There are so many stages to a relationship. Simplifying it, I’d say – during courtship, in a relationship and after marriage. This article shall cover what’s before/during courtship! Pretty sure this will very much benefit you. Read on.

How do I choose?

Not surprising when people ask this. So many people in the world, but who do I choose?

What do you expect from your partner? Expectation is the #1 killer, thus I firmly believe in getting your expectations right, maybe lowering it. If you think you’ve got too high expectations and cannot find a girl that’s suitable, lower them a little. Or perhaps, you haven’t met the right one.

What can your partner expect from you? It’s good to know what you can be giving. Everyone expects different kind of treatment and different amount of attention. Do ask yourself how much you can give.

Who can I choose?

Almost anyone. It’s all up to you to make your choice of who you want to fall in love with. However, I’m not a risk taker when it comes to risking my friends for a relationship which has risks.

Personally, I just try not to fall in love with a good friend unless I understand her so well and know that, if one day the relationship doesn’t work out, we’ll still be friends. If not, you’re going to lose a friend — a good one!

You may not want to choose someone who has too much close mutual friends too. The problem here is – when you both fail to work out, your friends will be the one getting the shit.

Do I fall in love with the person first, or do I know the person better first then decide if I should love?

Both are fine, but I’d prefer to know a person better before I start courtship. Here’s my explanation – you won’t wanna waste your precious wooing, and knowing the person at the same time. You might find out that he/she’s not the one you’re looking for. Why the hurry then?

Tips please!

You’d need to read:

• 99 Facts about Guys that Girls should know!
• 31 ways to make a girl smile (: (2,157 views)
• How to Know If A Guy Likes You
• How to tell if a girl is NOT interested in you

If you need additional help, contact me!

Regardless of whether you’re single, attached or married, the following tips can be applied easily. But let me mention this first: I’m not any love guru. Neither do I have many years of experience in this field.

This guide is actually written in a guy’s perspective, but it’s hard to say. However, ladies, some tips might just be suitable for application on your man.

In the past, I’ve written other helpful entries such as 5 ways to show you love her and The Guide To Making Relationships Last.

1. Tell her you love her. (Same first tip as mentioned on 5 Ways to show that you love her)
   This is an important point. Note that women need lots of security (men too!). It’s actually fine to drop her a message via SMS telling her how much you love her. You both don’t have to be quarreling in-order to be doing this. Doing this may sound stupid but it can be heart warming when your partner sees the message.
2. Be flexible.
   You’ve got a chick that loves Japanese food while you prefer Thai food? Instead of telling her that you want Thai for dinner today, why not suggest something like: “We’re shall have your favourite cuisine today. Next week we’ll have Thai food. Is it alright?” After all, Japanese food can be very tasty. (Not always will we face such scenarios, but this is a very simple example)
3. Surprise her.
   Women actually love surprises. Oh yes, surprises doesn’t cost much. An example would be make sure she’s hungry and got nothing for dinner. You can just make a call and order McDonald’s delivery to her place and pay for the meal with your credit card. A McValue meal will only cost you $10 at most.
4. Apologize.
   You know it’s your fault. Say sorry and most importantly make sure your partner accepts your apology. Move on after that. It is not at all hard to say sorry when you’re in the wrong. Many men just won’t apologize thinking that they’ll lose face doing so. Time to wake up.
5. Trust.
   One of the most important things in a relationship. If you’re still courting a girl and you cannot trust her, don’t go on with her. If you’re in a relationship and you cannot trust her, just break up; don’t waste time. If you’re married and you find that you cannot trust her, do something about it; I don’t mean divorce.
6. Communicate well.
   Communication is very important in a relationship. The sender is as important as the recipient. Make sure what gets through has the same meaning as what you sent. Not always will the message be interpreted the right way. Remember.
   And, when you don’t tell her what you want, you may not get it. Not always will she be able to read your sophisticated mind.
7. Appreciate and respect each other.
   Appreciate what she’s done for you. Thank her when she’s awake at 7am to make you breakfast. Not many girls do so. As for respecting each other, your ideas are worth as much as her ideas. Respect her ideas. There are many other ways as to how you can show respect.
8. Patience.
   We know you prefer some things the other way. It may take a few months for your message to get through. Be patient.
9. Listen.
   Be a good listener. Do I still have to elaborate much on this?
10. Remember the dates. (I don’t mean going out dating)
    Anniversaries and birthdays are important. But it’s alright. Why not try miss it once? You’ll just feel the wrath. Don’t forget to note down her family’s birthdays too; they’re as important.

All the above tips are from my personal experience. If you think my tips are bad, share with me yours!