By
Felix Ker on April 18, 2007
This is not a very tough question. It can be a tough question too, depending on the girl. Everyone has a different character, thus it’s impossible to know if the girl is interested in you by just following the points below.
If she’s not interested in you…
- She NEVER initiates contact with you, be it on MSN or sms.
- She is uncomfortable with light touching for eg. playful punching or nudging.
- She cancels dates with you without proposing a make-up date.
- She does not even agree to go out with you and does not suggest alternative timings.
- She pours out all her emotional baggage to you. (When not together yet.)
- She takes a long time to reply your sms or may not even reply.
- She playfully call you her brother.
- She talks about other guys to you.
- She is indifferent towards you.
- No matter how hard u try to impress her, she just ignore u.
- She never want to look at your eyes, or stay any minute with u and would find uncomfortable with u around.
- She will not engage in open communication with you
- She makes up stories for not wanting to meet you
- She keeps things about herself from you.
- She is self absorbed and preoccupied with her own life which does not include you.
- She rarely initiates a call or sms to you.
- When you ask her out for a date, she’ll ask, “who’s going?”
- You buy expensive gifts for the girl, she thanks you very politely and tells you not to spend so much money on her or that there is no need to even buy her a birthday gift.
- If you invite her to concert or expensive dinners, she tells you that she is not free almost immediately.
That’s almost all, but this doesn’t apply to all girls. You must know that some girls are generally too shy to express their love for you.
Guys, although it’s the 21st century, I feel it’s only right for the guy to take initiative.
Whats your opinion?
so like…i just met this girl the other day and ive seen her around school and stuff. i think shes gorgeous and would like to really know her. only problem is, i initiate everything, and our conversations dont last too long (txt) im not the type of guy to just call a girl because thats just not me. the other day i was with a group of my boys and she approached me for a hug or w.e. after i walked down the hallway a little, i noticed she was lookig at me, even when she was with her friends. any advice as to what i should do? as to whats going on in her head maybe?
i think she’d kinda started liking u…give her some more time maybe a few weeks or a month and see if anything else hpns if yes den goon n make d first move…:)!
There is one girl I really like and her name is linda. about two weeks ago we were always talking, smsing meeting, and kissing. but for no reason her xboyfriend is always talking to her and the same day I found out she stops flirting and acts like I’m just some boy somewhere. wow I feel so bad now because I’ve liked her since july 2009 and finally when something happends it gets all fucked up and now I am so pissed off, can somebody tell me what I can do to fix this?
Hi. I’m a girl. to fix your love “triangle” you should (A.) Ignore or it make her jealous.
(B.) Win her back girls love direct eye contact when talking and think it is romantic when they have private conversations
(C.) Girls are agressive act like a girl. By that i mean “get rid” of this exboyfriend. And by that I mean be mean to him when she isn’t around point out his flaws say how horrible she is etc etc
re to: ben says:May 12, 2010 at 8:44 am
There is one girl I really like and her name is linda. about two weeks ago we were always talking, smsing meeting, and kissing. but for no reason her xboyfriend is always talking to her and the same day I found out she stops flirting and acts like I’m just some boy somewhere. wow I feel so bad now because I’ve liked her since july 2009 and finally when something happends it gets all fucked up and now I am so pissed off, can somebody tell me what I can do to fix this?
thanks
she is trying not to feel guilty as she still may have some feelings for him but you need to win her over by being the better man (dude),talk to her instead of smsing let her get to know the real you and try to get a hug once and a while later it will be like second nature just keep talking and win her because you deserve her i dont know you but that quote usually helps
um hi I AM A GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! like NONE of this is true it is all a LIE!!!!!!!!!!! please note if she isnt go go out with you alone she is nervous. or if she tells u not giv her a b-day present that means she loves your gift and feels bad she didnt get you anything. or if u text her and she never text back she isnt in the mood to text ANYBODY! or her phone is off and or dead.
Okay so me and this girl started talking about a week ago and finally one day I was brave enough to give her my number. We were getting to know each other alot by texting and this and that because she was shy to talk on the phone so I was fine with it. I’m not sure if she’s really interested because she often takes A LONG time to reply on Internet and texting too which means I can never know what shes thinking about which sucks because I’m usually the one who always starts the coversations too so she never texts me first. Yesterday she walked to my school with her friend and we were talking to each other alone for about 10 minutes because she had to go early. I noticed she didn’t make much eye contact and kept playing with her phone alot. She smiled a few times and eventually gave me a hug when she had to go. what do you think? was she just really shy or pretended to be interested for a little bit? O_o
One major thing is girls are very idecisive. We can go from liking a guy to not caring about him in a few days. Something that happens alot of the time with my friends is they start flirting with a boy via texting and not realize how serious the boy is taking it. Sometimes we flirt over text for a confidence boost. yes its harsh, but its human nature. The last part of your description tells me she doesnt like you. Im sorry but playing with the phone is a girls number one excuse for avoiding a guy.
Gooduck in the future!
So recently I had a crazy, passionate night with a friend’s friend, who I’ve met before but never really connected until that night.
We went on a very casual date the following week, which seemed to go well. She said she had fun and told me to call her again. the next night I met her and some of her friends for drinks, this went ok, but I was pretty bored.
After that, she made a point to tell me that she was weirded-out about seeing me because I used to date her friend, and she used to date another friend of mine. Things got really cold and she began ignoring me. So I left it at that and forgot about her.
A month later I ran into her at a bar, ignored her, and she made a point to approach me and say hi. I kind of blew her off, then approached her later when I noticed another one of my friends with her who I had not seen in years. I caught up with this guy, while she sat there awkwardly. When I left she texted me to tell me that she “is not hooking up with [him]“.
Since then we’ve been texting back and forth. She responds to every text I send, with enthusiasm, and apologizes if she can’t make it to an event I invite her to (sometimes I invite her knowing that she is working). She’s basically everything I look for in a girl, otherwise I wouldn’t care, but despite the fact that she makes a point to keep up contact with me, I can’t get her to meet up with me again… Even last night at 2am, I booty-texted her, and she responded immediately but said she was exhausted from work (she works a double on friday nights) and was going to sleep.
Any thoughts on how she feels about me and anything I could do to win her favor? If she didn’t like me she wouldn’t answer my texts. If she wanted to be friends, there would be no reason not to join me when I invite her and her friends to come hang out. Any ideas?
Hey, I actually had the same encounter with my current girlfriend. She used to date a good friend of mine and I used to be with her good friend. We got to terms that we should forget the past and move on. And we got together.
I think this girl is interested in you. Why don’t you just go ahead with courting her? Buy her a box of chocolates, and she’ll appreciate it. Bring her for a movie when she’s not working, that should destress her alittle.
Give it a go bro, let me know if you’re okay. I’ve subscribed to the comments!
hey therz this girl im hed over heals for, i got her number from a mate of her sisters. i decided to text her ask her bout uni and stuff. it was all good. i kept txn her initaiting conversation, she only really answered wht she had 2. She knows who i am, but hvnt really talked 2 much in person. I said if she wanted to hang out she said nah yr a nice guy but i aint keen, so i left it. a few months later i tried again, she told me to delete her number etc, so did. 4 days later she starts txtn me, pretty much sayin shes into me but thinks im untrustworthy & tht im a player!. 2 me she is leading me on and giving alot of mixed signals. I kept textn her heaps until i got a reply, she told me leave her alone etc. so i have, recently 1 of her family members approached me an told me 2 stop txtn her an to leave her alone…i said ok sweet.but wait a minute shes the 1 sending me mixed signals, how am i suppose 2 react? i didnt really wana bring this up, cause to be honest i cant b %$#@ anymore, however i still kinda like her a bit! wht do i do?
dude ……u r a Man …..go get some other gal ……she is totally confused ……leave her alone …..to make a girl as ur girlfrnd …..give her space ….space means …..Do not disturb …….i m sure after few week she will text u back …..n then take her to Date …..
Will i Agree on your point bro…But a girl who is alwayz confused can be so playful and wen dont need those type of gal around as….hehe…. so if shes confused of somethen let it be….. theres a lot if gl around the world…
i dont think dis girl is into u…she’s jst playin wid ur feeling dear..
I’m a girl n i dont think if i really liked a boy i wud do anything like dis to him…
Dont know if this is view by anyone but here goes. This is my story. So i went on a speed datting thing which was good fun. So my details were left for potential girls that had chatted and liked me. Later we went to a night club and i didnt bother to much with anyone just hung out with my mates. Later that night before the nightclub closed at 2:30 i got text fgrom one of the girls saying did i venture out. I txt back saying that was really quick. So i got another txt back saying that her mate had seen her saving my details and txt me. So anyways we chatted for a few days by txt and then i asked her out for coffee at dinner time. So it lasted 45 mins because she had to go back to work. I taught it went really well she was looking me in the eyes alot and laughing a good few times. She had to rush cause she was late so i said go ill sort the coffee. Anyways half anhour later she txt back saying thanks for the coffee and she was sorry she had to run back for work. So i taught she must be interested so txt bback and said how about a walk in the park after work and she txt back she was working late and she then was going to her mates house. Said she would have to give it a miss with no alternative. So i didnt reply and stayed quiet untill the next eving and txt saying hope you had a good day how goes the 5 mile training. No reply and now im stuck wondering does she like me or not. She comes across as being a very confident person. Any help in this matter would be much appreciated. We are both 31 and single
Perhaps when you didn’t send a reply, she has got an impression that you’re disappointed. You should’ve replied something like “Oh, sure, maybe next time.” and that should end the conversation or she might even suggest an alternative.
I’ll always give her the benefit of doubt that she could be occupied with her work or just purely busy. Have you tried texting her again?
So there’s this girl that I know for a long time. Maybe high school till now almost 5 yrs. We didn’t talk for like 3 yrs tho becuz she left school. Anyway just a few months ago she began working at this hang out spot I go to a lot. I was in shock to see her. Any how I began talking to her, I would invite her outvin the beginning and shed always say well see an never show up. She gave me her number and told me to text/call wen I did she rarely answers, her answers are always vague via phone. Anywho one night she came out without me knowing to this club I go to with her friend, I bump into her we talk she invites me to sit next to her to tall. I offer to drive her home, she accepts says bye to her friends and we go. In the car we talk, I ask her wats new she goes “I’m single and ready to mingle,” I heard that ten times from her. Then she goes wat about u, I go I’m single to, she smiles. Anywho before we get to the house I tell her to text me tomorrow if she’s not busy we also make plans for one of the upcoming days- she never texts the plans fall through. Now she is flirty and all but idk wat she thinks of me she rarely answers but I’m getting so many mixed messages. Could it be it’s like that becuz of the rough breakout she just got out of? Or should I just drop her?
Hi there guys
I hope you can help me,
Met this girl at work, got to get her on facebook. I asked her out on a date but she said no and asked her if she was interested, and she said for now… no
But she seems interested to me! not sure if she is playing hard to get ! thanks
I could use some expert advice for this girl I met a while back, we talked a lot then and I thought eventually we would go out. However, I fucked up and became impatient over something stupid. 4 months later to this very day I talk to her, she has a couple guys she has been interested in for a while( I basically don’t trust her when I should) and one night she told me on the phone that I was talking to her like a friend and not like more then a friend. I was kinda speechless because I felt I was doing that. She is always on and off for me, Idk why…she saids she is busy sometimes and she really is, but for some reason I just never believe her…no matter what. I like her and she has told me that she likes me too and if she didn’t she would tell me, but she doesn’t really trust me. (ex-girlfriend is her best friend..yea not good. lol) And my ex always feeds her bullshit that I’m still in love with her when I’m not. I have cut a lot of my connections with other girls for this girl, because she is like the one girl I can never figure out completely and she always has me coming back. I’m not needy or anything..I could get a girlfriend easily with just a phone call and a date. Haha, anyways she is a great girl even though she is a virgin(which is probably a good reason I like her, she hasn’t been conquered yet) and I’m not its kinda hard you know to not want to make sexual advances toward her, I kinda avoid it, because I don’t want her to feel like I just want her for that reason. I like her for her and I love the challenge, but I just want her to pursue me once in a while. Does anyone know how I can truly do that? I know the whole non communication and she will eventually miss me, but i don’t know if it would work with her…
I have a question,I live in Baton Rouge,and we traveled to Houston,to go see some people we grew up with,theres this girl i saw in church,who i use to like when we were like really young,we liked each other,So i was sitting down in church,and i saw her looking at me from the corner of my eye,so she came sat right next to me,later on that night,according to body language,she crossed her legs,so i can see her thigh,and when she got up to clap,she would get up and almost like pose,like a cheerleader with one leg in front of the other,and i was sitting on the right of her,so she had her left leg out,but i talked to her,and she act like she was too good for me.Was she teasing me,cause i asked her something,and she just shaked her head,and didnt look at me.But after Church i gave her my number,and i told her to call or text me sometime,it was a buisness card,i told her dont worry about all the other buisness stuff,and she started giggling.But im back home in Baton Rouge,and its been almost a week with no call,is she really interested,because i havent got not one call or text from her,what should i do?i have facebok,and i saw her,but i dont wanna be a stalker,her father is also very strict,so i dont wanna take it the fact that shes not interested,does she like me though
This girl txt me all the time and plays around at school, tickles me, plays with my hair, the occasional hug, went to the fair, but don’t know if she likes me and need an indirect way of asking her. Any tips?
Yeah,that means she likes you a lot,just go up to her,and use body language,start biting your lip at her and other stuff,start playing with her back,most girls,want a guy to make the first action,she is doing all of that to try to get you to get with her,so go up to her,and just ask her and be honest,have you ever had feelings for me,cause i like you,just be honest my man,if you feel a lil nervous bout going up to her,just use body language,stare in her eyes with a sexy look when she look at you,or another way is you can throw hints,say like,”dang girl,youre too gourgeous to be without a boyfriend,i know you gotta have one”,use these things,and it should help
Thanks man. That gave me a pretty good idea of what i might do on Monday. Thanks again Ryan.
no problem bro,but some girls can play the role,and act like they dont like you,so be ready for that just in case,so just play it cool,if she does it,thats called challenging you to see what youre gonna do
everyone listen carefully believe me if anyone is truly interested they will show it any one plays these mind game you can forget about it ~ the shyness goes away after 2 3 days ~ if one is interested right away next day believe me they will go . if they are really busy its ok as long that she says i cant today want to go tommorrow or the day after then shes interested if she stays silent she not then . gonna make excuse after excuse many girls take down guys numbers just to show off to there friends how many guys call them but they dont really like the guy for glorafication ~ and guys never complement girls at all till your with them 6 months later . if they recieve complements they become thinking like a spoiled queen . well anyway if a girl says ohhh i dont know how to tell the guy ohh yeah sure famous line they say . advice to women
say simply i dont like your physical appearance or say go find another person who will like your appearence i dont or if you have a bf say it then
~~ give it 2 weeks if she doesnt go out at all dont call her see if she calls you on her own ….. youll see how truly interested she really is then men seek women whom will showmore intrest
I have a question,if anybody could explain please.My girlfriend tells me she sees me in her dreams all the time and its only good dreams.What could that mean?
ok let me say my side, ive known this girl for over 3 years back from college.. first time i saw her i felt an attraction ive never had before.. i made my intentions clear from the start, that i liked her, i asked her out a few times and she would make up excuses not to go out etc and my friends would tell her that i liked her before i could say it face to face. so i walked up to her and asked if were cool and she said yh were friends etc.. and thats how things remained for the next few yrs years.. friends. in the last year we went different ways in our lives but kept talking on facebook.. i asked if we should do something once, and she agreed, we meet up and had a fun time, she gives a hug, we holded hands kinda, and end of the night, i get a hug. ok, so we kept on talking, txting eachother and talking online for hours into the nighttime. we meet another 2 times, each one were acting like friends but both to scared to say how i/we feel, its obvious. and end with hugs.. i say basically how i feel, but to go full out and say im not sure, dont wanna ruin what we have now. we talk about everything, i dont see myself as a guy friend to her cos of the things we talk about on a personal level or the times we do spk, i txt her alot and get a reply 70% of the time. but i dont no what to do!!
just tell her straight out like this i wanna know ~~~~~~ her name < do you like me as on a friend level or do you like me as to be my girlfriend level . ask her simply that if she says girlfriend level fine
. if she says the other . tell her in these exact words n loud ! why am i wasteing my time over here ! and say the heck with of all of this ! get up and walk away harshly . dont call her see if she shows up at your door if not then she really doesnt like you if she calls n calls tell her hey im looking for something different here dont call me anymore ! hang up hard
Theres no way I could just walk away from her like that, cos we barley see each other now, its sad really. but i do think its time i tell her how i feel next time i see her in person. but if she says no, then i cant walk off, we would have to continue with the date/day but how would i play it cool? and pretend it didnt happen.. (even though deep down my heart would be broken).
louies123 see mistake here is your wrong you shouldnt engage in any conversations with any guys at all except your boyfriend ~ if guys approach u you should say i have a BF bye ~ dont engage any conversation ~ dont pass phone numbers to remain friends ~ you create the problems then when the second you get aquanted and i know u did cause why they heck are they showing up at your door they know where u live and how did they know ~ you invited them dont give me that bs you engaged in coversations you shouldnt at all ~ cause these are things that can happen when girls accept a little then they dont stop then they can get violent and rape n etc . you should not even egage in any conversation whats the matter with you ! ! ! dont be stupid you know what i mean
bro that is really bad like the rejections advice the questions nice but that other way is just retarded if she doesnt like you fine friends is fine and she may end up liking you so yeh
i met this girl and we ended up dating and everything was good we had real good vibes off of eatchother and i began to fall for her i met her family and everyone is cool and out of noware one night she sayus she wants to be friends idk why and it dosent make sence im tryen to get back with her and she dosent want to she says lets just be frinds ive been hurt by 2 many bitches and i don’t wanna go down this road again is there a way i can get back with her we dated for 2 weeks what is it the 2 week rule or what?
my friend she doesnt want to have you as a boyfriend i know you like her but hey if she doesnt like you then the heck with her try another some girls play games some girls test serious for a short time but you probely haft to stay away from these girls that hang out in the streets schools n crowds of friends . just keep trying until one agrees that is all some times it could be for various reason some times we approach stupidly foolishly ~ sometimes they may have a bf sometimes they maybe want our money and look to see our status is not anything else ~ it could also be as if they are single and they still reject u then it means they dont like our physical appearence ~ but they wont tell us so theyll just say they want to remain friends . to be kind its many reasons but ushally thoes are the top 4 but the point here is just keep trying till u find > its wrong and discusting i know they judge like this . ahh but what can you do .
no.did something happen before this?its very possible she met someone else and that is here way of saying this.i would start lookin else where dnt let her play with your feelings.
Well. In my situation, things are a bit different. There is this extremely cute and sweet Japanese girl that I like, and I often get good vibes from her. She never really initiates conversations with me, but I do and we have a lot of fun talking. You need other bad signs in order to connect her never really starting conversations and her not liking you. I know from personal experience that I like it a lot when other people start conversations with me, and if they always started conversations with me in the first place, I always expect them to start conversations every other time. It’s just how it works.
Anyway. This girl often gives me good signs. She always listens carefully to what I say and she always has a big smile on while talking to me. When me, her, and my friends are hanging out, we often end up walking with each other and talking amongst ourselves. Whenever I offer to do something with her, eg. give her a private guitar lesson, or go see a movie, she always says yes right away with a big smile on her face. I lent her my guitar and she always insists that I touch her hands so I can see how hard her finger tips are getting, and when she touches my hand to feel mine, she holds my hand for a while. She compliments me. She doesn’t particularly mind me sitting close to her. She says she likes talking to me. When I bring up this girl in conversation with her friends, they giggle. Whenever she knows that she will see me she wears the shirt that I complimented her on. She always seems so happy after I walk with her, with a smile stuck on her face as she walks away. She laughs at even the lamest things I say. I bought her a cute bunny stuffie for her birthday and she gave me a hand-made thank you card with “Love, *The girl’s name*” at the end.
You may be thinking to yourself “This girl totally likes this guy!” but I’m still not sure. She doesn’t talk to me everyday, she is the sweetest girl I have ever met and she is nice to everyone, she is never on MSN but she still puts little updates to her Facebook page, and I don’t know. I’m just fishing for things that might mean that she doesn’t like me. The “Sweetest girl I have ever met” thing worries me a bit because what if she acts the same around everyone? But I don’t even think I have to worry too much about that. There are things in that list that she only does for me.
She is 18 and has never had a boyfriend before. What do you think?
listen carefully take her along make sure her friends are not with her and simply say _______ < her name do you want to be my girlfriend if she says yes fine if she says i dont know just get up and say think about it call me tommorrow let me know the answer . if she still says i dont know let 2 weeks pass if same crap continues they the answer is no . if she says No right there say ok i got to go farewell and get up and just dont talk to her anymore ever . if she calls u tell here ohh stop wasting my time here im looking for something else over here . BYEEE !
i think she has 100% interest and is not send mixed signals or playing games at all.it sounds like need to advance the realtionship to the next level if thats what you want.take her out on a formal date dinner and ask her to be your gf.i dont think seh will say no.you also want to try to kiss her first if you havent already.just make sure everything is a one on one.not a group or with the friends so she knows where u stand.
I am in a situation like this right now. This guy will NOT LET GO.
I am WITH ANOTHER GUY and told him so. He sent me 3 dozen roses – a very expensive car cover for my Mustang ( after I told him NO BIRTHDAY PRESENTS), invited me to dinner ( KNOWING I have a boyfriend)… and now yesterday…he sends me a Dell Laptop Computer!! He has even driven l00 miles round trip ( from his house) to drop off a homemade POT ROAST DINNER on my porch ( not knowing if I was home) and baked me a cake. I TOLD HIM we could be friends…. THAT IS IT. But he does not respect my boundaries or listen to anything I have to say. Am I playing him? NO I AM NOT. He will NOT LISTEN……. If the guy is too thick headed to understand plain English, why does that make me a player? Now I have to send back a laptop ( he’s sending a 2nd one since the lst wasn’t the PURPLE he ordered), the tupperware container for the cake – the ceramic casserole dish the pot roast came in – AND the velcro bag. Now this is costing ME money and MORE aggravation. I hate to be mean but what do you do if they DO NOT TAKE THE HINT? I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!!!!!!! Some of these guys must have a screw loose. I am accepting NOTHING. NO, I am NOT interested!!!!!!!!
Just wondering, how old’s the guy?
I guess you just gotta accept the gifts, let him give until he gets sick of it.
If not, reject every gift and not sign for it. After a few, he should get it.
cut off all ties your are not playing games but he cant handle the friendship role.he is looking for something else and hoping he will blind u with so many gifts that u will break up with ur bf and be his.he sounds kinda nuts but some people are like this.cut him off!i dnt know how u met or all this started because it dosent seem safe that he knows where u live.try not to get ur bf invloved.you could also say that ur getting married and you no longer can accept gifts from him and ur fiance dosent want you talking to him anymore.let him know your serious!
okay umm i will try thanks for the advise
erm this is what is sms her i said do i have the chance to stead with you? she replied hah no bah cause not my type does she really mean what she said???
what can i do to make a girl happy when she is sad
Uhhhhhhhhhhhh…. i quit with my ex for about a year and stay lonely there think i will not go in for a girl anymore, i one day travel to my hometown and met a girl who pampered me like a baby i may say. What she was to me make be soo interested in that i have forgot the promised in made for not to fall in love…. Now that i think this girl can handle me well, i told my elder brother what going between the two of us. So i told my elder brother to tell i love her, there she smile and lough when she hared that sentence. and that was not the end time she did that to my sister. now that i personal went to proposed to her, she smile big and agree to love me as a Boy-friend… the same she accepted me i make to her and after days she start to hate me and denied me anywhere telling me i have hurt her, but she didn’t tell me what exactly i did… from there she ignore everything i do. And i still love her and can stop thing about her.. so Guys Please show me what to do to get her back. thanks
What have you done exactly to hurt her?
what about smsing?? she mostly replied a word or two
she mostly replied a word or two, what does this means??
okay….. i have been dating this girl for 2 months and we havent kissed yet. i need 2 know how 2 make a girl kiss you. all we have been doing is hug. plz let me know thnx bi
Jose R
look in her eyes for about 3-4 seconds and smile, while also looking down on her lips, and then kiss her :/ would help if ur holdin hands at the time as well.
This girl I liked for 4 years and she had split up with her boyfriend over a month ago.
I had lost contact with her for a while just due to being busy with college but I started talking to her again for the past 3 weeks. Everytime I see her for the 1st time in ages she would go on how we haven’t seen each other and ask what the reason was for it. She worked in a coffee shop and everytime I visited her she would make sure that she would talk to me and soemtimes she would sit down beside me.
I thought I had a chance with her as she kept saying how I should go to her flat and visit her or do something together but when I say I can come at a certain time or ask her out she comes up with some reason like “oh i’m working” (she has 2 jobs) ” I got other plans but ask later”
I found out that she has being seeing this guy during the times she has been “working”. Feel like an idiot I thought I had a chance but she was giving me mixed signals man it sucks. I deleted my Facebook so that I don’t hurt anymore should prob get out there and find another girl just thought she was the girl for me.
Sorry for the long post.
man you shouldnt have deleted fb that is like the breeding place for relationships well no it isnt but just tell her how you feel not the i love you part the you played me part and shee will feel sorry or she wont oh well we moveon and its all very simple
help me how to tackle with a girl she called me brother before she loved me lot
listen everyone guys n girls ~ for guys i say dont continue to approach girls whom dont care !! whom play mind games over here the ones that lay mind games like to collect phone numbers just to showoff to there friends how much men call them for glorafication ~ you start to make yourself think to much ! show interest in women whom do care !
girls i say this you dont engage in any conversation or except anything from any guy you dont like nor tease ~ cause if you do they will harrass u alot of girls tease then when they get raped etc then they wonder why it happens ooops ohh i only accepted a jewelry ohh i only game him my phone number oh i only went to sleep with him once .ohh i have a bf ! he dont understand me after i gave him my number !!! he doesnt take a hint !! < AFTER I GAVE HIM my number ~ no excuse for any girls GUILTY !!! right there
one good advise…. if they dont like you or not interested on you…waste them muthafvckers!
Hi everyone,
I’m a 16 year old boy living in california, and there’s this girl, juliette, that i’ve liked for about a month now. The week after i met her, i asked her if she wanted to workout with me, and she said yea and was really glad. however, it wasn’t a date, more of a get to know each other type of thing. After, i bought her ice cream and stuff, and it went well. however, a week after that, i asked her out to a movie, and she said yes, but that afternoon before the date, she said her guinea pig (which she has nvr mentioned before) got sick, so she couldnt go. i askd her if she wanted to reschudule, and she said yes, for friday, a week from then. however, i tried to contact her the day before the date, and she wouldnt respond to anything (facebook, txts, calls), and today is the day of the date. i called her and all, but she isnt responding. is she just not into me? please help!!!! thanks!
Time to move on. I know you want to keep on calling and txting, but she wont pick up or txt back. Just dont call her, at all now. see if she comesback to you, give it 2 weeks. Which could be the longest 2 weeks of ur life. If she hasn’t called or txt by then, move on. Try not to catch her on msn/facebook. wait for the call or txt. ive heard alot of excuses, but her stupid pig rat being sick, is the lamest excuse ive ever heard in my life.
if and when u do see her, be up front with her right away, and try and hold her hand etc.. otherwise after this one date, ul be in the friend zone. dont do nothing all night then expect a kiss like the movies in the end. flirt with her, hold her hands. rest her head against urs etc.. this is my advice anyway. good luck kid.
to heroo;
she texted me 4 days later, and her fone broke, n i wasnt notified by her, and she sent me a long apologetic message, so its all good now. thanks for the advice though
ive been there, girls saying they left there phone somewhere etc.. i stoppd beliving them. i just had my heart torn out recently and its hard to deal with. i told her i love her, we had a moment, then says she made a mistake etc.. dont fall for there games, or their apoloigies. u will only be hurt in the end. just go on a date with her, make your intensions clear.. and see what she says/does. the sooner the better, u leave it any longer u will only fall depper for her, and u will be left picking up the pieces of ur broken heart. :’(
Hey my friends…i have question that i want ask u if any one know the solution please help me out i met one of my friend on line we never know each other we just met on line i am chart with her for the past 4 month…in few days i develop feelings for her, honestly i was afraid to tell her that i like her but later i decided to tell her so right now i told her already, before we used to talk on line making calls but she is not longer picking up my calls she don’t reply my messages please how can i solve this problem and i really love her so much.
she is playing games find someone who likes you for you!Also the only thing i would do if u dint already is send one final mess.tell her u really had interest in her and that you are upsaet she responded in that way.but you are now dating someone that you care for more and wish her the best of luck.see if she responds to that.
i would like to reply to many people on this page.this is one of the most interesting things ive ever read.it shows how important communication is and that how much girls play games with guys.however,guys always seem to clearly show interest in a girl they like.my advice as ive been with many girls.is not to give to much attn to them so they know u have other options.also ask out right even through text do u have interest in something past friendship.this will save you some time and money!however,some girls will say yes but still send mixed signals.i believe actions do speack louder then words!so if a girl likes you.you should be able to tell a little in person.many girls play games even with people they like because they want to see if you will put in effort.i think this is wrong as if a guy shows interest you a girl should not play games but should have and understanding with him that she wont take his b.s.i get annoyed by mixed siganls id rather have a girl talk straight.the more attractive the girl the more attn she gets.this goes the same with guys however,its still different as a beautiful girls will rarley approach a guy because that girl already gets enough attn without doin anything.it is the same for an equal guy.however, a good lookingguy may still have to go a lil out of his way for a very attractive girl.NEVER force a realtionship for the wrong reasons!meaning,dont buy a girl a buch of or spend money when u dont know if she has interest for the right reasons prior!All this will do is most cases i result in relationshsip for the wrong reasons.when a girl really like you u shouldnt have to spend much money on her.she would be happy with just your company.the person not the wallet.relationships based on anything but a true connection will problay fail and end up with someone getting hurt very bad!As far as meeting women or men it can depend on your age.the older its harder.many women at an older age tend to stay to themselves so they may not be in bar setting the computer or maybe grocery store bockstore maybe the mall something like that may be a better fit.the hardest part is the approach.with the younger crowd i would say school would be great option or college as you will problay run into people with common interests.however,during that time peoples focus may not be on meeting others as much as it is learning.so for the under 35 i would say bar or night club isnt bad either.just because a person is there dosent mean there bad as everyone problay has gone out one time or another for fun or entertainment.dosent mean there there every week.some people are.some people arent looking for something serious and enjoy being single such as my self.that dosent mean the person dosent like but may just want to have fun.everyone IS different.
theres a girl i work with. I really liked her since the first couple weeks i knew her. She always laughs and smiles alot talks to me about all kinds of stuff never really about other guys but usually just about herself and asks me about myself alot. She started to tell her friends that she thinks i like her, and there my friends to so they tell me. Then one day i asked her if she wanted to let me buy her lunch after work. She said yes and i asked where she wanted to go she picked, we left work and went and ate and talked for about 2 hours she seemed like she had a good time she was smiling most of the time looked right at me almost almost the entire time we were there. Then we left and on the way back i told her i had a really good time and said we should do something again together sometime and then i got real nervous and asked her for her phone number so i could call her sometime and she seemed like she thought about it for a minute and then told me she was switching phone companies. so now im not sure if she likes me and i just mde her nervous when i asked because i got nervous or if she just doesnt want me 2 have it.
Cj, why not try asking again soon? It could be that she’s really switching. But she could have given you, then update you with the new number when she switch. Hm.
Theres this girl i like. We work together she seems interseted in what i say and smiles alot around me. She tells her friends she told some of her friends she thinks i like her when they talking. There my friends to so they tell me and tell me i should try and get her number when i told them i like her. so a few days later i ask her if she wants to have lunch with me after work. so we go have lunch. i make sure i apy for us both we eat and talk for about2 hours she smiles almost the whole time were there she tells me about her family and things she likes to do and asks me alot about me and seemed like she had a good time. I tell here on the way back that i had a really good time and would love for me and her to dosomething again sometime and then i got real nervous and said she should give me her phone number and i could call her sometime. then she didnt say anything for like 30 or 40 seconds and looked at her phone and said she might be switching phone companies. so now idk if i just made her nervous because i was nervous or if she just didnt wanna give it to me what do you think????
Hi, as above!
Seriously, try again!!! Don’t lose your opportunity.
i disagree with “She talks about other guys to you.”
this girl i met 2 weeks ago has been acting crazy this week she will text me and say hey babe whats up and we will both text 4 about 10 minutes and i will send a text then she doesnt reply and then i will call 4 hours later still no reply she says she likes me alot and thinks im cute so whats the problem?
ok i have liked this girl for more than 6 years now . We meet in high school at that time i was a little shy to talk to her and got a little nervous around her . i didnt talk to her then. she moved to another country to go to unvirsty.She had a boy friend for may be 3 years. At that time i went to visit her in the country she was in and she made an effort to see me. Now shes single and we do chat on the net but i always start the conversation. i really like her but m not sure if she does. When in high school she liked me too but i didnt know and was shy to apporach her. i know that i made a mistake but while chatiing she said to me that that i was never a friend , i didnt talk to her in school and got all shy around her. So i wanted to know if i stand a chance to go out her. this might sound stupid but i just wanted to know
shon, why not just ask if you can go out together? you might stand a chance if you try.
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I have this situation, i don’t know how to tackle.
I like this girl (yes, she ‘s shy, haven’t seen her mingle with boys) a lot and i am not getting whats in her mind.
It all started 2 months back .She was working where i used to work before.
We dated once , she even told me that she had a really nice time with me.
I tried to call her up another time ,but she had an excuse that her sis is coming and she’s not sure if she will be able to make it.
She replies to all my text messages and i have her only twice and she had returned all my calls ,the only reason she delays a bit maybe because her parents would be at home or something.
So one fine day ( one week after first date) i text her and asked if she would like to meet up sometime? And her answer was: “i so sorry, my sis is coming home after a delivery ,also i am having my exam and it is very difficult for me to find out time for next few weeks”
So , i sort of got an answer, still i was thinking it to be a genuine reason and it was like 2 and half months ,she didn’t initiate anything.
Yesterday, i sent her a text – “You know, it’s sometimes nice to say NO rather than asking some one to hang in there and make him look like a stupid”
She replied to me after 2 -3 hours- “I am sorry i couldn’t get back to you because of various reasons. I have no intentions of hurting you or any indifference .And why would i?”
Now i am wondering if i should still try to continue a conversation with her?I like her a lot but i don’t think she has the same feelings for me.
what her last answer indicates? Is she not at all interested or shy to initiate some thing.But, I can tell you guys i ‘ve given her a lot of sign that i like her..
Please help me out!
i cannot let this girl go
my friend your wasting your time if shes truly interested she would see you one to 3 days time she is indeed not interested you know what dont call her llllllleeeeeeeeeetsss ! see when you dont call her see if she calls you if she calls you dont even ask her to come out ~ ~ see if she says it with out you reminding her on her own . if its complete silence then you can forget about it but the way it seems here she is making excuse after excuse after excuse !
There is still girl who i was talking to for a little while and we exchanged numbers. At first she called me every night and we would talk on the phone for like no less then 4 hours. I never had to go to her first to talk. Then all of a sudden she stops calling and when i confront her first, she has started to say “hey you’” when i say hi….. i mean im just so confused on how that works. She was even saying at the beginning how she could see us going somewhere but that was when i liked her but didnt really care if anything came from “us”. Almost seems like a couple of days after i really started to fall for her that she put up this barrier or shield around her and wont let me in….. I usually understand and know what to do with girls but she has me so confused i dunno what to do x.x does anyone have any advice for me? p.s sorry if anything i typing is hard to understand its 8:38am .-.
Ok so i have known this girl (27) for abt a year and ahalf. We met on an online game. She initiated first contact and after along while we really connected. We live in different countries but despite that we are always on msn with web cam functionality… and i mean almost days on end, night and day, chatting abt stuff etc… obviously we had the honeymoon period u know the drill… but things have always been good after that. Very good. We even arranged to meet eachother this year on june 30th but she being a dance teacher had to work one extra week that she did not plan for which she told me. 20th june when she had her 5 week brk anyways. So im confused how that would get in the way of our meeting together (june 30th). Now lately we still talk/msn alot.. alot lot. But i know she has friends cos sometimes she goes out etc.. even has them come over to her place and powers down her laptop but tells me she has to go for awhile which i say ofc nps. Sometimes lately she has just suddenly gone offline if im there, leave the room or my pc needs to restart.. she just vanishes with no say so. Nxt day we chat and everything is normal again 24/7 almost. I just feel uneasy now abt all this and idk why. I even asked her abt our meeting up with eachother, with an offline msg. She replies when she gets it “woah thats along msg” and thats it. No real reply. So we continue as normal. But there are times when i feel she could be making excuses but well idk and for what reason idk either.
man honestly f that online shit, start going out more to bars, clubs social gathering events if you want to meet chicks. I mean when a girl makes excuses its usually because they arent interested.
No that aint the problem. She doesnt have to make excuses.. its quite simple to get rid of someone online.. u delete or block them. Done.
Yes i know all abt the social dating scene, hanging out.. drunken nights etc.. been there done that. Seriously i think the conversation holds for abt 3 mins.
So back on point. And if anyone else cares to answer pls read it all very carefully and not just scan it quickly.
Hey, i REALLY need your help
I have liked this girl for quite a long while now. We began as friends but then came closer to each other, she was the first to give me her number so I called and messaged her on a regular basis. Shes open with me and talks about everything and is very nice. So, when i built up the courage i told her i liked her alot, and she means everything to me. She said shes very interested and would definitely like to meet up.
After we met up and saw each other, few days passed on and i would still normally call her and ask her how her day was etc. Although, she seemed quite busy and couldn’t talk, due to house work. After, she txt me and said she wants to talk; I knew it was about us. She then called and said that she really likes me as a friend and that she knows what she wants (friendship). But i didn’t give up, i told her you mean the world to me and that your very special and unique and that your everything and more i want in a girl. But she still wouldn’t give me a chance. Although she said i can still call her and everything….. I still like her ALOT, we talk occasionally but im trying to play it cool…Once everything is ok, I have plans on asking her out on a date but ONLY as friends.
What Exactly should i do now ? do i drop hints that i still like her ? or should i wait for her to realise i was worth it and then come back to me ? i don’t want her to think i gave up on her.
Be their as a friend and make sure you are just a friend. Its clear thats all she is looking for. Who knows in the future she may consider to actually see u and her as an item but for now she just wants the friendship. Just be there for her and see it how it goes. Has u put it.. play it cool.
I will add its better to move on from this and look for someone who does want a relationship with you.
Hey guys and girls
…it all started when she added me on Facebook , at first we where friends and i knew her from almost 1 year ago we started to go out and hang-out with each other 
and her best friends like me as a friend rlly much .. and her dad knows about me me liking her coz he has facebook and he sees my comments on Facebook 
after i told her i like her and i love her so text her and told her my feelings she soon replied to me and she told idk ..and she told me things would have changed if u asked me earlier and she has a boy that she likes and she told me dont give hope and she sent me diffrent songs back taylor swift and Oasis when i give her songs , but now she dosnt like anyone and everyday day we chat and speak and she always told me about her day 
me too i tell her about my day too 
and now i have benn asking her out the first time when we saw each other she gave me this rlly warm hug and she kissed me on cheeks we went out with our friends and i looked at ther smile and she smiled back to me 
at the same time i bought for her favorite chocolate and my favourite picture of her and made it at Kodak as a frame and when i went home she told me everytime when i see the picture she it reminds me of u ..at that time i was rlly happy 
but now i had asked her out with her friends and replies idk but then we where suppose to meet at one time but then things gone wrong her friend told her that she wants to meet her only but then she text me told me hey im srry but im with a friend now so maby next time we could meeet and she told me i rlly wanted u to come with me ….after 20 minutes she texts me back and told me hey come and we will meet at a place so i went and saw her 
i was rlly happy ..yesterday smthn rlly happend it was wired coz i asked her best friend out with her friend and then they should meet me but then i relized that she told her best-friend (she is a girl) to go out to a restaurant ..i was rlly mad coz she didn’t even tell me about it but is she like a bit jelous coz i asked her best friend and not her :/ ..i rlly like her alott and every time she talk about this guy the she met at camp and she knows that i like her and she tells me how he treated her and that guys likes her too..but then every time at the end of conversation she tell me i dont like 
and then she said r u jealous so i answered ( loll )
so tell me what should i do does she like me ??
this week is it a good idea
im thinking to ask her out like on a date
and i also figured out that she always care for other ppls like when we were walking she gave money to a poor boy…… it gave me lots of respect to her
You didn’t tell her you were jealous right? Don’t answer that. Ask her if she’s jealous. And if she wants to continue to toy with you like that, don’t stand up for it. Give her a hint that you are still into her and then walk away. Be confident enough to do that. Even when she’s showing you signs that she has finally given in.
Don’t ask her out of desperation. But if you two are alone, you can just try to give her a kiss when you feel it’s right and test the waters.
Just don’t show her that you’re knackered and heads over heels with her. Make her work for you as well
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and btw im 17 and she is 16
i hv a ques? i really used to like a girl in my colg,bt i never talked to her,jst smiled. Me inperson think that she liked me or wanted to talk to me.Now its probably 2 yrs & we r in same class,we never talked,bt i like her.
Do u think she likes me back.or what should i do to,so she likes me back?
Eddie.. its simple.. ask her out and go from there. All you can do is ask, no harm in that. If you dont get the answer you were hoping to hear then just move on and not be hung up on just this one girl. Your young, so just have fun.
Arsh just talk to her. Your not going to get anywhere if you dont open up a dialog with her. Being in the same class as eachother helps you in your favour.. breaking the ice should be easy.
i think i’m shy around her..and the other problem is that of my friends,they all make fun of me(none of them have any gf’s).sometimes i think she likes me sometimes not.how to get to knw that she really like me now?we chatted on facebook a long time back,then she told me why you don’t talk to me in class.I’m really messed up.HELP needed
thanks alot kyle
ill give it a try 
…(ARCH) look u should go step by step try to talk to her . open conversation with her be friends first smile to her 
and dont be shy… crack up some good jokes with her put all that step by step 
maby one day tell her you look pretty or hey nice to see you 2day with a smile then if she goes home walking if she is alone ask her if u want to give her a ride home if u have a car…. try to be gentle with her and if she is sad stay next to her …like saying whats wrong and try to change her mood 
when she feels comfortable with u try to ask her out like maby walking at the park or going to movies or restaurant 
but remember dont do all that in one step she will get scared so its better to start off with talking with her 
with little smile
i hope the best for U
approach her like a man. A determined guy can go after any woman no matter how pretty she is. Tell her how you feel about her and if she is really into you she will be all yours. Get to know more stuffs about her like the things she likes etc so you know how to put your conversations. Girls like guys who can make them laugh so try to make her laugh a lot this would always make her feel comfortable around you ( but never make fun of her though, especially when her friends are around). Play had to get and dont always be the one to initiate conversations and stuffs like that ask her opinion and try to build a reputation among your friends, class mates,etc so she knows who she is messing around with- thats you.
Well i meet this girl on an online game and we started to talk and get to know each other and found out that she lives only 20 mins away from me. At the beginning she seemed more into me then i did to her. She would say things like “I could really see us going somewhere” and would say shes tired but doesnt wanna stop talking to me and etc. She always called me everynight and we would talk on the phone for hours on end. We hung out once or twice and everything was going good and i was really starting to fall for her. I went on vacation and everything was still the same, she called me everynight and etc. When i got back we still talked but a few days later things just suddenly changed and i dunno what happened. She stopped calling me almost completely and if we talk on msn or something (because i messaged her) she would say “hey you” instead of hey hun or something like that. I dunno what happened and i dunno what to do. Please tell me someone knows what to do!! I dont wanna lose her
maybe you are boring. make the friendship much more exciting get involved in things that would excite her, you have to figure it out yourself though. and tell her straight up how you feel about her, i dont really know why a lot of guys dont say the L word i mean you have nothing to lose eighter she accepts you or reject you its inevitable though, but hey there are lots of girls out there if only you tell them how you feel i bet you could get 5 out of 10 girls rather than fantasize about 10 and get 0 in the end, i mean you are a man use your balls. lol
I almost have that same problem. I dont have an answer for it. Just out of curiosity what game did u meet her through?
All i suggest is to ask her str8 out. Otherwise IT will drive you crazy.
Kyle and Ej I have a similar story as you guys. I play a certain popular game online. lol. I was introduced to this girl through a RL friend. We hit it off instantly. We would talk almost nightly for hours upon hours, emailed each other, texted, etc etc. Just to give you a background of this we started talking intially in November and a little more over the next month or two after that. From about January to June (maybe July) we were practically inseperable, talking sometimes for hours on end late at night and we were texting back and forth when we weren’t online. Sometimes we would talk everyday stuff – “how’s your day” “have you seen this…” yada yada, sometimes we would flirt or whatever. Now over the last month or so it’s changed a little. Sometimes I’ll text her and she won’t respond back until much later or even at all. Other times she’ll respond instantly. Sometimes she initiates conversation with a text, but not on a regular basis like before. When we talk online (which isn’t as much as before – but that has to do with our work schedules now) sometimes it seems as good as before, sometimes a little awkward. Now the real reason I haven’t asked her out before is that we live a few states apart (8 hr drive) but now it’s to the point that I have completely fallen for this girl. It’s kind of bizarre because it started off innocently at first, friendly and sometimes flirty. Somewhere along the line I realized how I felt and it kind of shocked me to actually fall for a girl I’ve never actually met, only talked to. Now, I want to meet her to see if there is any chemistry there in person, but I’m trying to figure out if she’s now disinterested or is it that the “honeymoon phase” is over and I need to change it up since we’ve been talking so much for amost a year now. Maybe she’s just bored, so to speak.
Hmm yeah thats exactly whats happeing with me. Maybe its because we’ve talked so much and now its becoming more harder to talk abt new things. I mean obviously we have all been in a real life relationship. So sometimes when we dont talk to our other half we can simply say alot in cuddles and kisses. Basically cuddling on the sofa and watching tv or w/e. Cant really do that online so when a conversation fails to materialize then its a bit of a bore i guess.
And maybe because the chase is over. Alot of real life and online romances lose their sparkle when we get the girl we were dying to be with. Now we have what we were looking for BUT… now the hard part comes… making it work.
I know for one thing, i couldnt just end it and simply move on unless she actually ended it.
Chris your probably right, maybe it needs changing up.
See, with me I text this girl that I met and she is really nice. I always initiate the conversation (text), but we text for hours. So I don’t really know what to make of it? By the way, we are both fifteen years old.
Thank you in advance for anyones advice,
Dan
More info is required. If your talking for hours i dont see the problem. But again more details would be nice to extract any sort of answer from this.
I been knowing this girl for a year now and I like her a lot we hang out I asked her to dance she says yes we always talk or txt on the phone till like 3 in the morning. She tells me every thing about her that is happening in her life till one day she says can u sleep over at my house I was sorry girl I can’t she was disapointed but made it up too her. Then about 2 months later we sat down in her living room and she said that there’s this guy that she got fingered by I was basiclly pissed and that guy use to be my best friend now we hate eachothers asses and after that we still hanged out but tbhings changed between me and her if anyone can help I’m basically clueless on what to do at this point. We don’t even text anymore or talk on the phone if I bump into her I wud just ask how’s your day. And now her and that guy are mad at eachother cause he has a gf and he’s a player. I would still ask her out but it just feels awkward. If anyone can help plzz do
I have know this female for around 4 years. she was my classmate in the past. i’ve a crush on her during the 3th year that we know. i gave her many hints that im interested in her and i tried to ask her out serveral times but she had rejected me. i also try to call her and wanted to have a chat with her, but she didnt pick it up either. today is her birthday. shoud i ask her out today again? or i just wish her a happy birthday and look for other females instead. some one please advice.
Hi,
Im really attracted to this sheep which lives next door.
Ive been talking to it lately but It never replies- does this mean it doesnt like me?
Also, im not sure if it is a boy or a girl sheep- it doesnt worry me, either is fine- but how can i tell if it is a girl sheep so i can use these tips to help make it like me?
Thanks,
Kyle, and anyone else who read my previous entry – Well I let it all hang out this past Friday. We’ll talked for several hours. This is even more complicated then I thought before. The good part: It turns out she did have the same feelings, but she assumed when I didn’t press the issue that I didn’t feel the same way. Now for the bad part: Let me backtrack a little bit. One of the things we had talked about a lot over the past month / month and a half was this guy who she works with. She thought they were just friends but he started texting her yada yada. Well, she eventually realized he was trying to woo her. She already knew that he was married. So she said no dice, no way, no how. She didn’t want to break up a marriage. She ended up getting a call from his wife because she found the texts and went off. She told the wife nothing had happened, she didn’t want to hurt anyones marriage, and that was the end of it. So as this was all happening we talked about it extensively. I listened, gave limited advice (she already knew enough not to get involved), and basically let her vent frustrations (rumours around work that start, that kind of thing). Now she hasn’t been in a relationship for 4 years, so I think she was feeling very lonely. To make a long story short, when I talked to her Friday, she told me that the guy filed for divorce and that they had talked and talked. She had feelings for him but they both agreed not to do anything but hang out until the divorce was final (3 months or so) and then give the relationship a try. We still talked all the time over the last few days and she has even said “if its meant to be its meant to be if its not….” The lesson to be learned here is “TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL NOW” don’t wait or you might not get a chance. To make matters worse (and it could be the jealous part of me) based on what she’s told me about him before (and the fact this wasn’t his first marriage) I think she’s gonna be hurt by him. So now I have the double agony of possibly having lost a girl I fell in love with because I didn’t have the balls to say something sooner, and I have the unenviable task of either watching her get hurt by this guy or if she’s not hurt – losing her to someone else. /sigh Don’t wait to tell her guys
Hey there, please someone give me some advice! I really like this girl i use to go to school with although we never really spoke in school, im 25 now and we talk every night, this girl is very freindly and polite, we had a date 3 years ago, but nothing come off from it because we both was out of serious relationships, so probably bad timing, anyways in the last 3 years ive never asked her out again, but over the last say 3 months ive spoke to her regular on msn, she often tells me very personal things about herself, and also says shes trusts me more then any other lad she knows, sometimes she can be very emotional and ask me if she is ever going to meet someone, i often think is she hinting for me to ask her out on a date again, but since nothing happened last time i never initiate it again, i know she is a very shy person and she has admitted she could never ask a lad out she just doesnt have it in her, anyways as of late i message her and chat for a bit, some times she can take a while reply, somtimes i cant shut her up, one of them i guess, but a few weeks ago she said i should get this movie she likes and she will come round for a film night, i said sure, but i didnt mention when as i wasnt well for 2 weeks, i explained this to her and she seemed ok, i got well last week and told her is she still up for the movie night etc and she said sure, i suggested friday and she said she will let me know closer to the day but shes most probably free, the other night i just checked with her if she was still up for coming, as she didnt seem very convincing and never mentioned it again, and she said (I want to come) anyways im wondering if someone can give me some feedback or advice? she has mentioned 2 dates shes had a month ago but she wasnt interested in the guy’s that much and never went on a second date again, i was jealouse to death but didnt show it, i had a feeling she was either tryin to make me jealous to finally get me make a move, or she was hinting for me not to ask, but yea, she suggested coming down mine for this “movie night” do you think shes coming down cause shes bored? or maybe because she wants to see if she likes me maybe? many thanks
Hi . im a guy , i met this girl at school . we have been texting for a while , but she texts me on/off , kinda seems tht shes playing hard to get but at the same time , we have planned to hangout for a total of about 4 weekends and it always falls out , we never do , she calls me “my love” and she just seems interested , but shes really hard to read. i really lik ethis girl , but i really really dont know what to think , please anyone understand my problem or have a reason for whats goin on here?
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Texting is always tricky. If a girl text u on and off it can mean a lot of things, it is very hard to get a specific answer. When you guys plan on something and ends up failing means either she had some sudden important plans or really undecided. Some people can say yes to a hangout then later they dont feel like going. It happens. Calling you “my love” to anyone is a big thing (for me that is) unless she uses the word “love” casually then dont take it seriously. Pretty much she is undecided and confuse in a way. Either she likes you or not. Probably best to fish for more information on where she stands with you. Keep pushing that hangout time. You need to talk to her in person and see what you can get with her and tell her that you are interested in her. She cant be busy all the time and sooner or later she will say yes and go out with you. If you dont have the time and effort to do all those then an easier way is to forget her and move on.
Hi everyone! I want to share my experience and hope that someone can ease my weird situation. I met this girl in summer class. We both sat at the first seat on the opposite end of the room. The first week we only look at each other. By then I am already hanging out with other peeps in class for lunch. 2nd week came I got a text from her saying “where are u guys going to eat lunch? I want to go” At first i didnt know who it was then it occured to me, the first day of class we all put our phone numbers in 1 sheet of paper and the teacher made copies of it for the entire class; to help everyone keep in contact. I texted her back sayin “mc donalds”. By then she will go wit us to lunch but hardly talks. I thought she is shy. I talk to her once in a while but I usually talk to everyone in the group as much as possible. She will text me to see how I am doin. She even initiated to call me and we talk for at least an hour. She is fun and corky sometimes. By the way she is 16 and I am 17. Anyways we learned some stuff from each other; one of them is her having a bf…yikes…I know…the first thing I thought “its bad news haha” cuz she is very pretty. So for the next 3 weeks or so she has been flirting wit me and telling me stuff that u shouldnt say when u have a significant other. I laugh and thinking to myself not to get attach. We be getting a little closer by flirting and teasing each other at school. On that time she said she likes me. I said uh…youre cool and all but…u have a bf. Then she talked about her bf….about him being abusive and stuff. Kinda like the new Rhianna / Eminem “Love the way u Lie” song. Yeah she is in that predicament. It is common in relationship when it gets violent and abusive. She told me all about it and she said she cant leave him cuz for some personal reason. I thought she is just scared and probably worries too much that its all her fault to begin with. I gave her advice to drop him and move on. Later on (days passed) she said she likes to be with me. From this moment I kinda got interested in her because of her cool personality. Every time we hang out we will have fun. There will be no dull moment when its just me and her. So yeah I admit I kinda like her too now. But I still have this caution feeling that I wont be giving my whole heart to her just yet. She is now in a state of confusion…to the point where her feelings will jump from me and to her bf. One day she will be lovey dovey wit me on txt or phone. The next is to her bf. Her bf leaves far from her like almost an hour drive and will go visit her in the weekends (her and her bf time). I sometimes get random days in the weekdays or sometimes none. Last 2 week she told me that we should be friends…I said what the….why all of a sudden? She told me that she tried breaking it off with her bf the other day and he started crying and pleading with her to stay. Again one of the reasons why she cant leave this abusive relationship. I told her that he is not gonna change and thinking that u love him..is not love at all because u are getting more pain than love in this relationship. She agrees but still confused. I told her that if she drop her bf and goes with me she will be happier and I will treat her nice. The weird part about it is that last weekend she txt me about her having problem with her bf…again. I cope with her and lend her my full attention and gave her advice. She..for some reason said “I love you so much”. WHOA!? Ok yeah I am now confused. I told her that we were just friends and now she wants me? Anyways I told her I like her and willing to be with her so long as she drops her bf. Ever since then for some reason she doesnt initiate her callings and text. if she does its not as many times before. I mostly text her now…cuz I worry about her situation. From the point of me just texting her and she hardly reply….sometimes not even text the whole day. So now I am stuck everyone. Should I drop her or maybe stay to be her friends or do something more so she realize that I really do care for her so much than her bf? Right now I am trying my best to win her over her abusive bf….but she gives me mix signals and I dunno how to respond to it anymore. Please everyone I need some answers. I like her a lot now and I dont know what to do.
According to your situation you are in, the best options for you to do is to forget about her; or just be friends with her. Don’t pursue her to be your girlfriend because it takes time to get out of an abusive relationship. Give her time because she is confused and sorting things out. If you keep pushing yourself towards her then you might end up losing her. If she doesnt text you or call you, it means she has a lot of things in her mind and might be busy. Surely she dont want to be with her boyfriend and wants to be with you but as of right now, do what you normally would do in life. Keep yourself busy. When the time is right she will call you. You can keep some contact with her by texting her not as much. Maybe 2-3 times a week for now. But I recommend calling her instead to get your message more direct approach. So there you go bro u got 2 choices. Be a friend (for now till her head is clear) or forget about her (saves you time and worries about her).
OK there’s this girl my friend introduced me to at the party of my mate’s house.At first I don’t really pay any attention to her, we only meet occasionally whenever there’s a friends gathering or party, but this recent weeks I started txtng her and even calling her , like many guys in here I have the same situation I’m always the one taking the initiative either it’s a conversation or sms. One day I asked her to go out with me, it was alright we had a great day in my experience i dnt know about her though. Then the next day I kept calling and even sms her but she didnt reply, asking wether if she wants to go out again. It was then after my 5th called to her phone she answered my call , well I asked her about why she’s not replying and she just said sorry to me and told the me reason. After that event we managed to meet up again and it was during my friend’s dinner. Now here’s the tricky part she told during dinner that she’s going to sms me the next day because she wants me accompany her to go to tax agent and so fort. But during the promise day I decided not take any intiative to call since she promise me she will sms me but I think she broke her promise and my reaction to it is that maybe she is inerested with me. So I decided not to contact her for a while, mayb at least 2 weeks and if i didnt get any call from her I will just let it go and move on….. Guys do you think I’m doing the right thing here? do you reckon she like me ? or she’s not interested coz I the one who approached her anyway and kinda force her in this situation?
let it go. Not interested. If she is serious she would have already contacted you as promised. Dont go looking for reasons why she didnt. Its very simple why, despite her excuses if you ever asked her.
i met a girl at a friend party, we spoke for a little while at the party, we exchanged number and start talking on the phone after a couples days. this girl had everything i have been looking for in a female, we usually talk every night for few hours, we both started to develop slightly feelings for each other during our conversation, after two weeks of talking on the phone, so we decided to meet up to see a movie, after we met up for the movie, she sort of kept a little distance from me, take long to return a phone call and to text back, later on the week she said she want to stay friend with me. i was like what! in my head, after all the sleepless night on the phone.
i Didn’t know what went wrong at the cinema, everything seems ok.
now i wish i never went to the damn cinema. lol
i need a answer please anyone? she still in my head, hard to forget her.
I met this very beautiful girl at my job we work together shes a yoga instructor and i work at the place doing other stuff and after and before she works we would talk for a few minutes sometimes she will stay for an extra 20minutes to talk with me. one saturday i went by work while she was working and asked her if she wanted to hangout and i really didnt mean that day but she said lets go for a hike and when i mentioned my town has great hikes she mentioned she wanted to drive an some where an hour away so we did. We spoke about alot of stuff. Things that are really personal, we played a game where we told things that are embarasing or things we dont know each other. And eventually we started saying things that were private and we didnt feel uncomfortable at all. We ended up getting lost in the woods and at one moment she got real close to me and nudged me and looked in to my eyes I wish i had kissed her but shes very conservative but in a modern way where she will joke around with me about certain things about fooling around. We ended up coming back to my place and we ordered food and spoke some more. and then she asked me to walk her to her car and i kissed her on her cheek and told her to drive home safe.
I know it sounds like she likes me but i am always the one who asks to hangout even though she always says yes i feel like maybe shes just being nice. I asked her today to go running with me later in the week and she said yes. Should this be the last time i ask her and stop talking to her and hope she is the one who calls me or comes to me when im working to ask to hangout? The reason im soo confused by all of this is that she is soooo beautiful and i think sort of out of my league but im a really confident guy so I never let that show. But i think every guy in this world who trully has feelings for a girl always thinks shes out of his league. anyways. shes leaving to go abroad for 3months in another country and i’m leaving the job to go back to school so i feel like this wednesday is my last chance to hopefully find out if she has feelings for me to. I’m worried i will put it to faith in hoping she will call me or text me if i dont and i never hear back from her again.
Okay so I met this girl in my class, we would always flirt in class and had a lot of fun talking to me. Then one Friday she asked me if I wanted to hang out, and I was like sure but I don’t have your number. So she smiled real big like she always does when she talks to me, and I give her my number she calls me right then to give me her number lol. So I text her on Saturday, and she says sorry that she already has plans. And she says that I’d be the first one she would make plans with to hang out with, the next weekend she had SATS, then next weekend she had prom. She asked if I was going and she was dissapointed when I said no, cause she was gunna ditch her date for me. We eventually got to hang out once and had lunch we had a good time and talked a lot, and their wasn’t to many silent moments. Nothing really happened. Since then I’ve been asking her to hang out and it’s like 2 months after that and we text all the time, she starts the convos rarely. She flirts with me all the time about how she would want me to cuddle with her. But whenever I ask her to hang out she never can, sometimes I feel like shes just lying. Her bestfriend even told me that she wants to sleep with me haha. But I ask her to hang like every week and she never can
. I even asked her if she wants me to keep asking her to hang out, and she says yes. She really wants to hang out. But she never asks me to hang out, and sometimes she says she can and then when the day comes she never texts me when I told her too or she says that she can’t for some reason, she is really busy cause she plays sports and does other stuff. I’m not sure if she just hasn’t been able to hang out or if she’s making excuses cause she nervous, or she just doesn’t like me at all ands playing a joke on me. It just seems really weird cause she did ask me to crash this party with her once but I couldn’t and she hasn’t asked me to hang out since, but like I said I ask her all the time. I’d really like to think she just doesn’t have the time. Some expert advice would be nice tell me what you guys think.
Hi dude, i am going to tell u my story!
I met here in school in 10+1 class, there were many girls but i was being attracted towards her only. I tried to converse with her regarding notes,exams,etc. but nothing personal. But i felt she wasn’t interested in my talks, once when i just passed 10+1 and got promoted to 10+2 she was in my class. Again i just tried to impresss her, she was a basketball player i started getting trainning of basketball. For her i just started to workout. But all this ended when i realise that she was with other guys and she was happy with them.
I saw her happiness and then backoff, but those two guys were not good for her, so i just had a glimpse on her all the time. After passing from 10+2 she joined a collage and i joined an institute, but now i really miss her. So i decided to make a profile of mine on facebook, i send her 5-6 add requests hoping that she would one day accept me. But she didnt, I went to her collage which is 10 km awy from my place to meet here. But i could not meet her, once there was a party in her collage at a hotel i stood out waiting for her for about 3 hours. She didnt came.
My friends told me that she had interly changed now, and she wont like u any more now. She will only be interested in rich boys.
SO DUDE ITS MY STORY, NOW U TELL ME WHAT I SHALL DO IN ORDER TO MAKE HER COME BACK IN MY LIFE!!!