especially a girl thanks
I’m undergoing the same situation. A month of semi-Skype sex and a lot of talk about a future together then she stops talking to me. I’d suggest you tell her how you feel before she gets serious about her new boyfriend. Watch out for women bro, their hormones get the best of them even if they don’t admit it, it’s terrible.
Haha i might be a little late to this thread XD but i met this girl at school iv known her now for like 7 months and i like her but i always get this mixed signals from here like she flirts with me and then she stops and starts talking about some guy she likes but anyways i said i liked this other girl also but then they both rejected us so that was weird but we werent serious with them so now like a few weeks later her friend asked me to be her boyfriend and i said yes but just playing and she started saying stuff like ”Hhhmmm i was the one supposed to be your girlfriend” and ”Mmm she beat me to you” then she stopped and is like i have a boyfriend. And you know were good friends me and that girl we tell each other everything she says she really likes him and stuff but i dont know could she like me and just do that because shes shy or like upset about me and her friend?? or did she like me and stop?? it would be cool if a girl answered this or if anybody can answer this thanks XD
Haha i might be a little late to this thread XD but i met this girl at school iv known her now for like 7 months and i like her but i always get this mixed signals from here like she flirts with me and then she stops and starts talking about some guy she likes but anyways i said i liked this other girl also but then they both rejected us so that was weird but we werent serious with them so now like a few weeks later her friend asked me to be her boyfriend and i said yes but just playing and she started saying stuff like ”Hhhmmm i was the one supposed to be your girlfriend” and ”Mmm she beat me to you” then she stopped and is like i have a boyfriend. And you know were good friends me and that girl we tell each other everything she says she really likes him and stuff but i dont know could she like me and just do that because shes shy or like upset about me and her friend?? or did she like me and then stop?? it would be helpful if someone answered this especially a girl
Haha i might be a little late to this thread XD but i met this girl at school iv known her now for like 7 months and i like her but i always get this mixed signals from here like she flirts with me and then she stops and starts talking about some guy she likes but anyways i said i liked this other girl also but then they both rejected us so that was weird but we werent serious with them so now like a few weeks later her friend asked me to be her boyfriend and i said yes but just playing and she started saying stuff like ”Hhhmmm i was the one supposed to be your girlfriend” and ”Mmm she beat me to you” then she stopped and is like i have a boyfriend. And you know were good friends me and that girl we tell each other everything she says she really likes him and stuff but i dont know could she like me and just do that because shes shy or like upset about me and her frien?? or did she like me and not anymore? this would help if a girl can answer
It would help if you could learn how to use the PERIOD AND COMMA KEYS on your keyboard, instead of just the question mark. This is all so juvenile. I can’t believe I read this far down.
mm.. i tried all possible steps to let her know that i love her very much, but she is not responding at all, instead she said she is commited to some one else… why didn’t she said me earlier about her life that she has already a boy friend, now when i loosed my self for her, she is no interest in me, she don’t know, how much this will hurt me… i have no interest left in me..
The girl might not feel like talking or she could be really shy… Like me
Ok , there is this girl ive liked for a good while we used to plan to hang out and she always stood me up , rescently we started talking again , i questioned her about the reason she used to stand me up everytime we planned to hangout , she said the reason was that i was still talking to this chick she hated,(big m,istake) but i let her know i dont talk to that girl never will , and so on , we i know she likes me weve both told each other we like one another , i told her i like her more than she probably thinks i do ,but im wondering why she doesnt text back very often and when she does text me , she acts like its no problem that she ignores my texts,i really lik ethis girl and dont wanna lose her , wat to do guys?! shes a really tricky one:/ , anyone help me out here , she also on her fb post stuff like , “boredd at home by myself” , “life suckss, night” , i dont know what shes doing or wat but i seem a little led on sorta thing, help me out …
All comments and suggestions are outstanding! I’ve known this gal for eight years and I’ve been helping her with around the house, monies and tons of things. Not too long ago, she started mentioning about her ex hubby, ex boyfriend and a guy that had a crushed on her back in the days. I had heart pounding feelings for
her. I took her out to dinners and let her stay at the house…doors was always open. When I asked her out and made a move on her not too long ago, she rejected and told me that I wasn’t going to get it anyways. I felt so awkward and embarassed about it….and told me we’re friends. She comes by, still calls me and says hi and needs update of what I’m doing. Moreover, she needs help with other things as well. Still I have feelings for her eventhough I’m in the friends catagory. So now I am not too available to her, but I still have feelings for her. Whats next?
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cant cause im on a wii
Yea, yea if she is nt interested, she always gives you a lame excusess
Thats cool.
Hi I like this girl but i dont know if she likes me tell me what you think.
She gave me her phone # when i didnt like her yet (gave it to me without asking for it)
I called her and she said “I’m driving call me later” but she never called me back.
She sends her friend to tell me what type of perfume she likes.
One day she says hi and another she does not.
She doesn’t like me calling her right after school.
What do you think?
*also* she talks to me about other boys she went on dates with and says how creepy they are and what she expects from a boy who likes her. She also seems to willingly hug most other guys we hang out. Also when i asked her out to the movies, she asked who else was going. She said she still wanted to hang out with me, just not at the movies. Help?
You’re in the friend zone.
Hi I want to see if anybody can help me out with my problem. I’m a freshmen in college and i recently met this girl in one of my classes. We started to become friends and we have each others numbers and txt a lot. We also hang out a lot during the week and spend a great deal of time alone. She has told me that she trusts me more than others and tells me about her problems and such. The only problem is that she is giving me mixed signals. For instance, when we say good bye or such, she never usually wants to hug me and justs walks off and says good bye. I usually have to instigate the hug and when she does hug me, she is either reluctant or treats it like a chore. She does playfully tease me and sometimes hits me or blocks my way to see my reaction. Can someone please give me advice?
This girl of yours is the type that likes joking and is used to you too much.Her playful acts are only meant to create fun and because she is free to talk to you about her problems means that she sees you as being useful to her.Her fear to hug you is only because she is scared of the feelings she may get while hugging you.This is the cool type of a girl who hates sexual involvement with boys or men unless she really feels secure that they love her .Appreciate your girl for this character.
Hey..I’ve recently meet this girl in a taxi. She looked beautiful and I decided I really wanna get to know her. So, I did. I started asking random questions just to get the conversations into the air, It worked. I asked for her contacts to chat on this other social network…We toked, but not that much she always took time to reply and it kinda hurt, because I’m really a sensitive guy. I saw her again today in the taxi, seeing her again made me realize I really like her. So, as she got off the taxi I went to ask her how she was and how’s school and all seemed good. But I wanted her number so, I asked her and she gave me this weird as excuse saying: “I don’t have my phone”. I really like this girl, but I don’t know what to do.
Hey..I’ve recently meet this girl in a taxi. She looked beautiful and I decided I really wanna get to know her. So, I did. I started asking random questions just to get the conversations into the air, It worked. I asked for her contacts to chat on this other social network…We toked, but not that much she always took time to reply and it kinda hurt, because I’m really a sensitive guy. I saw her again today in the taxi, seeing her again made me realize I really like her. So, as she got off the taxi I went to ask her how she was and how’s school and all seemed good. But I wanted her number so, I asked her and she gave me this weird as excuse saying: “I don’t have my phone”. I really like this girl, but I don’t know what to do, please help.
Scuks to be you
it so true. I always act that way.
Hes a awesome boyfriend. And theres no okward silences wiff him bcuz he keeps the onversationg going.
youz a awesome boyfrien, cuase I know how talk keep convsation going.
@Gemma: Wow, spelling nightmare. What the hell is “wiff”? I find it hard to believe you aren’t semi-educated and can’t spell “with”….
doubt your still together
It’s not hard to spell out the word you….
My boyfriend is awesome. He does everything a girl would want him to. And more.
i find this very amusing…to b frank sometimes these things happn…i mean mayb wid da friend o da girlfriend…but simple stuffs like these,can it actually prove tht the woman doesnt like me o not???woman are hard to understand…
*extra* I do have her facebook, but we never talk on there. I even told her “happy birthday” on her page, so did everybody else, but she she replies to everyone but ME. Like, no im trying to be LESS persistent. Like im about to completely ignore her unitll i get a clean answer, cause i hate this game she playing at. It making me feel like an idiot
I’m a girl, and I like a guy. When I talk to him I’m always a bit shy and don’t really know what to say. I think the girl likes you but is a bit shy and doesn’t really know what to say to you because she thinks she might sound strange or something. That’s probably why she’s acting a bit “coolly” towards you. Maybe one of your friends can talk to her and see if she likes you, or you could ask her if she wants to go out or something and see what she says.
Hey, im in 11th grade now and i got a BIG problem. I liked this girl since last year and I really wish to know the truth, cause i don’t wanna waste my energy on this. i just want to KNOW. Thia girl has been staring at me from across my homeroom since last year. I was just thinking “just another stare” but she constantly did it at my locker, cause are lockers are close. I remember once at a big game she and her friends were looking at me too. So i did start a conversation with her, and it was ok. She was very cute when she replied (and shy)^_^; She was dong art, and i complemented on it, and so on. Over the summer asked one of my friends to get the jiff on if she liked anybody. She said yes. So i assume its somebody else or me. (hopefully) But…when ever i try to talk to her…she has a very quiet and bored tone. Like she dosent care. And this just yesterday after school just started, i said “hey, whats up” to her and she just replied with a small “hi” looked away, and walked off. Yet she CONTINUES to glare at my at lunch, (and do the old look then look away thingy.)
WTH! If you dont wanna talk to me or like me, then stop staring at me! And i really dont give if u think im just “cute” STOP doing it cause its leading me on, and its so annoying. Then again its probably extreme shyness, but the heck, I JUST WANNA KNOW. What is up with guys?
I just told this girl, that I’ve been talking to for a while now, that i think she is attractive. I get the feeling that she doesn’t like the fact that I like her. We text each other from time to time. Just today she didn’t respond to my text. I found that kind of awkward and irritating , because she is always quick to respond. I saw her today twice and totally ignored her. Do you think she is feeling me or could i be overreacting, because she did mention that her phone was acting up.
Chill Jason, maybe you’re just too anxious. Give her benefit of doubt.
There is this gal I keep teasing and flirting with..but recently I found myself falling in love with her…However her impression of me is not that good because she thinks I am not serious or even worst a player zzz…She sometimes treat me coldly and said that me dun stand a chance but I realli like her alot leh
I feel veri confused and at a loss of wad I am going to do next…
if she thinks that… ask her to hang and grab a bite to eat somewhere where decent and talk…but dont complain about your life too much with her and if she thinks u r a player then she is a wack a doo and g=mingle with other girls then….good luck man
There is this gal I keep teasing and flirting with..but recently I found myself falling in love with her…However her impression of me is not that good because she thinks I am not serious or even worst a player zzz…She sometimes treat me coldly and said that me dun stand a chance but I realli like her alot leh
Spend more time with her. Prove that you’re not. Find your female friends to do some free advertising for you!
Hey i am in the 8th grade and there is this girl who i liked in the 7th grade 2009. Through the end of the year and the summer i lost my feelings. (she is very shy and quiet) in the begginning of 2010 school year i regained my feelings and we chat freuquently on facebook. i am on the football team and she is a cheerleader so we see each other outside of school. the first time i talked to her i got her number. we txt each other but it takes sometime for her to reply i am friends somewhat with her friends so they know me. she is very talkitive with her friends but when i come over she kinda fades away and is nervous but still pays attention when i speak. does she feel the same feelings that i do. also when i call her she is constantly giggling when i talk. i also asked her to ”hang out” with me and said yes wish me luck
hey man good luck and tk about how it turned out… pce dude
Hi dude, i am going to tell u my story!
I met here in school in 10+1 class, there were many girls but i was being attracted towards her only. I tried to converse with her regarding notes,exams,etc. but nothing personal. But i felt she wasn’t interested in my talks, once when i just passed 10+1 and got promoted to 10+2 she was in my class. Again i just tried to impresss her, she was a basketball player i started getting trainning of basketball. For her i just started to workout. But all this ended when i realise that she was with other guys and she was happy with them.
I saw her happiness and then backoff, but those two guys were not good for her, so i just had a glimpse on her all the time. After passing from 10+2 she joined a collage and i joined an institute, but now i really miss her. So i decided to make a profile of mine on facebook, i send her 5-6 add requests hoping that she would one day accept me. But she didnt, I went to her collage which is 10 km awy from my place to meet here. But i could not meet her, once there was a party in her collage at a hotel i stood out waiting for her for about 3 hours. She didnt came.
My friends told me that she had interly changed now, and she wont like u any more now. She will only be interested in rich boys.
SO DUDE ITS MY STORY, NOW U TELL ME WHAT I SHALL DO IN ORDER TO MAKE HER COME BACK IN MY LIFE!!!
to make her come bk is the Q…if u like her that much and cant get her out of your head u hv to give her what she is not getting… cant help too much cuz i dk what thoes rich dudes r like but its mostly the simple things like a smile or simple words… flirt with other girls and see if u r getting her attention and if that dosent work go to a club that u know she is going to and buy her a drink… mingle and see if it takes flight from there… hope it helped dude
Okay so I met this girl in my class, we would always flirt in class and had a lot of fun talking to me. Then one Friday she asked me if I wanted to hang out, and I was like sure but I don’t have your number. So she smiled real big like she always does when she talks to me, and I give her my number she calls me right then to give me her number lol. So I text her on Saturday, and she says sorry that she already has plans. And she says that I’d be the first one she would make plans with to hang out with, the next weekend she had SATS, then next weekend she had prom. She asked if I was going and she was dissapointed when I said no, cause she was gunna ditch her date for me. We eventually got to hang out once and had lunch we had a good time and talked a lot, and their wasn’t to many silent moments. Nothing really happened. Since then I’ve been asking her to hang out and it’s like 2 months after that and we text all the time, she starts the convos rarely. She flirts with me all the time about how she would want me to cuddle with her. But whenever I ask her to hang out she never can, sometimes I feel like shes just lying. Her bestfriend even told me that she wants to sleep with me haha. But I ask her to hang like every week and she never can
. I even asked her if she wants me to keep asking her to hang out, and she says yes. She really wants to hang out. But she never asks me to hang out, and sometimes she says she can and then when the day comes she never texts me when I told her too or she says that she can’t for some reason, she is really busy cause she plays sports and does other stuff. I’m not sure if she just hasn’t been able to hang out or if she’s making excuses cause she nervous, or she just doesn’t like me at all ands playing a joke on me. It just seems really weird cause she did ask me to crash this party with her once but I couldn’t and she hasn’t asked me to hang out since, but like I said I ask her all the time. I’d really like to think she just doesn’t have the time. Some expert advice would be nice tell me what you guys think.
well from what im hearing…i think she is using u to her amusement and u should not give in to what she says… but dont tell her that u dont want to talk to her or something… talk and flirt with other girls she may know but r not her friends… if she really likes you she will get jealous and start asking questions around, if she asks u personally b calm about it and play it cool and then she will b the one who will ask u to hang and if not u hv thoes girls to hang… hope it helps
I met this very beautiful girl at my job we work together shes a yoga instructor and i work at the place doing other stuff and after and before she works we would talk for a few minutes sometimes she will stay for an extra 20minutes to talk with me. one saturday i went by work while she was working and asked her if she wanted to hangout and i really didnt mean that day but she said lets go for a hike and when i mentioned my town has great hikes she mentioned she wanted to drive an some where an hour away so we did. We spoke about alot of stuff. Things that are really personal, we played a game where we told things that are embarasing or things we dont know each other. And eventually we started saying things that were private and we didnt feel uncomfortable at all. We ended up getting lost in the woods and at one moment she got real close to me and nudged me and looked in to my eyes I wish i had kissed her but shes very conservative but in a modern way where she will joke around with me about certain things about fooling around. We ended up coming back to my place and we ordered food and spoke some more. and then she asked me to walk her to her car and i kissed her on her cheek and told her to drive home safe.
I know it sounds like she likes me but i am always the one who asks to hangout even though she always says yes i feel like maybe shes just being nice. I asked her today to go running with me later in the week and she said yes. Should this be the last time i ask her and stop talking to her and hope she is the one who calls me or comes to me when im working to ask to hangout? The reason im soo confused by all of this is that she is soooo beautiful and i think sort of out of my league but im a really confident guy so I never let that show. But i think every guy in this world who trully has feelings for a girl always thinks shes out of his league. anyways. shes leaving to go abroad for 3months in another country and i’m leaving the job to go back to school so i feel like this wednesday is my last chance to hopefully find out if she has feelings for me to. I’m worried i will put it to faith in hoping she will call me or text me if i dont and i never hear back from her again.
hmmm if she didn’t like u she would of not said yes or let u kiss her… and it temporary 3 months, if u really like her and she is coming bk to the same city i say give it another try go out with her a few times and when u see her again just talk and see if she will suggest something to do… and a girl is never out of anyones league keep being confident and see how it turns out… hope it helps
i met a girl at a friend party, we spoke for a little while at the party, we exchanged number and start talking on the phone after a couples days. this girl had everything i have been looking for in a female, we usually talk every night for few hours, we both started to develop slightly feelings for each other during our conversation, after two weeks of talking on the phone, so we decided to meet up to see a movie, after we met up for the movie, she sort of kept a little distance from me, take long to return a phone call and to text back, later on the week she said she want to stay friend with me. i was like what! in my head, after all the sleepless night on the phone.
i Didn’t know what went wrong at the cinema, everything seems ok.
now i wish i never went to the damn cinema. lol
i need a answer please anyone? she still in my head, hard to forget her.
she may feel u went too fast and she might need some time just as friend so she can see how u really r around her… give her a few weeks and then go to get a bite to eat nothing too fancy and chat and act like friends dint b too musht with her and when u feel u r ready stepp it up a bit and see how it … and dont blame your-self cuz of the cinema also b confident dude… hoped it helped
yo dude, thanks for your advice it’s exactly what i had in mind, just be her friend, what ever happens…happens.
let it go. Not interested. If she is serious she would have already contacted you as promised. Dont go looking for reasons why she didnt. Its very simple why, despite her excuses if you ever asked her.
I MEET THIS GIRL IN SCHOOL IN CANTEEN
SHE USE TO LAUGH @ ME EVERY TIME I SEE HER WHILE LUNCH TIME
THEN ONE DAY I MANAGE TO TALK TO HER WHILE WAITING FOR MY MOM IN FRONT OF THE SCHOOL GATE.. THEN A FEW DAYS LATER I MEET HER IN MY SCHOOL LIBRARY SHE JUST SMILED AND LAUGHED.. THEN I FELT LIKE I AM GOING SO INTO HER…. THE I MANAGED TO GET HER PHONE NUMBER FOR HER FRIENDS.. FOR THE FIRST FEW TIMES SHE REPLIED MY TEXT THEN LATER ON SHE… LIKE STOPPED REPLY ME ..
THEN I WENT OFF FROM SECONDARY SCHOOL TO FURTHER MY STUDIES THAT TIME I WAS HAVING A EMO MOOD ALWAYS THINKING ABOUT HER ALL THE TIME THEN.. I DECIDED TO DELETE HER FROM MY CONTACT LIST AND ALL OTHER ACCOUNTS JUST TRYING TO FORGET HER.. A FEW DAYS BACK I WENT BACK TO SCHOOL JUST TO VISIT MY FRIENDS AND TEACHERS THEN I MEET HER AGAIN… SHE SAW ME FOR A MOMENT SHE STUNNED THAT TIME I WAS PRETENDING LIKE DIDNT NOTICE HER …
THEN SHE WAS WALKING AWAY WHILE LOOKING @ ME ITS SEEMS LIKE SHE WAS HOPING ME TO SEE HER… NOW I AM IN A DILEMMA I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW I CANT CONTACT HER AND HARD FOR ME TO MEET HER IN SCHOOL TOO IS THIS CALLED LOVE OF JUST AN AFFECTION…. SHOULD I GO FOR HER OR FORGET HER CAM SOMEONE TELL ME SOMETHING AND ONE MORE THING WE ARE FROM THE DIFFERENT RACE SHE LIKE A CHINESE GIRL AND I AM LIKE AN INDIAN BOY
sounds like she only likes u if u r indifferent to her…. best thing is not to get too emotional with her cu u will b the one who will b hurting in the end
OK there’s this girl my friend introduced me to at the party of my mate’s house.At first I don’t really pay any attention to her, we only meet occasionally whenever there’s a friends gathering or party, but this recent weeks I started txtng her and even calling her , like many guys in here I have the same situation I’m always the one taking the initiative either it’s a conversation or sms. One day I asked her to go out with me, it was alright we had a great day in my experience i dnt know about her though. Then the next day I kept calling and even sms her but she didnt reply, asking wether if she wants to go out again. It was then after my 5th called to her phone she answered my call , well I asked her about why she’s not replying and she just said sorry to me and told the me reason. After that event we managed to meet up again and it was during my friend’s dinner. Now here’s the tricky part she told during dinner that she’s going to sms me the next day because she wants me accompany her to go to tax agent and so fort. But during the promise day I decided not take any intiative to call since she promise me she will sms me but I think she broke her promise and my reaction to it is that maybe she is inerested with me. So I decided not to contact her for a while, mayb at least 2 weeks and if i didnt get any call from her I will just let it go and move on….. Guys do you think I’m doing the right thing here? do you reckon she like me ? or she’s not interested coz I the one who approached her anyway and kinda force her in this situation?
be more indifferent when talking to her and start hanging with her gradually… and see how it goes from there…agood luck
Hi everyone! I want to share my experience and hope that someone can ease my weird situation. I met this girl in summer class. We both sat at the first seat on the opposite end of the room. The first week we only look at each other. By then I am already hanging out with other peeps in class for lunch. 2nd week came I got a text from her saying “where are u guys going to eat lunch? I want to go” At first i didnt know who it was then it occured to me, the first day of class we all put our phone numbers in 1 sheet of paper and the teacher made copies of it for the entire class; to help everyone keep in contact. I texted her back sayin “mc donalds”. By then she will go wit us to lunch but hardly talks. I thought she is shy. I talk to her once in a while but I usually talk to everyone in the group as much as possible. She will text me to see how I am doin. She even initiated to call me and we talk for at least an hour. She is fun and corky sometimes. By the way she is 16 and I am 17. Anyways we learned some stuff from each other; one of them is her having a bf…yikes…I know…the first thing I thought “its bad news haha” cuz she is very pretty. So for the next 3 weeks or so she has been flirting wit me and telling me stuff that u shouldnt say when u have a significant other. I laugh and thinking to myself not to get attach. We be getting a little closer by flirting and teasing each other at school. On that time she said she likes me. I said uh…youre cool and all but…u have a bf. Then she talked about her bf….about him being abusive and stuff. Kinda like the new Rhianna / Eminem “Love the way u Lie” song. Yeah she is in that predicament. It is common in relationship when it gets violent and abusive. She told me all about it and she said she cant leave him cuz for some personal reason. I thought she is just scared and probably worries too much that its all her fault to begin with. I gave her advice to drop him and move on. Later on (days passed) she said she likes to be with me. From this moment I kinda got interested in her because of her cool personality. Every time we hang out we will have fun. There will be no dull moment when its just me and her. So yeah I admit I kinda like her too now. But I still have this caution feeling that I wont be giving my whole heart to her just yet. She is now in a state of confusion…to the point where her feelings will jump from me and to her bf. One day she will be lovey dovey wit me on txt or phone. The next is to her bf. Her bf leaves far from her like almost an hour drive and will go visit her in the weekends (her and her bf time). I sometimes get random days in the weekdays or sometimes none. Last 2 week she told me that we should be friends…I said what the….why all of a sudden? She told me that she tried breaking it off with her bf the other day and he started crying and pleading with her to stay. Again one of the reasons why she cant leave this abusive relationship. I told her that he is not gonna change and thinking that u love him..is not love at all because u are getting more pain than love in this relationship. She agrees but still confused. I told her that if she drop her bf and goes with me she will be happier and I will treat her nice. The weird part about it is that last weekend she txt me about her having problem with her bf…again. I cope with her and lend her my full attention and gave her advice. She..for some reason said “I love you so much”. WHOA!? Ok yeah I am now confused. I told her that we were just friends and now she wants me? Anyways I told her I like her and willing to be with her so long as she drops her bf. Ever since then for some reason she doesnt initiate her callings and text. if she does its not as many times before. I mostly text her now…cuz I worry about her situation. From the point of me just texting her and she hardly reply….sometimes not even text the whole day. So now I am stuck everyone. Should I drop her or maybe stay to be her friends or do something more so she realize that I really do care for her so much than her bf? Right now I am trying my best to win her over her abusive bf….but she gives me mix signals and I dunno how to respond to it anymore. Please everyone I need some answers. I like her a lot now and I dont know what to do.
According to your situation you are in, the best options for you to do is to forget about her; or just be friends with her. Don’t pursue her to be your girlfriend because it takes time to get out of an abusive relationship. Give her time because she is confused and sorting things out. If you keep pushing yourself towards her then you might end up losing her. If she doesnt text you or call you, it means she has a lot of things in her mind and might be busy. Surely she dont want to be with her boyfriend and wants to be with you but as of right now, do what you normally would do in life. Keep yourself busy. When the time is right she will call you. You can keep some contact with her by texting her not as much. Maybe 2-3 times a week for now. But I recommend calling her instead to get your message more direct approach. So there you go bro u got 2 choices. Be a friend (for now till her head is clear) or forget about her (saves you time and worries about her).
Hi . im a guy , i met this girl at school . we have been texting for a while , but she texts me on/off , kinda seems tht shes playing hard to get but at the same time , we have planned to hangout for a total of about 4 weekends and it always falls out , we never do , she calls me “my love” and she just seems interested , but shes really hard to read. i really lik ethis girl , but i really really dont know what to think , please anyone understand my problem or have a reason for whats goin on here?
thanksss
Texting is always tricky. If a girl text u on and off it can mean a lot of things, it is very hard to get a specific answer. When you guys plan on something and ends up failing means either she had some sudden important plans or really undecided. Some people can say yes to a hangout then later they dont feel like going. It happens. Calling you “my love” to anyone is a big thing (for me that is) unless she uses the word “love” casually then dont take it seriously. Pretty much she is undecided and confuse in a way. Either she likes you or not. Probably best to fish for more information on where she stands with you. Keep pushing that hangout time. You need to talk to her in person and see what you can get with her and tell her that you are interested in her. She cant be busy all the time and sooner or later she will say yes and go out with you. If you dont have the time and effort to do all those then an easier way is to forget her and move on.
thanks james , i tol dher last night i had something to talk to her about and told her we have been friends and what not for a while that im starting to like , i thought i fucked up because she didnt text me until the next day in the morning and tl dme tht i didnt fuck things up between us , i dont know what she is thinkin tho because she doesnt text much and she is so so so flirty , i think she doessnt realize how bad she is doing it lol , but thanks man , any more advice bro?
Hey there, please someone give me some advice! I really like this girl i use to go to school with although we never really spoke in school, im 25 now and we talk every night, this girl is very freindly and polite, we had a date 3 years ago, but nothing come off from it because we both was out of serious relationships, so probably bad timing, anyways in the last 3 years ive never asked her out again, but over the last say 3 months ive spoke to her regular on msn, she often tells me very personal things about herself, and also says shes trusts me more then any other lad she knows, sometimes she can be very emotional and ask me if she is ever going to meet someone, i often think is she hinting for me to ask her out on a date again, but since nothing happened last time i never initiate it again, i know she is a very shy person and she has admitted she could never ask a lad out she just doesnt have it in her, anyways as of late i message her and chat for a bit, some times she can take a while reply, somtimes i cant shut her up, one of them i guess, but a few weeks ago she said i should get this movie she likes and she will come round for a film night, i said sure, but i didnt mention when as i wasnt well for 2 weeks, i explained this to her and she seemed ok, i got well last week and told her is she still up for the movie night etc and she said sure, i suggested friday and she said she will let me know closer to the day but shes most probably free, the other night i just checked with her if she was still up for coming, as she didnt seem very convincing and never mentioned it again, and she said (I want to come) anyways im wondering if someone can give me some feedback or advice? she has mentioned 2 dates shes had a month ago but she wasnt interested in the guy’s that much and never went on a second date again, i was jealouse to death but didnt show it, i had a feeling she was either tryin to make me jealous to finally get me make a move, or she was hinting for me not to ask, but yea, she suggested coming down mine for this “movie night” do you think shes coming down cause shes bored? or maybe because she wants to see if she likes me maybe? many thanks
Kyle, and anyone else who read my previous entry – Well I let it all hang out this past Friday. We’ll talked for several hours. This is even more complicated then I thought before. The good part: It turns out she did have the same feelings, but she assumed when I didn’t press the issue that I didn’t feel the same way. Now for the bad part: Let me backtrack a little bit. One of the things we had talked about a lot over the past month / month and a half was this guy who she works with. She thought they were just friends but he started texting her yada yada. Well, she eventually realized he was trying to woo her. She already knew that he was married. So she said no dice, no way, no how. She didn’t want to break up a marriage. She ended up getting a call from his wife because she found the texts and went off. She told the wife nothing had happened, she didn’t want to hurt anyones marriage, and that was the end of it. So as this was all happening we talked about it extensively. I listened, gave limited advice (she already knew enough not to get involved), and basically let her vent frustrations (rumours around work that start, that kind of thing). Now she hasn’t been in a relationship for 4 years, so I think she was feeling very lonely. To make a long story short, when I talked to her Friday, she told me that the guy filed for divorce and that they had talked and talked. She had feelings for him but they both agreed not to do anything but hang out until the divorce was final (3 months or so) and then give the relationship a try. We still talked all the time over the last few days and she has even said “if its meant to be its meant to be if its not….” The lesson to be learned here is “TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL NOW” don’t wait or you might not get a chance. To make matters worse (and it could be the jealous part of me) based on what she’s told me about him before (and the fact this wasn’t his first marriage) I think she’s gonna be hurt by him. So now I have the double agony of possibly having lost a girl I fell in love with because I didn’t have the balls to say something sooner, and I have the unenviable task of either watching her get hurt by this guy or if she’s not hurt – losing her to someone else. /sigh Don’t wait to tell her guys
Hi,
Im really attracted to this sheep which lives next door.
Ive been talking to it lately but It never replies- does this mean it doesnt like me?
Also, im not sure if it is a boy or a girl sheep- it doesnt worry me, either is fine- but how can i tell if it is a girl sheep so i can use these tips to help make it like me?
Thanks,
I have know this female for around 4 years. she was my classmate in the past. i’ve a crush on her during the 3th year that we know. i gave her many hints that im interested in her and i tried to ask her out serveral times but she had rejected me. i also try to call her and wanted to have a chat with her, but she didnt pick it up either. today is her birthday. shoud i ask her out today again? or i just wish her a happy birthday and look for other females instead. some one please advice.
I been knowing this girl for a year now and I like her a lot we hang out I asked her to dance she says yes we always talk or txt on the phone till like 3 in the morning. She tells me every thing about her that is happening in her life till one day she says can u sleep over at my house I was sorry girl I can’t she was disapointed but made it up too her. Then about 2 months later we sat down in her living room and she said that there’s this guy that she got fingered by I was basiclly pissed and that guy use to be my best friend now we hate eachothers asses and after that we still hanged out but tbhings changed between me and her if anyone can help I’m basically clueless on what to do at this point. We don’t even text anymore or talk on the phone if I bump into her I wud just ask how’s your day. And now her and that guy are mad at eachother cause he has a gf and he’s a player. I would still ask her out but it just feels awkward. If anyone can help plzz do
This is important.
If at anytime your lady friend or w/e seems to have gone cold or makes excuses for whatever reason.. Then yes she is likely seeing someone else or just plain had enough of you.
Note. Excuses = NOT INTERESTED.
Thats obvious tho.. many ppl have said it on this site so dont make excuses yourself and believe otherwise. She is simply not nor no longer interested in you even tho you still talk for hrs or days or w/e.
Dont get suckered in.
More info is required. If your talking for hours i dont see the problem. But again more details would be nice to extract any sort of answer from this.
See, with me I text this girl that I met and she is really nice. I always initiate the conversation (text), but we text for hours. So I don’t really know what to make of it? By the way, we are both fifteen years old.
Thank you in advance for anyones advice,
Dan
Hmm yeah thats exactly whats happeing with me. Maybe its because we’ve talked so much and now its becoming more harder to talk abt new things. I mean obviously we have all been in a real life relationship. So sometimes when we dont talk to our other half we can simply say alot in cuddles and kisses. Basically cuddling on the sofa and watching tv or w/e. Cant really do that online so when a conversation fails to materialize then its a bit of a bore i guess.
And maybe because the chase is over. Alot of real life and online romances lose their sparkle when we get the girl we were dying to be with. Now we have what we were looking for BUT… now the hard part comes… making it work.
I know for one thing, i couldnt just end it and simply move on unless she actually ended it.
Chris your probably right, maybe it needs changing up.
Kyle and Ej I have a similar story as you guys. I play a certain popular game online. lol. I was introduced to this girl through a RL friend. We hit it off instantly. We would talk almost nightly for hours upon hours, emailed each other, texted, etc etc. Just to give you a background of this we started talking intially in November and a little more over the next month or two after that. From about January to June (maybe July) we were practically inseperable, talking sometimes for hours on end late at night and we were texting back and forth when we weren’t online. Sometimes we would talk everyday stuff – “how’s your day” “have you seen this…” yada yada, sometimes we would flirt or whatever. Now over the last month or so it’s changed a little. Sometimes I’ll text her and she won’t respond back until much later or even at all. Other times she’ll respond instantly. Sometimes she initiates conversation with a text, but not on a regular basis like before. When we talk online (which isn’t as much as before – but that has to do with our work schedules now) sometimes it seems as good as before, sometimes a little awkward. Now the real reason I haven’t asked her out before is that we live a few states apart (8 hr drive) but now it’s to the point that I have completely fallen for this girl. It’s kind of bizarre because it started off innocently at first, friendly and sometimes flirty. Somewhere along the line I realized how I felt and it kind of shocked me to actually fall for a girl I’ve never actually met, only talked to. Now, I want to meet her to see if there is any chemistry there in person, but I’m trying to figure out if she’s now disinterested or is it that the “honeymoon phase” is over and I need to change it up since we’ve been talking so much for amost a year now. Maybe she’s just bored, so to speak.
I almost have that same problem. I dont have an answer for it. Just out of curiosity what game did u meet her through?
All i suggest is to ask her str8 out. Otherwise IT will drive you crazy.
Well i meet this girl on an online game and we started to talk and get to know each other and found out that she lives only 20 mins away from me. At the beginning she seemed more into me then i did to her. She would say things like “I could really see us going somewhere” and would say shes tired but doesnt wanna stop talking to me and etc. She always called me everynight and we would talk on the phone for hours on end. We hung out once or twice and everything was going good and i was really starting to fall for her. I went on vacation and everything was still the same, she called me everynight and etc. When i got back we still talked but a few days later things just suddenly changed and i dunno what happened. She stopped calling me almost completely and if we talk on msn or something (because i messaged her) she would say “hey you” instead of hey hun or something like that. I dunno what happened and i dunno what to do. Please tell me someone knows what to do!! I dont wanna lose her
maybe you are boring. make the friendship much more exciting get involved in things that would excite her, you have to figure it out yourself though. and tell her straight up how you feel about her, i dont really know why a lot of guys dont say the L word i mean you have nothing to lose eighter she accepts you or reject you its inevitable though, but hey there are lots of girls out there if only you tell them how you feel i bet you could get 5 out of 10 girls rather than fantasize about 10 and get 0 in the end, i mean you are a man use your balls. lol
approach her like a man. A determined guy can go after any woman no matter how pretty she is. Tell her how you feel about her and if she is really into you she will be all yours. Get to know more stuffs about her like the things she likes etc so you know how to put your conversations. Girls like guys who can make them laugh so try to make her laugh a lot this would always make her feel comfortable around you ( but never make fun of her though, especially when her friends are around). Play had to get and dont always be the one to initiate conversations and stuffs like that ask her opinion and try to build a reputation among your friends, class mates,etc so she knows who she is messing around with- thats you.
thanks alot kyle
ill give it a try 
…(ARCH) look u should go step by step try to talk to her . open conversation with her be friends first smile to her 
and dont be shy… crack up some good jokes with her put all that step by step 
maby one day tell her you look pretty or hey nice to see you 2day with a smile then if she goes home walking if she is alone ask her if u want to give her a ride home if u have a car…. try to be gentle with her and if she is sad stay next to her …like saying whats wrong and try to change her mood 
when she feels comfortable with u try to ask her out like maby walking at the park or going to movies or restaurant 
but remember dont do all that in one step she will get scared so its better to start off with talking with her 
with little smile
i hope the best for U
i think i’m shy around her..and the other problem is that of my friends,they all make fun of me(none of them have any gf’s).sometimes i think she likes me sometimes not.how to get to knw that she really like me now?we chatted on facebook a long time back,then she told me why you don’t talk to me in class.I’m really messed up.HELP needed
Arsh just talk to her. Your not going to get anywhere if you dont open up a dialog with her. Being in the same class as eachother helps you in your favour.. breaking the ice should be easy.
Eddie.. its simple.. ask her out and go from there. All you can do is ask, no harm in that. If you dont get the answer you were hoping to hear then just move on and not be hung up on just this one girl. Your young, so just have fun.
i hv a ques? i really used to like a girl in my colg,bt i never talked to her,jst smiled. Me inperson think that she liked me or wanted to talk to me.Now its probably 2 yrs & we r in same class,we never talked,bt i like her.
Do u think she likes me back.or what should i do to,so she likes me back?
and btw im 17 and she is 16
Hey guys and girls
…it all started when she added me on Facebook , at first we where friends and i knew her from almost 1 year ago we started to go out and hang-out with each other 
and her best friends like me as a friend rlly much .. and her dad knows about me me liking her coz he has facebook and he sees my comments on Facebook 
after i told her i like her and i love her so text her and told her my feelings she soon replied to me and she told idk ..and she told me things would have changed if u asked me earlier and she has a boy that she likes and she told me dont give hope and she sent me diffrent songs back taylor swift and Oasis when i give her songs , but now she dosnt like anyone and everyday day we chat and speak and she always told me about her day 
me too i tell her about my day too 
and now i have benn asking her out the first time when we saw each other she gave me this rlly warm hug and she kissed me on cheeks we went out with our friends and i looked at ther smile and she smiled back to me 
at the same time i bought for her favorite chocolate and my favourite picture of her and made it at Kodak as a frame and when i went home she told me everytime when i see the picture she it reminds me of u ..at that time i was rlly happy 
but now i had asked her out with her friends and replies idk but then we where suppose to meet at one time but then things gone wrong her friend told her that she wants to meet her only but then she text me told me hey im srry but im with a friend now so maby next time we could meeet and she told me i rlly wanted u to come with me ….after 20 minutes she texts me back and told me hey come and we will meet at a place so i went and saw her 
i was rlly happy ..yesterday smthn rlly happend it was wired coz i asked her best friend out with her friend and then they should meet me but then i relized that she told her best-friend (she is a girl) to go out to a restaurant ..i was rlly mad coz she didn’t even tell me about it but is she like a bit jelous coz i asked her best friend and not her :/ ..i rlly like her alott and every time she talk about this guy the she met at camp and she knows that i like her and she tells me how he treated her and that guys likes her too..but then every time at the end of conversation she tell me i dont like 
and then she said r u jealous so i answered ( loll )
so tell me what should i do does she like me ??
this week is it a good idea
im thinking to ask her out like on a date
and i also figured out that she always care for other ppls like when we were walking she gave money to a poor boy…… it gave me lots of respect to her
You didn’t tell her you were jealous right? Don’t answer that. Ask her if she’s jealous. And if she wants to continue to toy with you like that, don’t stand up for it. Give her a hint that you are still into her and then walk away. Be confident enough to do that. Even when she’s showing you signs that she has finally given in.
Don’t ask her out of desperation. But if you two are alone, you can just try to give her a kiss when you feel it’s right and test the waters.
Just don’t show her that you’re knackered and heads over heels with her. Make her work for you as well
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I will add its better to move on from this and look for someone who does want a relationship with you.
Hey, i REALLY need your help
I have liked this girl for quite a long while now. We began as friends but then came closer to each other, she was the first to give me her number so I called and messaged her on a regular basis. Shes open with me and talks about everything and is very nice. So, when i built up the courage i told her i liked her alot, and she means everything to me. She said shes very interested and would definitely like to meet up.
After we met up and saw each other, few days passed on and i would still normally call her and ask her how her day was etc. Although, she seemed quite busy and couldn’t talk, due to house work. After, she txt me and said she wants to talk; I knew it was about us. She then called and said that she really likes me as a friend and that she knows what she wants (friendship). But i didn’t give up, i told her you mean the world to me and that your very special and unique and that your everything and more i want in a girl. But she still wouldn’t give me a chance. Although she said i can still call her and everything….. I still like her ALOT, we talk occasionally but im trying to play it cool…Once everything is ok, I have plans on asking her out on a date but ONLY as friends.
What Exactly should i do now ? do i drop hints that i still like her ? or should i wait for her to realise i was worth it and then come back to me ? i don’t want her to think i gave up on her.
Be their as a friend and make sure you are just a friend. Its clear thats all she is looking for. Who knows in the future she may consider to actually see u and her as an item but for now she just wants the friendship. Just be there for her and see it how it goes. Has u put it.. play it cool.
Ok so i have known this girl (27) for abt a year and ahalf. We met on an online game. She initiated first contact and after along while we really connected. We live in different countries but despite that we are always on msn with web cam functionality… and i mean almost days on end, night and day, chatting abt stuff etc… obviously we had the honeymoon period u know the drill… but things have always been good after that. Very good. We even arranged to meet eachother this year on june 30th but she being a dance teacher had to work one extra week that she did not plan for which she told me. 20th june when she had her 5 week brk anyways. So im confused how that would get in the way of our meeting together (june 30th). Now lately we still talk/msn alot.. alot lot. But i know she has friends cos sometimes she goes out etc.. even has them come over to her place and powers down her laptop but tells me she has to go for awhile which i say ofc nps. Sometimes lately she has just suddenly gone offline if im there, leave the room or my pc needs to restart.. she just vanishes with no say so. Nxt day we chat and everything is normal again 24/7 almost. I just feel uneasy now abt all this and idk why. I even asked her abt our meeting up with eachother, with an offline msg. She replies when she gets it “woah thats along msg” and thats it. No real reply. So we continue as normal. But there are times when i feel she could be making excuses but well idk and for what reason idk either.
man honestly f that online shit, start going out more to bars, clubs social gathering events if you want to meet chicks. I mean when a girl makes excuses its usually because they arent interested.
No that aint the problem. She doesnt have to make excuses.. its quite simple to get rid of someone online.. u delete or block them. Done.
Yes i know all abt the social dating scene, hanging out.. drunken nights etc.. been there done that. Seriously i think the conversation holds for abt 3 mins.
So back on point. And if anyone else cares to answer pls read it all very carefully and not just scan it quickly.
Hi Kyle, just happened to come across this randomly.
I hope this doesn’t make it sound too cold but it could also be for the benefit of you.
You need to give her the space. And give yourself the time for yourself as well.
I can only base this on what you have written:
- Her not meeting you during her “break”, it could have honestly meant that she was busy. On the other hand, if she was totally into you, she might have found the time and expressed how she was saddened by it all and at least provided a possible alternative or suggestion (even if it’s further down the line).
- That she has friends and goes out only means that she’s got a life outside of this (thankfully
). This combined with how she can come and go, when you’re online means that she has her priorities and is secure enough to call things off. At the same time, it also means that she’s not head over heals with you at this point… cause otherwise she’d get in touch with you more often or at least leave a note (out of courtesy or not).
- “Woah that’s a long message” is a tell tale sign that she needs to be given her space. She may feel that you’re already clinging onto her despite you two never really having formally met. Even if you keep chatting with her online etc. you need to also give her time off and do not have to write every time. Give her “too much” attention, at this stage of the relationship, and she might actually get turned off/bored by it, cause it can feel more as a burden or part of a routine, more than anything else. If you leave offline messages, leave them short or otherwise don’t write anything. The only time to leave a longer message is when you’re in dialogue about something important.
All the above points towards that she doesn’t hate you, since she still talks to you. But on the other side, that she’s not into you as such (yet). The distance may be off putting for her, as she might not know how to tackle it after you two have met. Thus for her own sake, she has also tried to keep a distance. When in this mindset, writing her constantly won’t help the “cause” either.
Either way… for your own sake, don’t treat this as the one and only chance you have out there (if you know what I mean). Keep in touch with her but don’t over do it, especially when the relationship is still as fragile as you have put it. I don’t know how your conversations with her are but be sure to allow her to do the talking. This will help give you an indication as to how willing she is as well and what mindset she is in. Then be sure not to agree with everything and challenge each other.
You may simply be someone she can turn to when she’s in an emotional mood because there are really no “strings” attached. You should see her the same at this point.
Again, just give yourself the space to take care of yourself and allow yourself to venture elsewhere. Live your own life. If you even one day mentioned to her about another girl (doesn’t even have to be yours but one in another relationship), you will also be able to tell from the way she writes, what she’s thinking.
Should this relationship develop further with time, then by then you can also move onto the next phases.
Hope it works out for you but most of all, that you don’t “cling”. Once she feels this cling, it’s off turning. By her own actions, she sounds like she prefers a man that has self secure and has his own things to do as well. This side you have to show and be.
There is still girl who i was talking to for a little while and we exchanged numbers. At first she called me every night and we would talk on the phone for like no less then 4 hours. I never had to go to her first to talk. Then all of a sudden she stops calling and when i confront her first, she has started to say “hey you’” when i say hi….. i mean im just so confused on how that works. She was even saying at the beginning how she could see us going somewhere but that was when i liked her but didnt really care if anything came from “us”. Almost seems like a couple of days after i really started to fall for her that she put up this barrier or shield around her and wont let me in….. I usually understand and know what to do with girls but she has me so confused i dunno what to do x.x does anyone have any advice for me? p.s sorry if anything i typing is hard to understand its 8:38am .-.
I have this situation, i don’t know how to tackle.
I like this girl (yes, she ‘s shy, haven’t seen her mingle with boys) a lot and i am not getting whats in her mind.
It all started 2 months back .She was working where i used to work before.
We dated once , she even told me that she had a really nice time with me.
I tried to call her up another time ,but she had an excuse that her sis is coming and she’s not sure if she will be able to make it.
She replies to all my text messages and i have her only twice and she had returned all my calls ,the only reason she delays a bit maybe because her parents would be at home or something.
So one fine day ( one week after first date) i text her and asked if she would like to meet up sometime? And her answer was: “i so sorry, my sis is coming home after a delivery ,also i am having my exam and it is very difficult for me to find out time for next few weeks”
So , i sort of got an answer, still i was thinking it to be a genuine reason and it was like 2 and half months ,she didn’t initiate anything.
Yesterday, i sent her a text – “You know, it’s sometimes nice to say NO rather than asking some one to hang in there and make him look like a stupid”
She replied to me after 2 -3 hours- “I am sorry i couldn’t get back to you because of various reasons. I have no intentions of hurting you or any indifference .And why would i?”
Now i am wondering if i should still try to continue a conversation with her?I like her a lot but i don’t think she has the same feelings for me.
what her last answer indicates? Is she not at all interested or shy to initiate some thing.But, I can tell you guys i ‘ve given her a lot of sign that i like her..
Please help me out!
i cannot let this girl go
my friend your wasting your time if shes truly interested she would see you one to 3 days time she is indeed not interested you know what dont call her llllllleeeeeeeeeetsss ! see when you dont call her see if she calls you if she calls you dont even ask her to come out ~ ~ see if she says it with out you reminding her on her own . if its complete silence then you can forget about it but the way it seems here she is making excuse after excuse after excuse !
ok i have liked this girl for more than 6 years now . We meet in high school at that time i was a little shy to talk to her and got a little nervous around her . i didnt talk to her then. she moved to another country to go to unvirsty.She had a boy friend for may be 3 years. At that time i went to visit her in the country she was in and she made an effort to see me. Now shes single and we do chat on the net but i always start the conversation. i really like her but m not sure if she does. When in high school she liked me too but i didnt know and was shy to apporach her. i know that i made a mistake but while chatiing she said to me that that i was never a friend , i didnt talk to her in school and got all shy around her. So i wanted to know if i stand a chance to go out her. this might sound stupid but i just wanted to know
shon, why not just ask if you can go out together? you might stand a chance if you try.
this girl i met 2 weeks ago has been acting crazy this week she will text me and say hey babe whats up and we will both text 4 about 10 minutes and i will send a text then she doesnt reply and then i will call 4 hours later still no reply she says she likes me alot and thinks im cute so whats the problem?
i disagree with “She talks about other guys to you.”
Theres this girl i like. We work together she seems interseted in what i say and smiles alot around me. She tells her friends she told some of her friends she thinks i like her when they talking. There my friends to so they tell me and tell me i should try and get her number when i told them i like her. so a few days later i ask her if she wants to have lunch with me after work. so we go have lunch. i make sure i apy for us both we eat and talk for about2 hours she smiles almost the whole time were there she tells me about her family and things she likes to do and asks me alot about me and seemed like she had a good time. I tell here on the way back that i had a really good time and would love for me and her to dosomething again sometime and then i got real nervous and said she should give me her phone number and i could call her sometime. then she didnt say anything for like 30 or 40 seconds and looked at her phone and said she might be switching phone companies. so now idk if i just made her nervous because i was nervous or if she just didnt wanna give it to me what do you think????
Hi, as above!
Seriously, try again!!! Don’t lose your opportunity.
theres a girl i work with. I really liked her since the first couple weeks i knew her. She always laughs and smiles alot talks to me about all kinds of stuff never really about other guys but usually just about herself and asks me about myself alot. She started to tell her friends that she thinks i like her, and there my friends to so they tell me. Then one day i asked her if she wanted to let me buy her lunch after work. She said yes and i asked where she wanted to go she picked, we left work and went and ate and talked for about 2 hours she seemed like she had a good time she was smiling most of the time looked right at me almost almost the entire time we were there. Then we left and on the way back i told her i had a really good time and said we should do something again together sometime and then i got real nervous and asked her for her phone number so i could call her sometime and she seemed like she thought about it for a minute and then told me she was switching phone companies. so now im not sure if she likes me and i just mde her nervous when i asked because i got nervous or if she just doesnt want me 2 have it.
Cj, why not try asking again soon? It could be that she’s really switching. But she could have given you, then update you with the new number when she switch. Hm.
i would like to reply to many people on this page.this is one of the most interesting things ive ever read.it shows how important communication is and that how much girls play games with guys.however,guys always seem to clearly show interest in a girl they like.my advice as ive been with many girls.is not to give to much attn to them so they know u have other options.also ask out right even through text do u have interest in something past friendship.this will save you some time and money!however,some girls will say yes but still send mixed signals.i believe actions do speack louder then words!so if a girl likes you.you should be able to tell a little in person.many girls play games even with people they like because they want to see if you will put in effort.i think this is wrong as if a guy shows interest you a girl should not play games but should have and understanding with him that she wont take his b.s.i get annoyed by mixed siganls id rather have a girl talk straight.the more attractive the girl the more attn she gets.this goes the same with guys however,its still different as a beautiful girls will rarley approach a guy because that girl already gets enough attn without doin anything.it is the same for an equal guy.however, a good lookingguy may still have to go a lil out of his way for a very attractive girl.NEVER force a realtionship for the wrong reasons!meaning,dont buy a girl a buch of or spend money when u dont know if she has interest for the right reasons prior!All this will do is most cases i result in relationshsip for the wrong reasons.when a girl really like you u shouldnt have to spend much money on her.she would be happy with just your company.the person not the wallet.relationships based on anything but a true connection will problay fail and end up with someone getting hurt very bad!As far as meeting women or men it can depend on your age.the older its harder.many women at an older age tend to stay to themselves so they may not be in bar setting the computer or maybe grocery store bockstore maybe the mall something like that may be a better fit.the hardest part is the approach.with the younger crowd i would say school would be great option or college as you will problay run into people with common interests.however,during that time peoples focus may not be on meeting others as much as it is learning.so for the under 35 i would say bar or night club isnt bad either.just because a person is there dosent mean there bad as everyone problay has gone out one time or another for fun or entertainment.dosent mean there there every week.some people are.some people arent looking for something serious and enjoy being single such as my self.that dosent mean the person dosent like but may just want to have fun.everyone IS different.
Hey my friends…i have question that i want ask u if any one know the solution please help me out i met one of my friend on line we never know each other we just met on line i am chart with her for the past 4 month…in few days i develop feelings for her, honestly i was afraid to tell her that i like her but later i decided to tell her so right now i told her already, before we used to talk on line making calls but she is not longer picking up my calls she don’t reply my messages please how can i solve this problem and i really love her so much.
she is playing games find someone who likes you for you!Also the only thing i would do if u dint already is send one final mess.tell her u really had interest in her and that you are upsaet she responded in that way.but you are now dating someone that you care for more and wish her the best of luck.see if she responds to that.
Hi everyone,
I’m a 16 year old boy living in california, and there’s this girl, juliette, that i’ve liked for about a month now. The week after i met her, i asked her if she wanted to workout with me, and she said yea and was really glad. however, it wasn’t a date, more of a get to know each other type of thing. After, i bought her ice cream and stuff, and it went well. however, a week after that, i asked her out to a movie, and she said yes, but that afternoon before the date, she said her guinea pig (which she has nvr mentioned before) got sick, so she couldnt go. i askd her if she wanted to reschudule, and she said yes, for friday, a week from then. however, i tried to contact her the day before the date, and she wouldnt respond to anything (facebook, txts, calls), and today is the day of the date. i called her and all, but she isnt responding. is she just not into me? please help!!!! thanks!
Time to move on. I know you want to keep on calling and txting, but she wont pick up or txt back. Just dont call her, at all now. see if she comesback to you, give it 2 weeks. Which could be the longest 2 weeks of ur life. If she hasn’t called or txt by then, move on. Try not to catch her on msn/facebook. wait for the call or txt. ive heard alot of excuses, but her stupid pig rat being sick, is the lamest excuse ive ever heard in my life.
if and when u do see her, be up front with her right away, and try and hold her hand etc.. otherwise after this one date, ul be in the friend zone. dont do nothing all night then expect a kiss like the movies in the end. flirt with her, hold her hands. rest her head against urs etc.. this is my advice anyway. good luck kid.
to heroo;
she texted me 4 days later, and her fone broke, n i wasnt notified by her, and she sent me a long apologetic message, so its all good now. thanks for the advice though
ive been there, girls saying they left there phone somewhere etc.. i stoppd beliving them. i just had my heart torn out recently and its hard to deal with. i told her i love her, we had a moment, then says she made a mistake etc.. dont fall for there games, or their apoloigies. u will only be hurt in the end. just go on a date with her, make your intensions clear.. and see what she says/does. the sooner the better, u leave it any longer u will only fall depper for her, and u will be left picking up the pieces of ur broken heart. :’(
one good advise…. if they dont like you or not interested on you…waste them muthafvckers!
listen everyone guys n girls ~ for guys i say dont continue to approach girls whom dont care !! whom play mind games over here the ones that lay mind games like to collect phone numbers just to showoff to there friends how much men call them for glorafication ~ you start to make yourself think to much ! show interest in women whom do care !
girls i say this you dont engage in any conversation or except anything from any guy you dont like nor tease ~ cause if you do they will harrass u alot of girls tease then when they get raped etc then they wonder why it happens ooops ohh i only accepted a jewelry ohh i only game him my phone number oh i only went to sleep with him once .ohh i have a bf ! he dont understand me after i gave him my number !!! he doesnt take a hint !! < AFTER I GAVE HIM my number ~ no excuse for any girls GUILTY !!! right there
so according to you, i’m supposed to “not engage in conversation” with my best friend??? (he’s a guy) you’re logic is whack!
help me how to tackle with a girl she called me brother before she loved me lot
This girl I liked for 4 years and she had split up with her boyfriend over a month ago.
I had lost contact with her for a while just due to being busy with college but I started talking to her again for the past 3 weeks. Everytime I see her for the 1st time in ages she would go on how we haven’t seen each other and ask what the reason was for it. She worked in a coffee shop and everytime I visited her she would make sure that she would talk to me and soemtimes she would sit down beside me.
I thought I had a chance with her as she kept saying how I should go to her flat and visit her or do something together but when I say I can come at a certain time or ask her out she comes up with some reason like “oh i’m working” (she has 2 jobs) ” I got other plans but ask later”
I found out that she has being seeing this guy during the times she has been “working”. Feel like an idiot I thought I had a chance but she was giving me mixed signals man it sucks. I deleted my Facebook so that I don’t hurt anymore should prob get out there and find another girl just thought she was the girl for me.
Sorry for the long post.
man you shouldnt have deleted fb that is like the breeding place for relationships well no it isnt but just tell her how you feel not the i love you part the you played me part and shee will feel sorry or she wont oh well we moveon and its all very simple
Sorry it worked out bad for you with the coffee girl. Keep a few things in mind. Until a relationship starts, don’t entice it in your own mind.
it will make you look like more than an interest to her, and it often shows that you took the feeligns too far. Why do guys do this? Because we dont keep our options open. Make sure you are dating at least 3 girls. At all times, until one of them agrees to be exclusive. If one of the girls makes it an issue, She is selfish, and not worth your time. All girls explore many many MANY options until it gets serious. If it DOES get serious, look for a sign that she is still “leaving herself available” then you need to go to the friend zone, and work on other girls. Keep in mind, be hoenst when you like someone, but do not pursue them. A girl that is worth having is smart. If she’s smart, she doesn’t need you to come after her agressively, she just wants to know what you’re thinking. So tell her. then tell her you see other girls. tell her what she needs to know, and she will value you as someone that is honest, and has other girls if she doesn’t work out.
Any guy that is in the (I fell for this one girl IM A WRECK) stage.
STOP: Work on yourself. Wait: Until you have options available
Then: slowly and respectfully pursue all of them for their “time”
Pick: choose one from the pack, and see if she’s open to a relationship. If so?..
Give: Give all you have; share yourself; be open.
If: If it fails, you won’t have regrets. and the moving on is EASYYYY, plus? betcha she comes back to you in later months.
okay….. i have been dating this girl for 2 months and we havent kissed yet. i need 2 know how 2 make a girl kiss you. all we have been doing is hug. plz let me know thnx bi
Jose R
look in her eyes for about 3-4 seconds and smile, while also looking down on her lips, and then kiss her :/ would help if ur holdin hands at the time as well.
she mostly replied a word or two, what does this means??
what about smsing?? she mostly replied a word or two
Uhhhhhhhhhhhh…. i quit with my ex for about a year and stay lonely there think i will not go in for a girl anymore, i one day travel to my hometown and met a girl who pampered me like a baby i may say. What she was to me make be soo interested in that i have forgot the promised in made for not to fall in love…. Now that i think this girl can handle me well, i told my elder brother what going between the two of us. So i told my elder brother to tell i love her, there she smile and lough when she hared that sentence. and that was not the end time she did that to my sister. now that i personal went to proposed to her, she smile big and agree to love me as a Boy-friend… the same she accepted me i make to her and after days she start to hate me and denied me anywhere telling me i have hurt her, but she didn’t tell me what exactly i did… from there she ignore everything i do. And i still love her and can stop thing about her.. so Guys Please show me what to do to get her back. thanks
What have you done exactly to hurt her?
what can i do to make a girl happy when she is sad
erm this is what is sms her i said do i have the chance to stead with you? she replied hah no bah cause not my type does she really mean what she said???
okay umm i will try thanks for the advise
I am in a situation like this right now. This guy will NOT LET GO.
I am WITH ANOTHER GUY and told him so. He sent me 3 dozen roses – a very expensive car cover for my Mustang ( after I told him NO BIRTHDAY PRESENTS), invited me to dinner ( KNOWING I have a boyfriend)… and now yesterday…he sends me a Dell Laptop Computer!! He has even driven l00 miles round trip ( from his house) to drop off a homemade POT ROAST DINNER on my porch ( not knowing if I was home) and baked me a cake. I TOLD HIM we could be friends…. THAT IS IT. But he does not respect my boundaries or listen to anything I have to say. Am I playing him? NO I AM NOT. He will NOT LISTEN……. If the guy is too thick headed to understand plain English, why does that make me a player? Now I have to send back a laptop ( he’s sending a 2nd one since the lst wasn’t the PURPLE he ordered), the tupperware container for the cake – the ceramic casserole dish the pot roast came in – AND the velcro bag. Now this is costing ME money and MORE aggravation. I hate to be mean but what do you do if they DO NOT TAKE THE HINT? I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!!!!!!! Some of these guys must have a screw loose. I am accepting NOTHING. NO, I am NOT interested!!!!!!!!
Just wondering, how old’s the guy?
I guess you just gotta accept the gifts, let him give until he gets sick of it.
If not, reject every gift and not sign for it. After a few, he should get it.
cut off all ties your are not playing games but he cant handle the friendship role.he is looking for something else and hoping he will blind u with so many gifts that u will break up with ur bf and be his.he sounds kinda nuts but some people are like this.cut him off!i dnt know how u met or all this started because it dosent seem safe that he knows where u live.try not to get ur bf invloved.you could also say that ur getting married and you no longer can accept gifts from him and ur fiance dosent want you talking to him anymore.let him know your serious!
your getting free shit and you have made it clear you have done nothing wrong so just keep gettting free stuff xD
Well. In my situation, things are a bit different. There is this extremely cute and sweet Japanese girl that I like, and I often get good vibes from her. She never really initiates conversations with me, but I do and we have a lot of fun talking. You need other bad signs in order to connect her never really starting conversations and her not liking you. I know from personal experience that I like it a lot when other people start conversations with me, and if they always started conversations with me in the first place, I always expect them to start conversations every other time. It’s just how it works.
Anyway. This girl often gives me good signs. She always listens carefully to what I say and she always has a big smile on while talking to me. When me, her, and my friends are hanging out, we often end up walking with each other and talking amongst ourselves. Whenever I offer to do something with her, eg. give her a private guitar lesson, or go see a movie, she always says yes right away with a big smile on her face. I lent her my guitar and she always insists that I touch her hands so I can see how hard her finger tips are getting, and when she touches my hand to feel mine, she holds my hand for a while. She compliments me. She doesn’t particularly mind me sitting close to her. She says she likes talking to me. When I bring up this girl in conversation with her friends, they giggle. Whenever she knows that she will see me she wears the shirt that I complimented her on. She always seems so happy after I walk with her, with a smile stuck on her face as she walks away. She laughs at even the lamest things I say. I bought her a cute bunny stuffie for her birthday and she gave me a hand-made thank you card with “Love, *The girl’s name*” at the end.
You may be thinking to yourself “This girl totally likes this guy!” but I’m still not sure. She doesn’t talk to me everyday, she is the sweetest girl I have ever met and she is nice to everyone, she is never on MSN but she still puts little updates to her Facebook page, and I don’t know. I’m just fishing for things that might mean that she doesn’t like me. The “Sweetest girl I have ever met” thing worries me a bit because what if she acts the same around everyone? But I don’t even think I have to worry too much about that. There are things in that list that she only does for me.
She is 18 and has never had a boyfriend before. What do you think?
listen carefully take her along make sure her friends are not with her and simply say _______ < her name do you want to be my girlfriend if she says yes fine if she says i dont know just get up and say think about it call me tommorrow let me know the answer . if she still says i dont know let 2 weeks pass if same crap continues they the answer is no . if she says No right there say ok i got to go farewell and get up and just dont talk to her anymore ever . if she calls u tell here ohh stop wasting my time here im looking for something else over here . BYEEE !
That is so wrong of you to say that. Non sense
i think she has 100% interest and is not send mixed signals or playing games at all.it sounds like need to advance the realtionship to the next level if thats what you want.take her out on a formal date dinner and ask her to be your gf.i dont think seh will say no.you also want to try to kiss her first if you havent already.just make sure everything is a one on one.not a group or with the friends so she knows where u stand.
i met this girl and we ended up dating and everything was good we had real good vibes off of eatchother and i began to fall for her i met her family and everyone is cool and out of noware one night she sayus she wants to be friends idk why and it dosent make sence im tryen to get back with her and she dosent want to she says lets just be frinds ive been hurt by 2 many bitches and i don’t wanna go down this road again is there a way i can get back with her we dated for 2 weeks what is it the 2 week rule or what?
my friend she doesnt want to have you as a boyfriend i know you like her but hey if she doesnt like you then the heck with her try another some girls play games some girls test serious for a short time but you probely haft to stay away from these girls that hang out in the streets schools n crowds of friends . just keep trying until one agrees that is all some times it could be for various reason some times we approach stupidly foolishly ~ sometimes they may have a bf sometimes they maybe want our money and look to see our status is not anything else ~ it could also be as if they are single and they still reject u then it means they dont like our physical appearence ~ but they wont tell us so theyll just say they want to remain friends . to be kind its many reasons but ushally thoes are the top 4 but the point here is just keep trying till u find > its wrong and discusting i know they judge like this . ahh but what can you do .
no.did something happen before this?its very possible she met someone else and that is here way of saying this.i would start lookin else where dnt let her play with your feelings.
ok let me say my side, ive known this girl for over 3 years back from college.. first time i saw her i felt an attraction ive never had before.. i made my intentions clear from the start, that i liked her, i asked her out a few times and she would make up excuses not to go out etc and my friends would tell her that i liked her before i could say it face to face. so i walked up to her and asked if were cool and she said yh were friends etc.. and thats how things remained for the next few yrs years.. friends. in the last year we went different ways in our lives but kept talking on facebook.. i asked if we should do something once, and she agreed, we meet up and had a fun time, she gives a hug, we holded hands kinda, and end of the night, i get a hug. ok, so we kept on talking, txting eachother and talking online for hours into the nighttime. we meet another 2 times, each one were acting like friends but both to scared to say how i/we feel, its obvious. and end with hugs.. i say basically how i feel, but to go full out and say im not sure, dont wanna ruin what we have now. we talk about everything, i dont see myself as a guy friend to her cos of the things we talk about on a personal level or the times we do spk, i txt her alot and get a reply 70% of the time. but i dont no what to do!!
just tell her straight out like this i wanna know ~~~~~~ her name < do you like me as on a friend level or do you like me as to be my girlfriend level . ask her simply that if she says girlfriend level fine
. if she says the other . tell her in these exact words n loud ! why am i wasteing my time over here ! and say the heck with of all of this ! get up and walk away harshly . dont call her see if she shows up at your door if not then she really doesnt like you if she calls n calls tell her hey im looking for something different here dont call me anymore ! hang up hard
Theres no way I could just walk away from her like that, cos we barley see each other now, its sad really. but i do think its time i tell her how i feel next time i see her in person. but if she says no, then i cant walk off, we would have to continue with the date/day but how would i play it cool? and pretend it didnt happen.. (even though deep down my heart would be broken).
louies123 see mistake here is your wrong you shouldnt engage in any conversations with any guys at all except your boyfriend ~ if guys approach u you should say i have a BF bye ~ dont engage any conversation ~ dont pass phone numbers to remain friends ~ you create the problems then when the second you get aquanted and i know u did cause why they heck are they showing up at your door they know where u live and how did they know ~ you invited them dont give me that bs you engaged in coversations you shouldnt at all ~ cause these are things that can happen when girls accept a little then they dont stop then they can get violent and rape n etc . you should not even egage in any conversation whats the matter with you ! ! ! dont be stupid you know what i mean
bro that is really bad like the rejections advice the questions nice but that other way is just retarded if she doesnt like you fine friends is fine and she may end up liking you so yeh
I have a question,if anybody could explain please.My girlfriend tells me she sees me in her dreams all the time and its only good dreams.What could that mean?
everyone listen carefully believe me if anyone is truly interested they will show it any one plays these mind game you can forget about it ~ the shyness goes away after 2 3 days ~ if one is interested right away next day believe me they will go . if they are really busy its ok as long that she says i cant today want to go tommorrow or the day after then shes interested if she stays silent she not then . gonna make excuse after excuse many girls take down guys numbers just to show off to there friends how many guys call them but they dont really like the guy for glorafication ~ and guys never complement girls at all till your with them 6 months later . if they recieve complements they become thinking like a spoiled queen . well anyway if a girl says ohhh i dont know how to tell the guy ohh yeah sure famous line they say . advice to women
say simply i dont like your physical appearance or say go find another person who will like your appearence i dont or if you have a bf say it then
~~ give it 2 weeks if she doesnt go out at all dont call her see if she calls you on her own ….. youll see how truly interested she really is then men seek women whom will showmore intrest
This girl txt me all the time and plays around at school, tickles me, plays with my hair, the occasional hug, went to the fair, but don’t know if she likes me and need an indirect way of asking her. Any tips?
Yeah,that means she likes you a lot,just go up to her,and use body language,start biting your lip at her and other stuff,start playing with her back,most girls,want a guy to make the first action,she is doing all of that to try to get you to get with her,so go up to her,and just ask her and be honest,have you ever had feelings for me,cause i like you,just be honest my man,if you feel a lil nervous bout going up to her,just use body language,stare in her eyes with a sexy look when she look at you,or another way is you can throw hints,say like,”dang girl,youre too gourgeous to be without a boyfriend,i know you gotta have one”,use these things,and it should help
Thanks man. That gave me a pretty good idea of what i might do on Monday. Thanks again Ryan.
no problem bro,but some girls can play the role,and act like they dont like you,so be ready for that just in case,so just play it cool,if she does it,thats called challenging you to see what youre gonna do
I have a question,I live in Baton Rouge,and we traveled to Houston,to go see some people we grew up with,theres this girl i saw in church,who i use to like when we were like really young,we liked each other,So i was sitting down in church,and i saw her looking at me from the corner of my eye,so she came sat right next to me,later on that night,according to body language,she crossed her legs,so i can see her thigh,and when she got up to clap,she would get up and almost like pose,like a cheerleader with one leg in front of the other,and i was sitting on the right of her,so she had her left leg out,but i talked to her,and she act like she was too good for me.Was she teasing me,cause i asked her something,and she just shaked her head,and didnt look at me.But after Church i gave her my number,and i told her to call or text me sometime,it was a buisness card,i told her dont worry about all the other buisness stuff,and she started giggling.But im back home in Baton Rouge,and its been almost a week with no call,is she really interested,because i havent got not one call or text from her,what should i do?i have facebok,and i saw her,but i dont wanna be a stalker,her father is also very strict,so i dont wanna take it the fact that shes not interested,does she like me though
I could use some expert advice for this girl I met a while back, we talked a lot then and I thought eventually we would go out. However, I fucked up and became impatient over something stupid. 4 months later to this very day I talk to her, she has a couple guys she has been interested in for a while( I basically don’t trust her when I should) and one night she told me on the phone that I was talking to her like a friend and not like more then a friend. I was kinda speechless because I felt I was doing that. She is always on and off for me, Idk why…she saids she is busy sometimes and she really is, but for some reason I just never believe her…no matter what. I like her and she has told me that she likes me too and if she didn’t she would tell me, but she doesn’t really trust me. (ex-girlfriend is her best friend..yea not good. lol) And my ex always feeds her bullshit that I’m still in love with her when I’m not. I have cut a lot of my connections with other girls for this girl, because she is like the one girl I can never figure out completely and she always has me coming back. I’m not needy or anything..I could get a girlfriend easily with just a phone call and a date. Haha, anyways she is a great girl even though she is a virgin(which is probably a good reason I like her, she hasn’t been conquered yet) and I’m not its kinda hard you know to not want to make sexual advances toward her, I kinda avoid it, because I don’t want her to feel like I just want her for that reason. I like her for her and I love the challenge, but I just want her to pursue me once in a while. Does anyone know how I can truly do that? I know the whole non communication and she will eventually miss me, but i don’t know if it would work with her…
Hi there guys
I hope you can help me,
Met this girl at work, got to get her on facebook. I asked her out on a date but she said no and asked her if she was interested, and she said for now… no
But she seems interested to me! not sure if she is playing hard to get ! thanks
So there’s this girl that I know for a long time. Maybe high school till now almost 5 yrs. We didn’t talk for like 3 yrs tho becuz she left school. Anyway just a few months ago she began working at this hang out spot I go to a lot. I was in shock to see her. Any how I began talking to her, I would invite her outvin the beginning and shed always say well see an never show up. She gave me her number and told me to text/call wen I did she rarely answers, her answers are always vague via phone. Anywho one night she came out without me knowing to this club I go to with her friend, I bump into her we talk she invites me to sit next to her to tall. I offer to drive her home, she accepts says bye to her friends and we go. In the car we talk, I ask her wats new she goes “I’m single and ready to mingle,” I heard that ten times from her. Then she goes wat about u, I go I’m single to, she smiles. Anywho before we get to the house I tell her to text me tomorrow if she’s not busy we also make plans for one of the upcoming days- she never texts the plans fall through. Now she is flirty and all but idk wat she thinks of me she rarely answers but I’m getting so many mixed messages. Could it be it’s like that becuz of the rough breakout she just got out of? Or should I just drop her?
dude she just wants to hook up
Dont know if this is view by anyone but here goes. This is my story. So i went on a speed datting thing which was good fun. So my details were left for potential girls that had chatted and liked me. Later we went to a night club and i didnt bother to much with anyone just hung out with my mates. Later that night before the nightclub closed at 2:30 i got text fgrom one of the girls saying did i venture out. I txt back saying that was really quick. So i got another txt back saying that her mate had seen her saving my details and txt me. So anyways we chatted for a few days by txt and then i asked her out for coffee at dinner time. So it lasted 45 mins because she had to go back to work. I taught it went really well she was looking me in the eyes alot and laughing a good few times. She had to rush cause she was late so i said go ill sort the coffee. Anyways half anhour later she txt back saying thanks for the coffee and she was sorry she had to run back for work. So i taught she must be interested so txt bback and said how about a walk in the park after work and she txt back she was working late and she then was going to her mates house. Said she would have to give it a miss with no alternative. So i didnt reply and stayed quiet untill the next eving and txt saying hope you had a good day how goes the 5 mile training. No reply and now im stuck wondering does she like me or not. She comes across as being a very confident person. Any help in this matter would be much appreciated. We are both 31 and single
Perhaps when you didn’t send a reply, she has got an impression that you’re disappointed. You should’ve replied something like “Oh, sure, maybe next time.” and that should end the conversation or she might even suggest an alternative.
I’ll always give her the benefit of doubt that she could be occupied with her work or just purely busy. Have you tried texting her again?
hey therz this girl im hed over heals for, i got her number from a mate of her sisters. i decided to text her ask her bout uni and stuff. it was all good. i kept txn her initaiting conversation, she only really answered wht she had 2. She knows who i am, but hvnt really talked 2 much in person. I said if she wanted to hang out she said nah yr a nice guy but i aint keen, so i left it. a few months later i tried again, she told me to delete her number etc, so did. 4 days later she starts txtn me, pretty much sayin shes into me but thinks im untrustworthy & tht im a player!. 2 me she is leading me on and giving alot of mixed signals. I kept textn her heaps until i got a reply, she told me leave her alone etc. so i have, recently 1 of her family members approached me an told me 2 stop txtn her an to leave her alone…i said ok sweet.but wait a minute shes the 1 sending me mixed signals, how am i suppose 2 react? i didnt really wana bring this up, cause to be honest i cant b %$#@ anymore, however i still kinda like her a bit! wht do i do?
dude ……u r a Man …..go get some other gal ……she is totally confused ……leave her alone …..to make a girl as ur girlfrnd …..give her space ….space means …..Do not disturb …….i m sure after few week she will text u back …..n then take her to Date …..
Will i Agree on your point bro…But a girl who is alwayz confused can be so playful and wen dont need those type of gal around as….hehe…. so if shes confused of somethen let it be….. theres a lot if gl around the world…
i dont think dis girl is into u…she’s jst playin wid ur feeling dear..
I’m a girl n i dont think if i really liked a boy i wud do anything like dis to him…
So recently I had a crazy, passionate night with a friend’s friend, who I’ve met before but never really connected until that night.
We went on a very casual date the following week, which seemed to go well. She said she had fun and told me to call her again. the next night I met her and some of her friends for drinks, this went ok, but I was pretty bored.
After that, she made a point to tell me that she was weirded-out about seeing me because I used to date her friend, and she used to date another friend of mine. Things got really cold and she began ignoring me. So I left it at that and forgot about her.
A month later I ran into her at a bar, ignored her, and she made a point to approach me and say hi. I kind of blew her off, then approached her later when I noticed another one of my friends with her who I had not seen in years. I caught up with this guy, while she sat there awkwardly. When I left she texted me to tell me that she “is not hooking up with [him]“.
Since then we’ve been texting back and forth. She responds to every text I send, with enthusiasm, and apologizes if she can’t make it to an event I invite her to (sometimes I invite her knowing that she is working). She’s basically everything I look for in a girl, otherwise I wouldn’t care, but despite the fact that she makes a point to keep up contact with me, I can’t get her to meet up with me again… Even last night at 2am, I booty-texted her, and she responded immediately but said she was exhausted from work (she works a double on friday nights) and was going to sleep.
Any thoughts on how she feels about me and anything I could do to win her favor? If she didn’t like me she wouldn’t answer my texts. If she wanted to be friends, there would be no reason not to join me when I invite her and her friends to come hang out. Any ideas?
Hey, I actually had the same encounter with my current girlfriend. She used to date a good friend of mine and I used to be with her good friend. We got to terms that we should forget the past and move on. And we got together.
I think this girl is interested in you. Why don’t you just go ahead with courting her? Buy her a box of chocolates, and she’ll appreciate it. Bring her for a movie when she’s not working, that should destress her alittle.
Give it a go bro, let me know if you’re okay. I’ve subscribed to the comments!
Okay so me and this girl started talking about a week ago and finally one day I was brave enough to give her my number. We were getting to know each other alot by texting and this and that because she was shy to talk on the phone so I was fine with it. I’m not sure if she’s really interested because she often takes A LONG time to reply on Internet and texting too which means I can never know what shes thinking about which sucks because I’m usually the one who always starts the coversations too so she never texts me first. Yesterday she walked to my school with her friend and we were talking to each other alone for about 10 minutes because she had to go early. I noticed she didn’t make much eye contact and kept playing with her phone alot. She smiled a few times and eventually gave me a hug when she had to go. what do you think? was she just really shy or pretended to be interested for a little bit? O_o
One major thing is girls are very idecisive. We can go from liking a guy to not caring about him in a few days. Something that happens alot of the time with my friends is they start flirting with a boy via texting and not realize how serious the boy is taking it. Sometimes we flirt over text for a confidence boost. yes its harsh, but its human nature. The last part of your description tells me she doesnt like you. Im sorry but playing with the phone is a girls number one excuse for avoiding a guy.
Gooduck in the future!
wow..confidence boost??? W T F? human nature? W T F? What are u even? Do u even have a S O U L? people like U only appreciate result not the process..
um hi I AM A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! like NONE of this is true it is all a LIE!!!!!!!!!!! please note if she isnt go go out with you alone she is nervous. or if she tells u not giv her a b-day present that means she loves your gift and feels bad she didnt get you anything. or if u text her and she never text back she isnt in the mood to text ANYBODY! or her phone is off and or dead.
oh really..no in the mood to text..damm..why is liking a girl so difficult..its like i have to pull the clouds ,the sun to the right position ,make sure the sea waves are not too strong ,wind just blowing at the right direction JUST TO WIN HER HEART! WHY CANT EVERYTHING HAPPEN NATURALLY!! ARGGGGG
There is one girl I really like and her name is linda. about two weeks ago we were always talking, smsing meeting, and kissing. but for no reason her xboyfriend is always talking to her and the same day I found out she stops flirting and acts like I’m just some boy somewhere. wow I feel so bad now because I’ve liked her since july 2009 and finally when something happends it gets all fucked up and now I am so pissed off, can somebody tell me what I can do to fix this?
Hi. I’m a girl. to fix your love “triangle” you should (A.) Ignore or it make her jealous.
(B.) Win her back girls love direct eye contact when talking and think it is romantic when they have private conversations
(C.) Girls are agressive act like a girl. By that i mean “get rid” of this exboyfriend. And by that I mean be mean to him when she isn’t around point out his flaws say how horrible she is etc etc
re to: ben says:May 12, 2010 at 8:44 am
There is one girl I really like and her name is linda. about two weeks ago we were always talking, smsing meeting, and kissing. but for no reason her xboyfriend is always talking to her and the same day I found out she stops flirting and acts like I’m just some boy somewhere. wow I feel so bad now because I’ve liked her since july 2009 and finally when something happends it gets all fucked up and now I am so pissed off, can somebody tell me what I can do to fix this?
thanks
she is trying not to feel guilty as she still may have some feelings for him but you need to win her over by being the better man (dude),talk to her instead of smsing let her get to know the real you and try to get a hug once and a while later it will be like second nature just keep talking and win her because you deserve her i dont know you but that quote usually helps
wow..i am attracted to a girl named linda too..but this one..tough nut to crack..
so like…i just met this girl the other day and ive seen her around school and stuff. i think shes gorgeous and would like to really know her. only problem is, i initiate everything, and our conversations dont last too long (txt) im not the type of guy to just call a girl because thats just not me. the other day i was with a group of my boys and she approached me for a hug or w.e. after i walked down the hallway a little, i noticed she was lookig at me, even when she was with her friends. any advice as to what i should do? as to whats going on in her head maybe?
i think she’d kinda started liking u…give her some more time maybe a few weeks or a month and see if anything else hpns if yes den goon n make d first move…:)!
she likes you bro and you should do everything to get her coz she may not be there forever,but if she has a bf and she has been acting that way around you she is leading you on and she may tell her bf and you will be in a smash wich is ok coz if you win rep is up and yeh so just go for it we only get one shot so fuck it
You got her attention. Just be yourself. She’s likes you but she might feel comfortable communicating as a friend with you-even if its studying or having lunch together. You may be a new breed that she’s learning about.
This thread is sad. God isn’t going to make the girl like you. In most cases SHE DOESN’T LIKE YOU. You guys need to stop telling people to “keep their hopes up etc” when it is obvious that the girl doesn’t like them. That sorta thinking leads to dissapointment and it makes it difficult for the girl as well.
I love this girl in my school. And I told her the feelings I have for her. She said it’s a lie. She also said I like her body but don’t love her. About almost a week later, I told her the feelings I have for her. And she said she doesn’t date guys like me. Does this mean that she truly don’t love me?
i need someone to talk to righ now but whoo
Ok so there’s this girl. We know each other for quite some time now in school. During her birthday i would buy what she wants. Sometimes she takes my coins for vending machines for the fun of it. When we meet we would wave Hi to each other and smile too.
We had msn conversations. At times it was her who initiate them, most of the time i am the one who initiates the conversations, same goes for the messages. She would reply almost instantly too. During our conversations, she would sometimes bring out other guys’ names, but i thought that wouldn’t matter.
One day i msged her and tried to ask her out. She thought for a moment, thinking yes/no. But in the end she chose no because she has church matters. After a few weeks i msged her again and hinted that i wanted to date with her. She got the hint and said that it is subjected to availability. She also said she would be free during June.
Slowly i got a liking of her, but i don’t know if she gotten a liking for me yet. Then i msged her and asked if she liked me. She then compared me with another person and said that he is more likable. I didn’t give up, i tried pursuing furthur. Then she replied that it would take time and my academics should be priority. She even asked for me to get good grades for my A-levels.
So now the crossroads for me is: Should i go out with her on the month of June? Should i pursue her to make her like me?
Any advice would be much appreciated
Johnny, there’s no way you can persue her to make her like you.
What you can do is being sweet to her until June, and then the date will aid you both the most. But be sure to have a solid plan for everything!
What’s your plans for June date?
Ok so I just recently got a new housemate and for two weeks it was just me and her in the house. She’s an international student so I extended a friendly hand and would give her lifts to the store etc and show her the surrounding areas. I’m not sure if it’s her flirty nature, but the way she would look at me and how she’d always be interested in going where I was (places like Kmart for god sakes), it seemed she was fairly interested.
Now, she has a boyfriend from where she’s from and would talk about him here and there almost as though probing for a response (or not) and I’d always just be casual about it and act happy for her. I even tried talking him up once and she then came back with a ‘he’s not that great’ response which I thought was interesting.
The biggest thing tho is the way she would sit with me on the couch watching trashy TV and fall asleep with her head resting next to me and other things like that. It would just seem so intimate at times and she would share her experiences and life with me. She would sometimes get fairly close and would playfully poke me and grab my arm etc. A couple of times out of frustration for this boyfriend issue, I would push her away which I kinda regret now. I’m either suffering from nice guy syndrome and not taking advantage of the situation, or am just confused to hell about her intentions.
Reading through this it might be nothing. There are of course more details and she was generally just very flirty and I couldn’t help myself developing a crush on her. It’s sad too coz I really like her now but who knows what the deal is with her. She will soon be seeing her boyfriend as he is coming to visit so sad times for me…
Any advice would be great
Alright, I know how you exactly feel.
Putting myself in your shoes, I wouldn’t be able to accept myself staying with a girl and not falling in love with her, if she’s as mentioned. She doesn’t have to be very pretty too.
Its still alright to shower her with some care right now – I don’t see it as being wrong being nice to a girl. When she’s lying on you, look at her and smile. Smile into her eyes.
Give her and yourself time. Hopefully she won’t shift out and will break up with him. This way you’ll have a chance – doesn’t mean you’ll be next up.
Let us know if there’s anything we can help you with. I’m contactable privately via the contact form!
Felix K.
so there’s this girl. We met each other through a common friend, and we’ve become really close, we talk to each other almost every day. But when I first met her, I though of her as a friend, and I liked someone else, and when she found out, she suddenly stopped talking to me alot, we would still talk, but not as much.
I asked out the girl I liked a few months ago, and got shot down. But suddenly, when the girl I used to talk to found out I was turned down, she started talking to me again!(she even mentioned that she got turned down by a girl that she liked the same day I was turned down). Awhile back she gave me her phone number to me as well when she was going after this other girl she liked (she’s bisexual), and now, starting this week, she’s started texting me every single night, asking me how my day went and I am. But when I try to talk to her at school, she’ll talk to me for the most part at lunch, and then she’ll just put on headphones when I try to talk her in between classes (we used to talk alot between classes).
I don’t get it. She calls me every night now, asking me how I am doing (she never did that before), and at lunch she’ll call me a bunch of nicknames, and when I nap sometimes, she’ll pat my hair gently. Almost every day, she’ll poke me jokingly, or yell in my ear when I start falling asleep in class so I’ll wake up. Every now and then, she’ll even spray my arm with a perfume called “sexy scent” or something like that, and she’ll tell me: “This is how you smell like now!”, and sometimes she’ll even sing one of her favourite Japanese songs to me (we both like anime and cosplaying, its something we have in common).
And sometimes, she’ll say these really strange sayings like:
(her)”Yeah, lucky you, I guess the universe decided to have us to be companions!” (jokingly saying this)
another time:
(me) “Yeah I can’t sing that well…” (seriously xD)
(her) “Meh, it doesn’t really matter. Like my choir teacher says ‘I’d rather have someone who can’t sing well but tries to sing than someone who can sing really well but doesn’t give any effort.”
And she told me all of this back when she was going after a girl she liked a few months ago.
In the past I’ve tried my best to help her out. When her computer broke down, I gave her instructions over the phone that repaired her computer. Then next day, she snuck up on me, and jumped on my back as a way of saying thank you. Then another time, when she got badly hit by a volleyball on her face, I ran halfway across the school to get an ice bag to help her with her bruise. When she found out that I literally ran halfway across campus to get an ice bag for her, she snuck up on me and hugged me. And recently, I offered to buy her tickets for a food festival (she didn’t have any, but wanted food), so I bought her a bunch, and then on the morning of the festival, she literally charged behind me when I wasn’t looking and slapped me in the ass! xD
I don’t know really; I don’t see her do this to any other guy at school. I seem to be the only she does this too. But part of me wonders, does she think of me as a friend? After all, for the most of the time we have been hanging out these past months, she was after some girl up until recently. But now…she seems to pay attention to me alot more.
What do you guys think? Does she like me?
I think judging by this, it’s fairly obvious she likes you. Maybe try some subtle approaches or get into situations that can invite some exchange of intimacy. If she is calling you this often and you find each others company easy going, then you’re in a good spot. Go for it
yeah well, xD asking her out proved otherwise
Thanx to Roger.made my situation little clear.I texted this girl just to see how she is doing and she replied that she decided we shouldn’t talk for now.first she said:she decided we should see each other more rarely,then she says we shoudnt communicate for now.
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cos she loves someone else! i waited one whole year to tell her that i lov her and this is the reply that i get! thanks for ur concern and i appreciate ur involvement in ur forums, but dude, if u find any pathetic jackass in your forums, who is more pathetic and jackassier than me, please let me know, i’ll feel a little comforted!
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there is this girl i like, she was 50-50 in all the points above.. a few times she will initiate to sms me first.. sometimes she replied almost immediately. sometimes she wait till very long or nv replied at all.. n she actually explained to me that is actually her habit.. i ask her to go for concert.. she was asking me which row n tix price.. but on another occassion she rejected my offer, saying i haf frens there.. i asked her out.. sometimes she agree, sometimes she say cant.. very often i called her but she seldom pick up call.. but once we talked over the phone, we talked for very long.. den finally she told me she wan makes things clear to me n said that currently she is single but unavailable. but den she nv totally close the door for me.. i told her single means still haf chance n hope she wont avoid me but continue to treat me as a fren n can still go out tgt.. she told me she wont avoid n yes can go out tgt.. i told her i will continue to woo her n she replied she cant stop me from doing that but hope i dun do it too overboard.. so wad is she tryin to mean??
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I’m so confused please help me out guys.I met this girl we used to go out a lot together.now it’s all changed she keeps calling me everyday,but I started seeing her very rarely.I ask her out but she keeps telling me she decided we should see each other more rarely.I asked her if something changed she said no.what could that be,if she don’t like me anymore why she keeps calling me?
Exactly same problem. This girl is probably trying to “put you on hold”, because she are evaluating other opportunities. These girls, to their credit, they don’t want to lead you on, but they don’t want you to go away. They want you to “wait” for them to decide what to do with you.
Yo, i have this one girlfriend who is mesmerized by my eyes ( i do have to admit, they are awsome) but i dont know how to keep a conversation going!!!! please i need tips on how to keep a girl. i really need some tips from the gf pros. At school i see her and she looks hawt. i tell her that on the phone and she just says thanks and laughs. is she just shy??? i really need help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thnx
What does she like? Eating? Movies? Music? Shopping?
Simply you can bring a female magazine and share it with her. Let her know what you like and what you thought she might like.
If not, bring her to the movies. Know her preference!
That should bring you both closer together.
okay,i like this girl from my tuition center…got her number from Facebook and started to smsing her for a day….when i sms with her,i realize she take an hour or more to reply me but the messages were lengthy,in one of the messages she said that she thinks one of my friend is hot but she also notice my existence cause she notice that i started to wear contact lens and that i used to be small,which is true…..and btw i doesn’t talk to her in tuition center nor saying ‘hi’ to her. so what should i do now ?? is she interested in me ?? should i give up ?? should i sms her again or say hi to her when i meet her ?? btw sorry for my english and hope that u all can give me some suggestions or your opinions ,i would appreciate it…. thank you
dude, just ask her out. thats how i got my gf. i need help too though…… but still ask HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! she totally deserves a guy like you.
please i have da same problem
sooo….this girl i have been friends in a while is really confusing me. she says that i am “like a brother to her” and i take it thats not always a good thing…other times when i make her happy,smile,or laugh she will say she loves me. she talks to me about guys that are interested in her and such and i don’t know if she is trying to bait me or not…just so darned confused..the thing is she won’t go to prom with any of those guys and i have a feeling that she may want me to ask her. its that “your like a brother to me” deal…i’m not sure if i should ask her out or no because i have been friends with her for a good 4 years. just so confused….at bonfires she will always sit by me or on my lap. at the most recent one, which consequently was tonight,she came up with a blanket in her hands and asked if i was cold, i said yea and she sat on my lap when there were a few of those guys that she talks about there,and she covered us both with the blanket,other times she will randomly start holding my hand and claiming shes trying to warm me up or some other exscuse, but that handholding has gone on for hours before. she texts me and asks me to hangout and from what my buddies have told me a lot of the times when she asks them to hangout, she asks them to invite me too, but theres still that occasional “your like a brother to me” (she doesn’t say it very often but enough for me to question).
she is always telling me that my eyes are pretty and such. nows a good time to describe myself, my eyes change color at random, they can go from a light blue or dark blue to a light or dark gray and then to a sea green color. i believe it is a change of weather that changes the color. i have been told by her and by several other girls who have flirted with me that i am one of the more handsome/cute/hot guys. although i have a lot of options open i only reallyyyyyyyy like her. she is always the one to point out what colors my eyes change to and such. but enough of that.
i am just a very confused highschooler. i really want nothing more than to ask her out its just that darned “your like a brother to me” phrase that comes out every so often. please let me know your feedback and leave any advice.
sooo….i reallyyy like this girl. We hang out at least twice a week. i can’t tell if she likes me as more than just a friend or not. she says that i’m like her brother sometimes but other times when i make her laugh and smile she says she loves me. She always talks to me about other guys that are interested in her and i can’t tell if shes ‘baiting” me or not. so far though she has refused to go to prom with those other guys and i don’t know if i should ask her, i don’t know if shes waiting for me to ask her or not. its just the whole “your like a brother to me” deal. thing is when we are at bonfires and such she will always be sitting by me or on my lap. the most recent bonfire we were at she came up to me with a blanket and asked “are you cold” and when i told her “yes” she sat on my lap and covered us both with the blanket. she will sometimes hold my hand and say” just trying to warm you up” but when that warming up turns into a much longer period…i just don’t understand, its the entire “your like a brother to me” deal
Okay this girl has always been touchy and friendly at school so i told her we should hang out. She responded with an emphatic sure and i asked her if she was free later two days ago ( two days after agreeing) and she said possibly but will have to Talk to the mother . That she might hold her hostage but hopefully not. I said okay and she said she would let me know. Now i never got a repsonse later that day nor yesterday. I havent reponded because i dont want to seem too interested or obsessive. Should i wait for her to contact me? Is she not interested?
has anyone noticed that most sufferers are males here?
In fact, unlike what the media tries to show us, most sufferers we see in love-related issues are ….males.
Ok, this is my female perspective. I do talk about other guys to the guy I like, but that doesn’t mean I’m romantically interested in the other guys, it just means I want to talk about what those guys did because I don’t understand it and to me, guys can be really confusing sometimes. And I’m guilty of the emotional baggage thing too, but I don’t tell my emotional baggage to people I don’t like, I tell it to people I care about and do like, such as friends and people I want to be friends with. And I do keep things about myself from people, such as embarrassing secrets BECAUSE I DON’T WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW THEM. And the “brother” term for me is a term of, well, friend. But the rest are definitely signs I would use to let someone know I’m not interested.
Well I am 19 and i like this chinese girl in my school. Well she looks cute, we met at some school function and she told me I looked cute and stuff. But after that she used to reply my sms sometimes then she stopped. And in school when i say hi to her just over the weekend she acts shy and stuff. Like say hi and runaway fast. So technically it also makes me wonder what i did wrong. But its nothing. Then just a weeks ago she suddenly joins my group for some project. And then now she like runs to me and talks about the project and stuff. So i sent her 1 sms but still no reply.Well, I know its sounds complicated…but any advice on this. I mean i really like her???????
Hi, I just wanted to get some advice on my current love situation.
I’ve been talking to a girl for about 1 to 2 months now. Took me about a month of talking to get her number and do more things with her (i only saw her once a week, at most). So then i tried calling her but she said she was busy so I really wasn’t surprised she didn’t pick up but I did leave a message but never got any calls back which happened 2 times so i thought I would give up. My roommate however convinced me she is very busy and I should try texting so i did and she actually replied quite fast and as I said before I only see her one day a week so I tried setting up a date for that day. However, she said she had a pretty bad cold so i thought I’d try again next week and the next week she said it was her Dad’s birthday. Those are pretty good reasons not to do something so i tried the next week and she said she was going to a theme park for the weekend. I ended up just telling her to text me when she gets back and we can try again. The thing is i’m always the one initiating the contact and feel she’s not putting much effort into it.
My question is… even though ours schedules are tied up and we haven’t actually done anything even though its been months do you think she is or can be still interested? And what should be the next step?
Sorry for the massive wall of text, and thank you.
you guys are very slow… i’m a girll and none of things are truee, haha.
Lame, sigh…….I don’t think the girl I really like, likes me back =( oh well, NEXT!..
Life is too short to spend the rest of your life focusing all of your time and energy on a girl that does not feel the same as you.
“I will never beg a girl to go out with me!”-me
short and simple…i met this girl at a bar and we went out once. The second date was set but when the day came i didnt call her or text her…i called her a few days later with no response or text…..shes an international student, what should i do?
ok i got one for u i started talking to this girl and i have been for awhle now she’s going thur a devores and say that she not ready to be with anyone well she live in another state and she and i but have said that we connect so well and even tell me she loves me but says she not in love with me but i really care bout this girl as more then a friend and we have been talking along time but we have never met face to face just long nights of talking on the phone and online every time things start to get going really good she gets to the point where she going to run away from what she feels and latey she has been really cold and seems kinda distint and has started to hang out with a guy friend at her work and she told me that she attrecked to his guy and that he is to her but they are just friends and she told me tonight that they went and hung out and she wanted to kiss him and they did but she said that he didn’t want to kiss her but b4 this guy came in the picutre she would tell me all the time that she wanted to kiss me, and i’m just really ayoned by the face that she goes and hangs out with this guy but we are not together and that she says that we are just friends but she doesn’t know if she feels anything more for me cuz she has never met me in person so should i just walk away and leave it at that any advice would help
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Hey all, so there is this girl in my class that I have known for a couple of months, but it wasn’t until we started hanging out and went on vacation together that I found out i like her. I decided to tell her the truth, however she says she wants to focus on her studies during school. As well, I asked if she likes me, and she said no, however when my friend asked her if she likes me, she said yes. She always laugh at what I say and allow me to put my hands on her shoulder, etc. I am confused, what should I do and should I keep on pursuing or no?
I am no “love doctor” but from my experiences it sounds like this is a case of seriously mixed signals.
recommendation: flirt with her more, pay attention to her reaction. Get to know her more. P
Bottom line:Pursue but don’t pursue so much that you begin to waste your time with her, there are other girls.
If it works out great!
it it doesn’t it is not too late, to get a date!
Hey, I am a girl and I do find most of these points true. However, like mentioned above, point numbers #1, #5 and #15 doesn’t really apply to me. For some submissive or shy girls like me, we do not really have the guts to start an SMS, IM or call and would rather wait for the guy to show up first. Well, everything depends on the person, though. Great Article !
i once met a girl and shaged her it was fun
just find a balance. feel the girl out. you cant be too pushy, but you also cant be too nonchalant.
if you’re an okay looking guy going after a badass bitch, you need to fucking slow down. acknowledge her beauty, but dont let that be all you see.
she knows you view her as a trophy. shit, you may not even know it, but she can sense it.
and again…if you’re dealing with a badass bitch who doesnt know her worth yet, but kinda sorta knows she’s more than your average chick… you walk a very thin line buddy. dont fuck it up and be too fucking pushy. let the bitch breathe.
Do NOT bring up marriage within the first too months of dating. Meaning, stating you want to marry HER. not just talking about the shit.
Do NOT try to meet her parents. She will introduce you when she’s good and ready.
Do NOT ask her to move in with you when you’re just getting to know each other.
Do NOT make the mistake of not being chivalrous. Every little thing is a turnoff if it’s add-on to you being too damn short, overweight, or just moderately attractive. SHE is a nice girl who maybe isnt so vain, so she’ll tolerate those things you cannot control. BUHHHT, the shit you can control, why should she deal with it. She’s pretty…beautiful…or a badass bitch. Do not be cheap, too mushy, tooo touchy feely…making her uncomfortable with all the public displays of affection. Try to gage her mood before you do all that.
Do NOT just let your emotions take over completely is all I’m saying. Forgetting the other’s persons feelings and not caring whether her feelings for you are growing. It’s extremely selfish.
Give her time and room to make up her mind about you. You’ll push her away and any chance you had is pretty much flushed down the crapper. Your personality and your sense of humor is what got her interested in the first place…but that shit wont hold up with all the extra bullshit.
uhm… i’m different then. T_T
I really like this guy but I’m too shy to look at him! I get nervous when he’s too close and when he’s talking to me- I try not to look at him.
I think I’m a little scared. He likes me {i THINK. My friends tell me he definitely does. Plus I think he said i was he gf if someone i don’t know thought we were going out} and i think he knows i like him…. and if this works out it’ll be my first boyfriend {I’m 13}. I mean I had crushes before, but not to this extent where we both know and did something about it and i’m this scared around him.
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I’m trying to build up the courage to do something about it! I’m kinda mad that I didn’t get the chance to and now i won’t see him for 2 weeks. {winter break} UGH!
Hey all, well I met this on the bus on the first day of school and we have been talking ever since. She was down one day so I told her I would go to see her favorite movie with her (twilight) but I didn’t get a ride. She seems pretty shy but she hasn’t been the same since the night I never show’d up. She never initiates contact through texts but she did send me a message on thanksgiving saying “Happy thanksgiving
”. She used to always smile at me in the hallways but seems now to only be down and upset. I sent her a message saying tht I got lost in her pretty eyes and didn’t hear wat she said (long story) but no reply. You think see is interested in me?? Or am I wasting my time
i could hardly find a topic with her because i got no guts and i dunno wad to ask …
Ask her how her day was.
erm … help ???
i liked a girl , im kinda have no guts , so i took her number through facebook .she gave it to me , and i smsed her for the last 3 days .her firstday reply was long and fast , but after that first day , her reply was “no” and “yeah” . anyone know wad i shud do to woo her ? and her bdays coming , im planning to buy her something , u guys think i shud give her on her birthday or when school starts ???
PS / HOW TO WOO HER ?!
dont do it in school she will probably be embarrassed and maybe annoyed… don’t spend too much money on her for her birthday cos this will look like you’re trying really hard and trying to buy her over, but maybe buy her a bunch of flowers – they never fail
try not to text her too much, cos its annoying and will make you look needy. if she replies like no and yeah then its probably a hint to stop texting as much cos she doesnt seem to be trying to carry on the conversation really.
I guess it just means she’s after your cash.
If a girl ask you money everytime, from the first you met her, what does it mean….
Alright here’s my story I’ve been talking to this girl I like for around a month. I txt her about ever day and she usually respondes right away but sometimes like after we been txting for a few hours she’ll just not respond and sometimes I’ll txt her later that day and she just won’t respond during the first weeks we were talking she would initiate the conversation but she doesn’t anymore but she still responds when I txt her. She has told me that she likes me and she know I like her but I just always have an uneasy about the whole thing. The second week we were talking she got drunk and made out with some random guy. Then one of my better friends claims to like her also and to have liked her for a while bit she has told me that she only sees his as friend but she is always constantly talking to him and probably talks to him more than she talks to me in school. We have talked on the phone a few times and have had like 2 hour conversations. The conversations are usually just about random stuff but I always make sexual jokes with her and she plays along. We always talk about stuff we have done with other people and she is kinda a hoe. The whole reason I’m telling this story is because one day it seems like she likes me then the next that she could care less about me. I really wanna call her and ask her how she feels about me but I’m not sure. Please any advice?
STOP BEING SO NICE! she sees you as a freind. she likes you, but she is not attracted to you. by being available every day and continusouly talking to her and listening to her, you are serving as her FRIEND. what u need to do is build ATTRACTION. being NICE is NOT attractive. engaging in 2hr conversations about life is NOT attractive. COOL is attractive. SELF CONFIDENCE is attractive. you have to be the guy who can get any girl you want, then she has 2 compete with other girls for YOUR attention. by talking to her less and other girls more, you make your time scarse and therefore more valued. a girl has to deserve your time. also, if you are interested in a girl, you hav 2 get slowly but gradually physical, 2 steps forward 1 step back, build this up because if she is accustmed to this, she will be comfortable with you being intimate, she will want you as a boyfriend, not as just a friend. but it you spend hours & days talking to her as her friend, then the second you go in for a kiss, it will be ‘…AKWARD…’ & she’ll give u the ‘lets just be frieds’ speech. Also, remember that a good majority of communication is through BODY LANGUAGE. so try to talk to girls in person and limit the texting and facebook talk. If you really like this girl & you’re stuck in the friendzone, hit on her friends, she’ll get jealous & want you even more, or she’ll help you to get with her freinds. if she doesn’t do either, cut her off completely, theres a million girls out there don’t get caught up over one.
hope that helps, playa!
ok so i met this girl i used to know. She saw me at a bar and ran over to me and initiated conversation. we hit it off great. she gave me her number and i left. next day we talk and plan on me meeting later at her work. i go see her and we talk for awhile on her hour break. we end up getting really touchy feely and make out. we talk about the possibility of a relationship between us decide to play it cool and arrange a day for later in the week to get up and go out on a date. Well since then i have called her a couple of times(no answer, no returned calls). called her on the day we were supposed to go on our date and her phone was dead. now i am not sure what to do. A big big part of me wants to call her and find out whats going on ? the other part of me says play it like the man and let her call you back. I am sure this girl likes me but not sure what outside situation would causs her to aviod me. or maybe she doest like me as much as i thought and just loves attention. What do i do
try to contact her a few more times…sporadically. not back to back. she doesnt respond…forget about her. save yourself the heartache. you dont know her well enough anyway.
btw only try to call if you really felt there was a genuine connection.
there might have been one, but life happens. could be another guy, one who has been her life a long time. women are more loyal to those theyve know the longest. sadly, even if the person hasnt treated them the best.
she likes you if she calls you back and really engages you…and laughs at all your corny, dumbass jokes.
you know what…reread your entry. she was kissing you n crap on her lunch break after just reconnecting with. she’s not to be taken seriously dude. save urself.
What kind of mind games?
she plays ‘MIND GAMES’ with me..
she always reply my sms quickly..
the problem that I have shown that I like her, but she is like a fans keeper..
I do AALLL of these things to the guy I do like
I guess I’m just a really shy girl
i do all this things to the guy i`m crushing on too. i`m really shy and also i`ve been hurt b/4 so this is a way of making sure i never get hurt like that again.
woah.. so many stories… mayb i shld include mine too..
i have known this girl for 6 months plus.. through cca from a friend.. so basically, during ccas, i kind of like to act as a hero in front of her… but after a few training sessions, we quitted it about the same time..
actually during ccas, i was already quite interested in her.. so i tried going to facebook and find her email address.. amazingly, i found it and i initiate the talk with her… she rmbs me and we started talking almost everyday… sometimes, i tried not to talk to her everyday cuz i was afraid i would scare her off..
semester 1 was not a good time for me… cuz i can only talk to her in msn..
but, semester 2 was the best for me… cuz our timetables are almost the same, so we could see each other almost everyday..
sometimes, i tried to say hi to her, mayb a smile only cuz she is always with her friends and i didnt want to disturb her conversations… but i wonder why i am always the one who saw her first.. but of couz, when she saw me, she will still return a smile..
and i rmb once, we promised to find each other one day and i even said if i saw her, i will pop in front of her… shockingly, my stupid friend ask me to enter the school from a different entrance… i was freakin angry but still tried my best to look for the girl.. somehow, i found her and i plucked up my courage to go talk to her.. and i kind of joke like hey, you see i juz pop in front of you.. and she looks shy but still smiles a little..
but for goodness sake, i didnt tried asking for her number cuz i dunno how to..
firstly, we juz talk in msn and i am always the one initiating the talk so i wonder if that was always true if a girl is not interested in me when she don’t initiate a talk… what if i dc and when i log in again, she talks first, is that initiating a talk too?
secondly, she is always with her friends and i am juz trying to wait for a time when she is alone which is not freakin possible for now..
lastly, i am afraid that she would not give..
actually, i have phobia for this kind of experiences and i dunno how to get over with it…
so, can anyone help me with this? thx a lot
she doesnt want you, she just likes the attention. seriously just stay away from her and try to get over her. when you blank her for a while she will talk to you and act interested but shes just leading you on because she misses how interested you were in her – thats it. she doesnt feel the same and shes not worth the time!
yeah, youre right Zoe. Thanks. I needed to hear soming like that.
I just need to move on.
you’re welcome
i’ve seen way too many of my guy friends get messed around by girls. good luck 
Check it, Im 17, I have known this one girl for about a year now. When I first met her i thought she was the most gorgeous thing I had ever seen. I stared at her for a couple seconds when we were introduced and she stared back. The stupid thing I did after that was ask her for her number right away. FAIL. She gave me her number but left out the last digit. I figured it out and called her and texted her that day. I definitely sent her way to many text messages, Since it was her first time meeting me I guess she replied them to be nice. I don’t know what happened, It was like I lost all my senses with her, I know i should not have even asked her for her number the first tie i saw her. If i had thought it through i would have known that i would be seeing her after that. So, anyway, I rushed the game and it backfired on me. She thinks im some obsessed person or soming. I let time pass but she knew that i liked her. about 10 months after meeting her i told her i loved her. Which was also a dumb thing to do. now she knows that and im left looking like an idiot. There are times when I can clearly tell that she is soooo not interested. But there are other times where she leads me on. There was this one time when I went out with this other girl just to see what she would do. She talked to me about it. She asked me what i would do if she were to kiss me right then while i was with this other girl. I said i would kiss her back with all my heart. (shouldnt have said that
.) Now i dont talk to her, Every time i call her when i am lucky to get an answer she has very little to say if anything. She never ever ever initiates a conversation. She said I was immature a couple months back man av tried to change and I am but im not getting her attention. I have given up hope, She got mad a while back because i added her ex on facebook after we were introduced, i dont know how to read any of this. All my mates av said that i need to move on and think about another girl but i cant, it is very hard. shud i just move on?? I aint spoken to her for a while. I avoid her when i see her, the main reason is im embarrassed, need u peoples help. 
Move on. Although you’d like to think that she might like you, you already know she doesn’t. Just accept it. While it may be hard you need to do it. Find someone else.
This is really a cool site to exchange ideas.. now here goes my story and need advices..
Met this girl in a club 2 years back but totally slip my mind to get her number, 2 months ago, bounce into her in the club again, we exchanges phone numbers…Bear in mind, she’s with a bf now,
First date, went to one of my fren’s baby shower, where she knows no one there, thereafter had a good time with karaoke session and followed by good dinner and wine..
We started to sms and msn almost everyday, talking about almost everything, from what she’s eating, horoscope updates, or just plain complaining about work..
Second date, went for a movie and dinner before sending her back..
Then 3rd date, was at a club with her and saw her having too much fun with other guys which really send me into a rage.. i cool it and left..
She never talks about her bf thingy to me before, though i know she’s in a relationship..
Never express my feeling to her yet, confused of what i should do now…
Not exactly true though, i would usually purposely talk abt other guys in front of him
oya. She usually tells me her daily life. Like whats she eating, doing etc.
ok so basically we text each other almost everyday. We are in separate schools, both in single sex school. Sometimes i initiate the sms, sometimes her. She replies fast, regardless in sch or not. I asked her out once, she went. On the same nite, i text her to ask if she would like to go out again. She said she doesn feel like going out and says maybe nxt time but not specifically any date. Be4 her bday, i asked her if she wants a present. She said dont waste your money. Which actually is one of the points here. Im really scared i would be in another unreciprocated relationship again. Help me please!
i feel like you are right about most of this and like you said its the 21st century, most girls now adays, well atleast the good ones, like a man to step up to them, show them that you can take good control and let yourself be known. and if you sense that things are not going good, she either wants you to try harder or back the hell out. Also, dnt push it, dnt do too much..this is the mistake most nice guys make.
Alright so i met this girl a few days ago through friends. the first time i talked to her we had an hour and a half conversation at 2 in the morning about our past relationships and what we look for in a girl or guy and eid say things and shed be like “ohh thats a turn on!”. initially i definatley thought we could have something together. Now a few days later i ask her to hangout and she’s busy both times (cheerleading and previously made plans). She tells me shes sooo sorry blah blah blah about being busy. I always send the initial text and she usually responds quickly, but then the conversation ends with me sending a text and getting no reply. I decided to wait a few days and wait for her to text me. to be honest, i thought i was being a little clingy/pushy with sending 1 to many texts
is she playing hard to get or is she not interested??
dude, she’s not interested. well leave her alone, lets her miss you a little, let her initiate a conversation with you first. All girls notice and love every single attention they get, esp cheerleaders, so when she notices your attention is gone, she’ll call back for it and then you let her know what it issss!!! lol
she just likes the attention. don’t let her play you anymore stop talking to her!!
umm.. i’m a girl, and i think most of these things aren’t true,cause i’m very shy, and when i don’t make eye contact with a guy, its because i can’t look into his eyes for very long, cause i get embarassed!!
hello there
’ but when the time comes i see her and ask for a dance and she shrugges her shoulders and carry on dancin, her friend wispers in her ear sayin ‘he likes you’ (her friend telles me) im really tempted to go behind her and hold her her hips but i wanna act like a gentalman in fort of her so i dont do it. when she is upset i ask her whats wrong and she tell me everythink so i try eaz her, when i finished eazin her she always fanx me with a lovin hug and feels like theres a moment but she dont feel it (i can see it in her eyes). im a song-writer and singer as well and wrote a song about her do you think i should show it to her, i just want her to know that im serious about her and dont wanna just be a good friend with her.
im a 16 year old boy im quite well known round my city (its small) a lot of girls call me cute but i never had a gf
i gotta tell someone sumthink ?
i really like this girl, she my age i known her since i was 11 years old and been in my class from year 7 – 11 (end of school year).i have liked this girl since i was 14, every time i go to say i like her she thinks im jokin or when i give her a compliment she never agree on it (upset from her sexy dimple). when the end of the month is up a club opens for our age so i chat to her on msn she really sweat to me and i tell her ‘next time i see you at the club… can i have a dance’ she replies quick with ‘YEAH
so can anyone tell what i should do for her to be my girl
AND …..
SOME PEOPLE CANNOT REPLY or be on the computer all the time or on facbeook everyday .
There’s reasons !
Pretty good ones anywho …
Duuuude !!
Those arent all right .. becaus some of them …. well some people dont got confidence / are REALLY SHY !
Duude .
Just like think about it mann .
I had a wife I loved, 34year,s and she cheated on me, and left me. I LOST my love and every thing I felt good about as a dad, and husband. Anyone that
cheats on there loved one is a fool. For what a hop
in the hay. well I em single at 55 years old and I
read this stuff about married people to see if I EM ALONE. I SEE NOT. What dose a single man do to
find a women he can trust. I do not like bars to hang out in. I have no clue on where to go to find a women that wants a man she trust. maybe I em to old thinking. I love sports, country music, and fishing, and skiing, and the out doors.
Sex is not the most important thing, but seems to be in the single life. I HATE being single and alone. so if people cheat they need to get there head out of there buts. when you tie the knot, its a life time deal people forget in the later years. Even if living together, IT,S work.
And with 2 people working now days the love part
seems to go by the way side. But some times its, just life. Hang on to your loved one and talk to each other after work. Make time to be alone.
life is short,then your dead.
Hey my name is Joey to I have basicly the same problem I am 14 and I like a girl in one of my classes I m her best friend and it hurts when she tells me she’s with another guy I express my feelings to her I write down love songs even make up my own tell her I love her everyday. Cause I do and now over a message on my space she tells me she does not like me we are not going to have another class together and so I told her how much torcher she put me through but I still love her her name is Brittany wat do I do now
here’s a big hug for you wayne!
i’m jus 21 and i dunno wat to tell a 55 yr old. all i can say is, Jesus loves you man. He hears your cry and sees your tear. no matter how impossible it may seem to man, He can always give you the peace that no one else can. love you wayne!
Ok don’t know who reads this still. But I’ve been pushed away too. On myspace I try to reach out. Give messages show her I care and I Wana talk….. No reply. And I know I’m not pretty thing but I hooked up with so many hotter lady then her. It’s just I like her in the inside to the out. And I mean a month ago she let my friend know she thinks of as a brother?? Am I being to nice? Like every girl asks for a nice guy? Watever…. And now she all stuck over her ex… But she says she feels loved… Adored! When I put the song Alive by black eye peas discribing the way I feel on my profile. It’s like her status notes throw me off. Idk if there kent for me or her ex, she says: do you like me? , do you love me? , waiting for a angle, waiting fir my prince… Guys I’m scared to get rejected by her…. I’d be broken if I knew she. Loved another guy ! This is wifey status
yes buddy.., these are true..
Actually girls are something different..what they think..what they do .. hmm..!!!
i met this girl years ago we were introduced by an acquaintance but what happened i was in school and we saw each other but i didnt say hi and ignored many times but now we work in the same hospital and we see each other from time to time we might say hi to each ow would i ever bring it from the just saying hi phase
This is easy. Don’t think about the past. Just walk up to her and say “hi’. If you are very shy, practice what would you say and imagine yourself saying hi to her. Saying hi to other people will help too. Relax, you’ll be fine.
With all this technology going around you would think there is more communication these days. Here is my story. I met this girl at a store, we exchanged numbers and we texted quite a few times and chatted online as well. So SHE suggested to meet me Saturday, but then, she had to cancel because she had to work. She told me that she would be available tomorrow, but no word, not even a text msg. I texted her twice, just saying whats going on and no answer. Any suggestions? I know she is shy, but damn not even a simple text message?
If she declined your first meeting, but then planned a second, then there is still hope. maybe give her a couple more calls, see if everything is alright, but if she planned a second date then chances are youll be alrite.
ok…here’s my story…about 2 months ago i met this girl @ work..@ the moment when we met i was going through a marriage crisis and also lost my dad..when we 1st spoke and formally introduce ourselves to each other she offered, i know you don’t know me but if you ever need someone to talk to, im here…at the time she didn’t know i’m married…nways, a few days later, almost everyday she see’s me, she compliments me on how i dress.. for example: are
those new shoes? And i’d go yes! And she’d go looks good on you…now i didn’t wanna read too much into this coz i was afraid it would
backfire if i misread her..so i played it cool momentarily waiting for the right time to ask for her number..finally that day came, so i ask…well to my surprised she gave me her number and said, won’t you give me a ring so i can have your number too? And so i did. I waited 2 days before i texted her. She replied to those texes and also answered my phone calls…we have something in common…we both like sports..so most our conversation at first was all about the Lakers…couple of weeks later i thought it’d be good to give me her something, like a memorabilia…and so i gave her a kobe bryanT autograph trading card..which was a part of my collection…she says, thanks but also said, you didn’t have to. But when i ask in a text later that night if she liked it
She replied, i loved it..anyhow, 2 weeks went by, and one day after work i ask her if she wanted to go grab a frozen yogurt, this time she already knew i was married, and Yet she did not hesitate to say yes..and by the way she has boyfriend…nways,a week later i ask again if wanted she to go to starbucks for a cup of coffee, but @ the time she had to meet a friend, so i said ok…but she suggested what bout 2morrow? unfortunately i couldn’t make it to the day she suggested, but i countered that with a different day..and she said ok..and so we did…we went and hung out at starbucks…before the day was over, i told her how attractive she is, that she’s a very likable person, i like the fact that she’s very attentive and i was beginning to like her..she says thank you and seems very flattered..but her response was kinda odd…she goes, you may not know this , but i cheated once before, and that she’s afraid of karma…i didn’t know what she was trying to say…then she followed that up with, saying that she’s really not looking into a relationship when she’s in one…in my mind i was like, i did not ask for no relationship…so i dont really know what she trying to say…nways, the day ended with hug and both of us saying, be safe driving home…that night i called her to make sure she got home safe..which she did..before we hung up i ask her she wants to hang out again, just to see if she would still say yes…which she did…but when that day came, and i ask if we were still on, she said ummm…i can’t it’s mom’s b-day..so i said ok…but this time she didn’t suggest another day to hang out and neither did i…a week later i ask her when would she wanna hang out again..she replied i can’t this coming week..but maybe next week…so i said ok..now i’ll see if she would still go..now guys,my question is, does girl like me at all or am i misreading her??? Please let me know what ya’ll think…sorry, if this thread is a little long :p
Why don’t you treat your WIFE like that and stop trying to break your vows?
Funny shit man….you dont need to be married acting like this….damn!!!
Dude, your the reason marriage gets bad press! You have a wife, who cares what thus other woman thinks?
duude don’t forget when a girl tells you that she doesn’t like you only as a friend and you keep calling her every night and texting her everyday in the morning and doesn’t reply to you and you keep asking why won’t you text back.
because she thinks thats effin annoying and she won’t tell you that its annoying cuz she wants to be nice
GOSH moFO i would shoot him!
Coming from an ordinary teenaged girl..
All these points are true.
If she’s more upfront, then these facts will apply.
If she doesn’t exactly want to be mean/feels the need to be polite, she’ll only tone it down.
my friend told her i liked her and she said ok then he told her i wanted to kis her and she said ok again wtf do i do
awwhh come on..this is junior high..damn!! i am in the wrong zone…ok..this is what you should do my child..BUST HER BALL…!! no more friends, no more talk, be a man..go to her..HOLD HER HAND FIRST..than take her somewhere quiet..and kiss the g**da** girl..be a man, if she not respect you, she would not love you..
thanks this list is really good. i needed it.
I like this girl. she knows i like her but i dont feel that she likes me… I told her how I feel… she said her parents were strict and didnt allow her… everything you said is everything she does… Last valentines I gave her flowers and a teddy bear… I got was thank you… Shes just my crush and I want to know her better but when I ask her out no replies… does this mean she really doesn’t like me?
hello dear friend cnopaba, same situation is with me… when i propose her she told me that her family is very strict and she was unable to create relationship with me. she is a hindi and iam muslim…may be theirs a problem…..
but i know that she loves me coz she come to meet me twice a week and if i have tell her something to do, she never ignore. but their is a problem that her friend like me and she also know about that…. i don’t know wat to do…?
at present we meet each other but not like earlier………
plz help me
ask her out 3 times..NO answer, or the answer is NO…forget her..you have ABSOLUTELY NO POWER OVER THIS..it’s GOD will..say goodbye..someone better is waiting for you (also GOD will)
..easy guys..test you girl : touch her..in friendly way..touch her hand, touch her shoulder..if ok with her 50%..give a lame jokes..if she always laugh WITH you..75%..the rest 25% is luck
..but remember..only if she respect you..will she love you..
Yeah i got a question id really like someone to answer. I met a girl about a year ago and we were always friends and now were best friends but ive always liked her. we always talk on aim and we always talk about going somewhere alone. Ive gotten vibes that maybe she likes me but i get more friend vibes. what do u all think? Ive never dated anyone but compared to the others ive liked i like her more 4 her personality. She never talks about any other guys and never mentions possible love interests.
im pretty sure she likes you but is too shy to tell you, or afraid you might not like her back. take a step.
sounds good, i have a question, i like this girl and she told me she liked me about 3 days ago over the weekend, and those 3 days were great, but now we dont talk as much on aim or on the fone. in skool though she smiles at me and says hi when ever we pass each other, and idk but it seems like im the only one to start to the conversation,and try to keep it going or start sumthing idkkk if she likes me any more wat do u think??am i pushing it, should i slow it down? should i tell her that i really like her, or try to hang out with her more can some one help me…
i think you are pushing it..stay cool, just call her 2x a day..school is a no no..school is time for your buddies..if you call her..show CARE..and laugh with her..show care is your way of saying i like you..don’t be obvious bro
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not really true ….what if a gal has a bf and yet ask the others guy to buy things for her …… i don’t really understand …and the guy is interested in her …spenting alot on her ……..
BIG NO NO !!!!!! if a girl like you..SHE will buy things FOR you..right now you’re just her donkey..sorry bro
..i could buy things for girl.but no..she has to show me first that she will use her money for me..when she shows this..i’ll say thanks but NO..i will pay this time 
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i so agree with every word.
especially that it doesn’t apply to all girls because some girls are just too shy to express how they feel.
“She never want to look at your eyes, or stay any minute with u and would find uncomfortable with u around.”
Sometimes girls are just nervous, not that they are not interested. i’m speaking for myself here. i lack the damn guts.
but guys sometimes misunderstand that the girls are not interested? although it’s also true if the girl doesn’t like the guy.
i’m also for guys to take the first initiative.
if a girl is really shy, the guy has to be the bolder one to take the first move if there is mutual liking, no?
Yeah, thats pretty much what I would do if i wasnt interested in you..
just so you guys know, if a girl washy interested in a guy, she should have the guts to atleast tell him rather than leading him on or ignoring him
do you have a mild case of down syndrome….most girls would never have the ability to straight up tell a guy she doesn’t like him. that’s why most guys stick around and keep trying. not cause they are creepers but because the girl didn’t flat out inform the guy that it was never gonna happen for him.
I have a similar situation. I’ve known this girl for about 5 years now. I asked her number and she gave it to me. I started calling her and asking her out but she always had an excuse….like for about 4 maybe 5 times….I stop calling her…or talinkg to her on msn. She starded talking to me on msn and also calling me sometimes asking me for advice on her relationships with other guys aying that things were not going good and so on…I wonder…if she knows i told her i liked and she said as friends…why is she asking me advices about her personal relationships…??? i’m sure she has girl-friends to go to…why me…? if she knows i liked her. She did this by text messages and also by calling a few times….what gets me madd is ehy when i invite her out she had an excuse….???After i stop calling and talking to her on msn and cellphone…if she did not start the conversation and talk to me I would not talk to her….after she was the one talking to me….
But i still think about her. I want to tell her that and if there is any reason for me to keep feeling this way or thinking about her to let me know…otherwise…i would just walk away….and forget her. i’m confused and madd…
what can i do? guys….
just pray ask God to show you a sign if that is the girl you´re looking for or if that is the right one after praying and ask God for advice and the later tell her that you´re still interested about her if she still sayd taht seh wanna be your friend then just walk away and put in your mind this luke 18: 29-30 God will give you a better girl that will really appreciate you by what you feel and will be twice more beatiful , twice sensible twice better twice loving and much more tahn tehlast one
Just a bit of information:
I’m glad you trust God, Raul. It makes me happy.There’s just one thing I wanted to clarify.
Luke 18:29-30 does not exactly promise that God will give a man a girl who is “twice as beautiful.”
It simply says that God will reward us if we sacrifice other things in order to follow Him.
Yes, the Bible does say that God will provide for those who have surrendered their lives and believe in Jesus for their salvation. But that doesn’t mean you automatically get an girl upgrade.
Praying for God’s guidance and wisdom is a good idea though. But people only have the right to ask God for things if they are in a relationship with Him.
To be in a relationship with God (that is, to be forgiven of our sins and be adopted into His family), all anyone (no matter what that person has done) has to do is confess that Jesus is Lord and believe in his/her heart that God raised Him from the dead.
However, I do know God to be the most generous and wise Person ever. So, if He knows a husband/wife would be good for us (and we ask Him to provide one), I’m sure He will. Even if it takes longer than we would like.
And whenever we ask God to direct our choices, we always end up with better results. So, in that way, a guy would end up with the girl who is better for him.
I know this isn’t directly related to the topic, but I just wanted to make sure other people don’t get confused.
way to go emilie!
Ahaa… I am afraid that although the idea of god is a needed comfort, it is also ridiculous to think that god could interfere with His creation, as he would be being a selective god and thus, not truley god! Also a god who answers petitionary prayer (asking for things) but, yet, ignores the cries of starving children is surely not worthy of our worship?
Will, im afraid your wrong mate. God is a comfort and a stronghold when needed. God doesnt interfere with His glorious creation, he helps them, cares for them and understands their needs. Although your prayers are not answerered immediatly or the way you want them to be, he still loves you. We dont deserve his grace because we sin everyday our thoughts are sinful and decieving.We are his children if we decide to be, until you make that choice, you won’t feel his goodness and the way he cares for Christians. But He died on the cross for us, so doesnt that deserve our praise and wonderful worship?
Wow someone else believes in our Heavenly Father too! Im so glad. Yes we should wait until God Almighty is ready for us to have our man of our dreams, the one who honours God first.
Girls dont like making the first step they like the men to do the first direct hit ( like in battleship). but dont be too pushy. Rather be a gentleman and we will adore you, smile and flirt with us and we will consider you be yourself and we may fall under your charm.
that’s pretty inspirring there,,,,,,,
She thinks of you as only a friend and has told you so. She’s telling you about the guys she’s going out with only to get your opinion as a male friend, it doesn’t indicate any interest in you on her part whatsoever.
You have to get out of this situation ASAP or you’ll just end up hurt and bitter. You need to own up to the fact that you have tried with this girl, she’s NOT interested, and yet you’re allowing her to use you as an emotional doormat because you have feelings for her. You deserve better.
There are two ways you can go about ending the friendship.
#1 You can stop calling/texting her and take longer and longer to reply to her calls/texts and just let things naturally fade.
#2 You can confront her. Tell her you’re sorry but you made a mistake when you agreed to be “just friends”. You’ve realized you have feelings for her which she has made clear she doesn’t return and you’re not able to think of her as just a friend and must part ways amicably.
Considering you’ve had feelings for this girl for a long time don’t even consider continuing to be her shoulder to cry on. Even if you want to maintain some level of friendship with the clear understanding in your own mind and heart that there will never be anything more between the two of you.
ok there are two possibilities:
1) shes trying to find out if you still like her by telling you about all those guys (very low possibility)
2) she sees you as her guyfriend who she can ask about her problems with other guys. why not asking her girlfriends? because they never know about guys as much as you do. she told you she only likes you as a friend so you are friends now. if you still like her, tell her honestly, she’ll either reject you, then tell her that you cant just be friends, tell her you are sorry, but never just stop texting/talking to her, thats just rude. if she dosent reject you, well good for you. i guess that was kinda confusing. hope i could still help.
dude don’t deal with her shes a manipulative bitch that’s using you as a tampon and if she keeps treating you like that you will never score with her. I’ve dealt with that type you ignore them and they come wanting more of you treat her like your backup plan n dont be a tampon
This is correct………….all of this is happening with me for 3 years………but I cant get over that……..please help….She always acts friendly
Again. Dont give up. But dont be too annoying about it. Keep the balance there. Ask her if you can talk to her and ask her straight up how she feels. And if she spreads anything about it.Dont be arrogant when people ask you what you said. Basically you have to think of a nice way to say P**s off! Personally i dont like arrogant guys. So keep it cool and polite
she does NOT make eye contact with you!
Those points you mentioned above are correct exactly. But can you advise me how to approach such girls? Thanksa lot!
yeah in this article my crush do this things to me. But i will never lose hope.
Well don’t try too hard though. She’ll actually get quite annoyed if you try too hard.
JohnSaysDropIt says:
November 16, 2011 at 6:06 am
Typical women response.!!
Hang around and keep trying, but don’t be annoying or pestering.
^THIS^^ ..da hell should i care if she is annoyed or not.. BISH, needs to decide. facepalm for taking months to do minute job. in the end, SHE WANTS YOU TO HANG AROUND. HOPE IS THE ENEMY. MOVE THE HELLL ON. MOVE THE HELL ON FOR THE SAKE OF CUTE BUNNIES.
lmao bunnies. They should try their best but when they think that they’ve reached their limit, they should stop….But yeah, i agree with you in a way xDD
a lot sounds very true. 7ut this girl im trying to talk to is different. she is divorced and has a kid but that’s not that problem. her sister fucked her husband so now she has a lot of trust issues. she says she not ready for anything rite now which is fine by me and says lets just see what happens and im fine with that but in the mean time she talks about other guys but at the same time still I can feel there is somethong between us what should I do?
Dude, she’s playing you.
fuck her sister
thats not 99
You don’t want to seem too pushy. Don’t always make the first move.
Yes this is definitely true about not making the first move all the time. Give them time to miss you a little bit and worry that you might not be thinking about them.
How long should we wait then?
show some confendeins
do note, that while alot of these points are correct, its equally nothing to worry about if you are in a relationnship. It is incredibly important to realise everyone is different. Some people take ages to reply because phones are off etc. And the thing about gifts is hugely dependent. My girlfriend of 4 years always tells me not to buy her presents and such, and Im pretty sure she is interested.
However, on that, indifference and making excuses all the time is a pretty surefire way to tell your trying the wrong approach. thats life!
NO! not all of this is true. as you said early on that Everyone has different characteristics. and so What you might think a girl does if she does not like you does not go towards every single girl. mainly with communication. Me I am a girl and when you ask me how my day was I will tell you. if you keep asking more questions about it I will keep telling you. there are A LOT OF GUYS who keep asking “why did this or that happen?” and ” who did this?” or even “so what did you do about it?” and then when you finish telling them they think you are putting emotional baggage on them. so guys if a girl is telling you about her day and you dont want her emotional baggage. do not keep asking her on and on until she has told you her life story! however if she does tell you her life story with out you continuously asking, it may mean that she is starting to trust you before you even being to go out. that also sort of goes for her talking about other guys. (if she is telling you about them and how they were so good to them and the girl keeps smiling, she isnt interested) Also.. i promise this will be my last thing… if she doesn’t start a conversation with you or if she seems not to be open in conversation she could either be busy or wanting you to talk first ( I should know, I’m a girl I have done this a couple times)
i realy luv dis girl its been four years now..we r very gud friends though..We exchange sms daily..i told her abt wat i feel for her n ive been asking her da same thing frm last few years but stil she says she takes me as a friend..but at times she puts things in a such way tat makes me feel even she lyks its been 2 weaks now wen i proposed her for da last tym she replied da same way..she cares a lot abt me n so do i..its getting really hard 4 me i dont understand wat to do should i give her sum more tym or should i move on(wch is a bit difficult):)….plz help me out
erm what i mean was when i ask a girl out for a date she reply me as who’s going?any advise on this?
Why not ask her who she wants to bring along for a start?
just me and you ! what do u think ! if she wants friends then it means she doesnt like you she is insisting u bringing friends so she can approach them trust me very selfish and discusting
what should i do to let her like me??
No, Jerry, it’s not disgusting. I am a girl myself and if it was the first date, I’d say that both the guy and the girl would bring a friend along. It’s better than jumping straight into a relationship and both of you being so nervous that neither of you speaks.
Dont give up. Girls hate guys who give up (or at least i do anyway). But at the same time.. persistance CAN get annoying. Dont pester her about it. Just keep it hanging over so she knows
Typical women response.!!
Hang around and keep trying, but don’t be annoying or pestering.
dont wanna break your heart but she must have previously engaged with a guy whom she loved, now he must not be with her and might be she must be still waiting for him. That is the reason she suggest u to be as a friend till the time that guy comes and handover her to you. This is the mentally of 80% girls though you will need to wait till the time. I know love to comes to those who leave it, try that thing.
man itz d same wid me…………….loz
same here bro bt the only difference is the guy whom she loved was one of ma fren n now they are no more together..
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If you talk to her like how you write here that’s a big part of your problem. No offense.