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do note, that while alot of these points are correct, its equally nothing to worry about if you are in a relationnship. It is incredibly important to realise everyone is different. Some people take ages to reply because phones are off etc. And the thing about gifts is hugely dependent. My girlfriend of 4 years always tells me not to buy her presents and such, and Im pretty sure she is interested.

However, on that, indifference and making excuses all the time is a pretty surefire way to tell your trying the wrong approach. thats life!

You don’t want to seem too pushy. Don’t always make the first move.

thats not 99

a lot sounds very true. 7ut this girl im trying to talk to is different. she is divorced and has a kid but that’s not that problem. her sister fucked her husband so now she has a lot of trust issues. she says she not ready for anything rite now which is fine by me and says lets just see what happens and im fine with that but in the mean time she talks about other guys but at the same time still I can feel there is somethong between us what should I do?

yeah in this article my crush do this things to me. But i will never lose hope.

Those points you mentioned above are correct exactly. But can you advise me how to approach such girls? Thanksa lot!

she does NOT make eye contact with you!

This is correct………….all of this is happening with me for 3 years………but I cant get over that……..please help….She always acts friendly

I have a similar situation. I’ve known this girl for about 5 years now. I asked her number and she gave it to me. I started calling her and asking her out but she always had an excuse….like for about 4 maybe 5 times….I stop calling her…or talinkg to her on msn. She starded talking to me on msn and also calling me sometimes asking me for advice on her relationships with other guys aying that things were not going good and so on…I wonder…if she knows i told her i liked and she said as friends…why is she asking me advices about her personal relationships…??? i’m sure she has girl-friends to go to…why me…? if she knows i liked her. She did this by text messages and also by calling a few times….what gets me madd is ehy when i invite her out she had an excuse….???After i stop calling and talking to her on msn and cellphone…if she did not start the conversation and talk to me I would not talk to her….after she was the one talking to me….

But i still think about her. I want to tell her that and if there is any reason for me to keep feeling this way or thinking about her to let me know…otherwise…i would just walk away….and forget her. i’m confused and madd…

what can i do? guys….

Yeah, thats pretty much what I would do if i wasnt interested in you..

i so agree with every word.

especially that it doesn’t apply to all girls because some girls are just too shy to express how they feel.

“She never want to look at your eyes, or stay any minute with u and would find uncomfortable with u around.”

Sometimes girls are just nervous, not that they are not interested. i’m speaking for myself here. i lack the damn guts.

but guys sometimes misunderstand that the girls are not interested? although it’s also true if the girl doesn’t like the guy.

i’m also for guys to take the first initiative.
if a girl is really shy, the guy has to be the bolder one to take the first move if there is mutual liking, no?

not really true ….what if a gal has a bf and yet ask the others guy to buy things for her …… i don’t really understand …and the guy is interested in her …spenting alot on her ……..

sounds good, i have a question, i like this girl and she told me she liked me about 3 days ago over the weekend, and those 3 days were great, but now we dont talk as much on aim or on the fone. in skool though she smiles at me and says hi when ever we pass each other, and idk but it seems like im the only one to start to the conversation,and try to keep it going or start sumthing idkkk if she likes me any more wat do u think??am i pushing it, should i slow it down? should i tell her that i really like her, or try to hang out with her more can some one help me…

Yeah i got a question id really like someone to answer. I met a girl about a year ago and we were always friends and now were best friends but ive always liked her. we always talk on aim and we always talk about going somewhere alone. Ive gotten vibes that maybe she likes me but i get more friend vibes. what do u all think? Ive never dated anyone but compared to the others ive liked i like her more 4 her personality. She never talks about any other guys and never mentions possible love interests.

..easy guys..test you girl : touch her..in friendly way..touch her hand, touch her shoulder..if ok with her 50%..give a lame jokes..if she always laugh WITH you..75%..the rest 25% is luck ..but remember..only if she respect you..will she love you..

I like this girl. she knows i like her but i dont feel that she likes me… I told her how I feel… she said her parents were strict and didnt allow her… everything you said is everything she does… Last valentines I gave her flowers and a teddy bear… I got was thank you… Shes just my crush and I want to know her better but when I ask her out no replies… does this mean she really doesn’t like me?

thanks this list is really good. i needed it.

my friend told her i liked her and she said ok then he told her i wanted to kis her and she said ok again wtf do i do

Coming from an ordinary teenaged girl..

All these points are true.

If she’s more upfront, then these facts will apply.

If she doesn’t exactly want to be mean/feels the need to be polite, she’ll only tone it down.

duude don’t forget when a girl tells you that she doesn’t like you only as a friend and you keep calling her every night and texting her everyday in the morning and doesn’t reply to you and you keep asking why won’t you text back.

because she thinks thats effin annoying and she won’t tell you that its annoying cuz she wants to be nice

GOSH moFO i would shoot him!

ok…here’s my story…about 2 months ago i met this girl @ work..@ the moment when we met i was going through a marriage crisis and also lost my dad..when we 1st spoke and formally introduce ourselves to each other she offered, i know you don’t know me but if you ever need someone to talk to, im here…at the time she didn’t know i’m married…nways, a few days later, almost everyday she see’s me, she compliments me on how i dress.. for example: are
those new shoes? And i’d go yes! And she’d go looks good on you…now i didn’t wanna read too much into this coz i was afraid it would
backfire if i misread her..so i played it cool momentarily waiting for the right time to ask for her number..finally that day came, so i ask…well to my surprised she gave me her number and said, won’t you give me a ring so i can have your number too? And so i did. I waited 2 days before i texted her. She replied to those texes and also answered my phone calls…we have something in common…we both like sports..so most our conversation at first was all about the Lakers…couple of weeks later i thought it’d be good to give me her something, like a memorabilia…and so i gave her a kobe bryanT autograph trading card..which was a part of my collection…she says, thanks but also said, you didn’t have to. But when i ask in a text later that night if she liked it
She replied, i loved it..anyhow, 2 weeks went by, and one day after work i ask her if she wanted to go grab a frozen yogurt, this time she already knew i was married, and Yet she did not hesitate to say yes..and by the way she has boyfriend…nways,a week later i ask again if wanted she to go to starbucks for a cup of coffee, but @ the time she had to meet a friend, so i said ok…but she suggested what bout 2morrow? unfortunately i couldn’t make it to the day she suggested, but i countered that with a different day..and she said ok..and so we did…we went and hung out at starbucks…before the day was over, i told her how attractive she is, that she’s a very likable person, i like the fact that she’s very attentive and i was beginning to like her..she says thank you and seems very flattered..but her response was kinda odd…she goes, you may not know this , but i cheated once before, and that she’s afraid of karma…i didn’t know what she was trying to say…then she followed that up with, saying that she’s really not looking into a relationship when she’s in one…in my mind i was like, i did not ask for no relationship…so i dont really know what she trying to say…nways, the day ended with hug and both of us saying, be safe driving home…that night i called her to make sure she got home safe..which she did..before we hung up i ask her she wants to hang out again, just to see if she would still say yes…which she did…but when that day came, and i ask if we were still on, she said ummm…i can’t it’s mom’s b-day..so i said ok…but this time she didn’t suggest another day to hang out and neither did i…a week later i ask her when would she wanna hang out again..she replied i can’t this coming week..but maybe next week…so i said ok..now i’ll see if she would still go..now guys,my question is, does girl like me at all or am i misreading her??? Please let me know what ya’ll think…sorry, if this thread is a little long :p

With all this technology going around you would think there is more communication these days. Here is my story. I met this girl at a store, we exchanged numbers and we texted quite a few times and chatted online as well. So SHE suggested to meet me Saturday, but then, she had to cancel because she had to work. She told me that she would be available tomorrow, but no word, not even a text msg. I texted her twice, just saying whats going on and no answer. Any suggestions? I know she is shy, but damn not even a simple text message?

i met this girl years ago we were introduced by an acquaintance but what happened i was in school and we saw each other but i didnt say hi and ignored many times but now we work in the same hospital and we see each other from time to time we might say hi to each ow would i ever bring it from the just saying hi phase

yes buddy.., these are true..
Actually girls are something different..what they think..what they do .. hmm..!!!

Ok don’t know who reads this still. But I’ve been pushed away too. On myspace I try to reach out. Give messages show her I care and I Wana talk….. No reply. And I know I’m not pretty thing but I hooked up with so many hotter lady then her. It’s just I like her in the inside to the out. And I mean a month ago she let my friend know she thinks of as a brother?? Am I being to nice? Like every girl asks for a nice guy? Watever…. And now she all stuck over her ex… But she says she feels loved… Adored! When I put the song Alive by black eye peas discribing the way I feel on my profile. It’s like her status notes throw me off. Idk if there kent for me or her ex, she says: do you like me? , do you love me? , waiting for a angle, waiting fir my prince… Guys I’m scared to get rejected by her…. I’d be broken if I knew she. Loved another guy ! This is wifey status

I had a wife I loved, 34year,s and she cheated on me, and left me. I LOST my love and every thing I felt good about as a dad, and husband. Anyone that
cheats on there loved one is a fool. For what a hop
in the hay. well I em single at 55 years old and I
read this stuff about married people to see if I EM ALONE. I SEE NOT. What dose a single man do to
find a women he can trust. I do not like bars to hang out in. I have no clue on where to go to find a women that wants a man she trust. maybe I em to old thinking. I love sports, country music, and fishing, and skiing, and the out doors.
Sex is not the most important thing, but seems to be in the single life. I HATE being single and alone. so if people cheat they need to get there head out of there buts. when you tie the knot, its a life time deal people forget in the later years. Even if living together, IT,S work.
And with 2 people working now days the love part
seems to go by the way side. But some times its, just life. Hang on to your loved one and talk to each other after work. Make time to be alone.
life is short,then your dead.

Duuuude !!
Those arent all right .. becaus some of them …. well some people dont got confidence / are REALLY SHY !

Duude .
Just like think about it mann .

AND …..
SOME PEOPLE CANNOT REPLY or be on the computer all the time or on facbeook everyday .

There’s reasons !
Pretty good ones anywho …

hello there
im a 16 year old boy im quite well known round my city (its small) a lot of girls call me cute but i never had a gf
i gotta tell someone sumthink ?
i really like this girl, she my age i known her since i was 11 years old and been in my class from year 7 – 11 (end of school year).i have liked this girl since i was 14, every time i go to say i like her she thinks im jokin or when i give her a compliment she never agree on it (upset from her sexy dimple). when the end of the month is up a club opens for our age so i chat to her on msn she really sweat to me and i tell her ‘next time i see you at the club… can i have a dance’ she replies quick with ‘YEAH ’ but when the time comes i see her and ask for a dance and she shrugges her shoulders and carry on dancin, her friend wispers in her ear sayin ‘he likes you’ (her friend telles me) im really tempted to go behind her and hold her her hips but i wanna act like a gentalman in fort of her so i dont do it. when she is upset i ask her whats wrong and she tell me everythink so i try eaz her, when i finished eazin her she always fanx me with a lovin hug and feels like theres a moment but she dont feel it (i can see it in her eyes). im a song-writer and singer as well and wrote a song about her do you think i should show it to her, i just want her to know that im serious about her and dont wanna just be a good friend with her.

so can anyone tell what i should do for her to be my girl

umm.. i’m a girl, and i think most of these things aren’t true,cause i’m very shy, and when i don’t make eye contact with a guy, its because i can’t look into his eyes for very long, cause i get embarassed!!

Alright so i met this girl a few days ago through friends. the first time i talked to her we had an hour and a half conversation at 2 in the morning about our past relationships and what we look for in a girl or guy and eid say things and shed be like “ohh thats a turn on!”. initially i definatley thought we could have something together. Now a few days later i ask her to hangout and she’s busy both times (cheerleading and previously made plans). She tells me shes sooo sorry blah blah blah about being busy. I always send the initial text and she usually responds quickly, but then the conversation ends with me sending a text and getting no reply. I decided to wait a few days and wait for her to text me. to be honest, i thought i was being a little clingy/pushy with sending 1 to many texts

is she playing hard to get or is she not interested??

[...] to know if a girl is not interested in you: From : Original Link * She never initiates contact with you, be it on MSN or sms. * She is uncomfortable with light [...]

i feel like you are right about most of this and like you said its the 21st century, most girls now adays, well atleast the good ones, like a man to step up to them, show them that you can take good control and let yourself be known. and if you sense that things are not going good, she either wants you to try harder or back the hell out. Also, dnt push it, dnt do too much..this is the mistake most nice guys make.

ok so basically we text each other almost everyday. We are in separate schools, both in single sex school. Sometimes i initiate the sms, sometimes her. She replies fast, regardless in sch or not. I asked her out once, she went. On the same nite, i text her to ask if she would like to go out again. She said she doesn feel like going out and says maybe nxt time but not specifically any date. Be4 her bday, i asked her if she wants a present. She said dont waste your money. Which actually is one of the points here. Im really scared i would be in another unreciprocated relationship again. Help me please!

oya. She usually tells me her daily life. Like whats she eating, doing etc.

Not exactly true though, i would usually purposely talk abt other guys in front of him

This is really a cool site to exchange ideas.. now here goes my story and need advices..
Met this girl in a club 2 years back but totally slip my mind to get her number, 2 months ago, bounce into her in the club again, we exchanges phone numbers…Bear in mind, she’s with a bf now,
First date, went to one of my fren’s baby shower, where she knows no one there, thereafter had a good time with karaoke session and followed by good dinner and wine..
We started to sms and msn almost everyday, talking about almost everything, from what she’s eating, horoscope updates, or just plain complaining about work..
Second date, went for a movie and dinner before sending her back..
Then 3rd date, was at a club with her and saw her having too much fun with other guys which really send me into a rage.. i cool it and left..
She never talks about her bf thingy to me before, though i know she’s in a relationship..
Never express my feeling to her yet, confused of what i should do now…

Check it, Im 17, I have known this one girl for about a year now. When I first met her i thought she was the most gorgeous thing I had ever seen. I stared at her for a couple seconds when we were introduced and she stared back. The stupid thing I did after that was ask her for her number right away. FAIL. She gave me her number but left out the last digit. I figured it out and called her and texted her that day. I definitely sent her way to many text messages, Since it was her first time meeting me I guess she replied them to be nice. I don’t know what happened, It was like I lost all my senses with her, I know i should not have even asked her for her number the first tie i saw her. If i had thought it through i would have known that i would be seeing her after that. So, anyway, I rushed the game and it backfired on me. She thinks im some obsessed person or soming. I let time pass but she knew that i liked her. about 10 months after meeting her i told her i loved her. Which was also a dumb thing to do. now she knows that and im left looking like an idiot. There are times when I can clearly tell that she is soooo not interested. But there are other times where she leads me on. There was this one time when I went out with this other girl just to see what she would do. She talked to me about it. She asked me what i would do if she were to kiss me right then while i was with this other girl. I said i would kiss her back with all my heart. (shouldnt have said that .) Now i dont talk to her, Every time i call her when i am lucky to get an answer she has very little to say if anything. She never ever ever initiates a conversation. She said I was immature a couple months back man av tried to change and I am but im not getting her attention. I have given up hope, She got mad a while back because i added her ex on facebook after we were introduced, i dont know how to read any of this. All my mates av said that i need to move on and think about another girl but i cant, it is very hard. shud i just move on?? I aint spoken to her for a while. I avoid her when i see her, the main reason is im embarrassed, need u peoples help.

she doesnt want you, she just likes the attention. seriously just stay away from her and try to get over her. when you blank her for a while she will talk to you and act interested but shes just leading you on because she misses how interested you were in her – thats it. she doesnt feel the same and shes not worth the time!

woah.. so many stories… mayb i shld include mine too..

i have known this girl for 6 months plus.. through cca from a friend.. so basically, during ccas, i kind of like to act as a hero in front of her… but after a few training sessions, we quitted it about the same time..

actually during ccas, i was already quite interested in her.. so i tried going to facebook and find her email address.. amazingly, i found it and i initiate the talk with her… she rmbs me and we started talking almost everyday… sometimes, i tried not to talk to her everyday cuz i was afraid i would scare her off..

semester 1 was not a good time for me… cuz i can only talk to her in msn..

but, semester 2 was the best for me… cuz our timetables are almost the same, so we could see each other almost everyday..

sometimes, i tried to say hi to her, mayb a smile only cuz she is always with her friends and i didnt want to disturb her conversations… but i wonder why i am always the one who saw her first.. but of couz, when she saw me, she will still return a smile..

and i rmb once, we promised to find each other one day and i even said if i saw her, i will pop in front of her… shockingly, my stupid friend ask me to enter the school from a different entrance… i was freakin angry but still tried my best to look for the girl.. somehow, i found her and i plucked up my courage to go talk to her.. and i kind of joke like hey, you see i juz pop in front of you.. and she looks shy but still smiles a little..

but for goodness sake, i didnt tried asking for her number cuz i dunno how to..

firstly, we juz talk in msn and i am always the one initiating the talk so i wonder if that was always true if a girl is not interested in me when she don’t initiate a talk… what if i dc and when i log in again, she talks first, is that initiating a talk too?

secondly, she is always with her friends and i am juz trying to wait for a time when she is alone which is not freakin possible for now..

lastly, i am afraid that she would not give..

actually, i have phobia for this kind of experiences and i dunno how to get over with it…

so, can anyone help me with this? thx a lot

I do AALLL of these things to the guy I do like

I guess I’m just a really shy girl

she plays ‘MIND GAMES’ with me..
she always reply my sms quickly..
the problem that I have shown that I like her, but she is like a fans keeper..

What kind of mind games?

ok so i met this girl i used to know. She saw me at a bar and ran over to me and initiated conversation. we hit it off great. she gave me her number and i left. next day we talk and plan on me meeting later at her work. i go see her and we talk for awhile on her hour break. we end up getting really touchy feely and make out. we talk about the possibility of a relationship between us decide to play it cool and arrange a day for later in the week to get up and go out on a date. Well since then i have called her a couple of times(no answer, no returned calls). called her on the day we were supposed to go on our date and her phone was dead. now i am not sure what to do. A big big part of me wants to call her and find out whats going on ? the other part of me says play it like the man and let her call you back. I am sure this girl likes me but not sure what outside situation would causs her to aviod me. or maybe she doest like me as much as i thought and just loves attention. What do i do

Alright here’s my story I’ve been talking to this girl I like for around a month. I txt her about ever day and she usually respondes right away but sometimes like after we been txting for a few hours she’ll just not respond and sometimes I’ll txt her later that day and she just won’t respond during the first weeks we were talking she would initiate the conversation but she doesn’t anymore but she still responds when I txt her. She has told me that she likes me and she know I like her but I just always have an uneasy about the whole thing. The second week we were talking she got drunk and made out with some random guy. Then one of my better friends claims to like her also and to have liked her for a while bit she has told me that she only sees his as friend but she is always constantly talking to him and probably talks to him more than she talks to me in school. We have talked on the phone a few times and have had like 2 hour conversations. The conversations are usually just about random stuff but I always make sexual jokes with her and she plays along. We always talk about stuff we have done with other people and she is kinda a hoe. The whole reason I’m telling this story is because one day it seems like she likes me then the next that she could care less about me. I really wanna call her and ask her how she feels about me but I’m not sure. Please any advice?

If a girl ask you money everytime, from the first you met her, what does it mean….

I guess it just means she’s after your cash.

erm … help ???
i liked a girl , im kinda have no guts , so i took her number through facebook .she gave it to me , and i smsed her for the last 3 days .her firstday reply was long and fast , but after that first day , her reply was “no” and “yeah” . anyone know wad i shud do to woo her ? and her bdays coming , im planning to buy her something , u guys think i shud give her on her birthday or when school starts ???

PS / HOW TO WOO HER ?!

i could hardly find a topic with her because i got no guts and i dunno wad to ask …

Hey all, well I met this on the bus on the first day of school and we have been talking ever since. She was down one day so I told her I would go to see her favorite movie with her (twilight) but I didn’t get a ride. She seems pretty shy but she hasn’t been the same since the night I never show’d up. She never initiates contact through texts but she did send me a message on thanksgiving saying “Happy thanksgiving ”. She used to always smile at me in the hallways but seems now to only be down and upset. I sent her a message saying tht I got lost in her pretty eyes and didn’t hear wat she said (long story) but no reply. You think see is interested in me?? Or am I wasting my time

uhm… i’m different then. T_T
I really like this guy but I’m too shy to look at him! I get nervous when he’s too close and when he’s talking to me- I try not to look at him.
I think I’m a little scared. He likes me {i THINK. My friends tell me he definitely does. Plus I think he said i was he gf if someone i don’t know thought we were going out} and i think he knows i like him…. and if this works out it’ll be my first boyfriend {I’m 13}. I mean I had crushes before, but not to this extent where we both know and did something about it and i’m this scared around him.
=[
I’m trying to build up the courage to do something about it! I’m kinda mad that I didn’t get the chance to and now i won’t see him for 2 weeks. {winter break} UGH!

just find a balance. feel the girl out. you cant be too pushy, but you also cant be too nonchalant.

if you’re an okay looking guy going after a badass bitch, you need to fucking slow down. acknowledge her beauty, but dont let that be all you see.

she knows you view her as a trophy. shit, you may not even know it, but she can sense it.

and again…if you’re dealing with a badass bitch who doesnt know her worth yet, but kinda sorta knows she’s more than your average chick… you walk a very thin line buddy. dont fuck it up and be too fucking pushy. let the bitch breathe.

Do NOT bring up marriage within the first too months of dating. Meaning, stating you want to marry HER. not just talking about the shit.

Do NOT try to meet her parents. She will introduce you when she’s good and ready.

Do NOT ask her to move in with you when you’re just getting to know each other.

Do NOT make the mistake of not being chivalrous. Every little thing is a turnoff if it’s add-on to you being too damn short, overweight, or just moderately attractive. SHE is a nice girl who maybe isnt so vain, so she’ll tolerate those things you cannot control. BUHHHT, the shit you can control, why should she deal with it. She’s pretty…beautiful…or a badass bitch. Do not be cheap, too mushy, tooo touchy feely…making her uncomfortable with all the public displays of affection. Try to gage her mood before you do all that.

Do NOT just let your emotions take over completely is all I’m saying. Forgetting the other’s persons feelings and not caring whether her feelings for you are growing. It’s extremely selfish.

Give her time and room to make up her mind about you. You’ll push her away and any chance you had is pretty much flushed down the crapper. Your personality and your sense of humor is what got her interested in the first place…but that shit wont hold up with all the extra bullshit.

i once met a girl and shaged her it was fun

Hey, I am a girl and I do find most of these points true. However, like mentioned above, point numbers #1, #5 and #15 doesn’t really apply to me. For some submissive or shy girls like me, we do not really have the guts to start an SMS, IM or call and would rather wait for the guy to show up first. Well, everything depends on the person, though. Great Article !

Hey all, so there is this girl in my class that I have known for a couple of months, but it wasn’t until we started hanging out and went on vacation together that I found out i like her. I decided to tell her the truth, however she says she wants to focus on her studies during school. As well, I asked if she likes me, and she said no, however when my friend asked her if she likes me, she said yes. She always laugh at what I say and allow me to put my hands on her shoulder, etc. I am confused, what should I do and should I keep on pursuing or no?

That’s cool. I have found the best ever article for telling if she IS interested in you –

http://georgeulysses.com/2009/09/28/20-ways-to-tell-if-a-girl-is-interested/

This article dissapeared for a while, but I’m glad it is back up. It’s legendary! Has changed my life!

ok i got one for u i started talking to this girl and i have been for awhle now she’s going thur a devores and say that she not ready to be with anyone well she live in another state and she and i but have said that we connect so well and even tell me she loves me but says she not in love with me but i really care bout this girl as more then a friend and we have been talking along time but we have never met face to face just long nights of talking on the phone and online every time things start to get going really good she gets to the point where she going to run away from what she feels and latey she has been really cold and seems kinda distint and has started to hang out with a guy friend at her work and she told me that she attrecked to his guy and that he is to her but they are just friends and she told me tonight that they went and hung out and she wanted to kiss him and they did but she said that he didn’t want to kiss her but b4 this guy came in the picutre she would tell me all the time that she wanted to kiss me, and i’m just really ayoned by the face that she goes and hangs out with this guy but we are not together and that she says that we are just friends but she doesn’t know if she feels anything more for me cuz she has never met me in person so should i just walk away and leave it at that any advice would help

short and simple…i met this girl at a bar and we went out once. The second date was set but when the day came i didnt call her or text her…i called her a few days later with no response or text…..shes an international student, what should i do?

Lame, sigh…….I don’t think the girl I really like, likes me back =( oh well, NEXT!..

Life is too short to spend the rest of your life focusing all of your time and energy on a girl that does not feel the same as you.

“I will never beg a girl to go out with me!”-me

you guys are very slow… i’m a girll and none of things are truee, haha.

Ok, this is my female perspective. I do talk about other guys to the guy I like, but that doesn’t mean I’m romantically interested in the other guys, it just means I want to talk about what those guys did because I don’t understand it and to me, guys can be really confusing sometimes. And I’m guilty of the emotional baggage thing too, but I don’t tell my emotional baggage to people I don’t like, I tell it to people I care about and do like, such as friends and people I want to be friends with. And I do keep things about myself from people, such as embarrassing secrets BECAUSE I DON’T WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW THEM. And the “brother” term for me is a term of, well, friend. But the rest are definitely signs I would use to let someone know I’m not interested.