By Felix Ker on August 12, 2009

These questions are Google’s suggestions to “Why is my girlfriend …”.

Why is my girlfriend always mad at me?
Since you mentioned always, either your girlfriend is a bad one, or you’re a bad boyfriend. I can’t decide for you.

Why is my girlfriend unhappy?
You must have made her unhappy. Flowers might do the job.

Why is my girlfriend so mean?
Why are you asking me when you chose her? Dump her if you cannot accept that she’s so mean.

Why is my girlfriend crazy?
Crazy over you? I’m sure not.

Why is my girlfriend so moody?
Time of the month?

Why is my girlfriend ignoring me?
We’re human. We get emotional. Ask yourself: What have you done that caused her to ignore you.

Why is my girlfriend mean to me?
Remember what’s mentioned above? If she’s mean, that’s still fair. If she’s mean to you; Good luck.

Why is my girlfriend so fat?
I like this question. Most of the women I know never stop complaining that they’re fat. So if you are going to agree to them being fat, this is going to impact them a lot. You better think twice before asking this question.

Why is my girlfriend mad at me?
Question already answered above. To simplify, if you’ve done something wrong, I don’t see why your girlfriend shouldn’t be mad at you.

Why is my girlfriend so stupid?
Find a girlfriend smarter than you and she’ll start complaining that you’re stupid. Next, you’ll find her Googling for “Why is my boyfriend so stupid?”.

I’ve got more relationship tips over at the following two articles- 31 ways to make a girl smile (: 45 Things a girl wants but will NOT ask for!
. Check them out!

By Felix Ker on June 18, 2009

There are so many stages to a relationship. Simplifying it, I’d say – during courtship, in a relationship and after marriage. This article shall cover what’s before/during courtship! Pretty sure this will very much benefit you. Read on.

How do I choose?

Not surprising when people ask this. So many people in the world, but who do I choose?

What do you expect from your partner? Expectation is the #1 killer, thus I firmly believe in getting your expectations right, maybe lowering it. If you think you’ve got too high expectations and cannot find a girl that’s suitable, lower them a little. Or perhaps, you haven’t met the right one.

What can your partner expect from you? It’s good to know what you can be giving. Everyone expects different kind of treatment and different amount of attention. Do ask yourself how much you can give.

Who can I choose?

Almost anyone. It’s all up to you to make your choice of who you want to fall in love with. However, I’m not a risk taker when it comes to risking my friends for a relationship which has risks.

Personally, I just try not to fall in love with a good friend unless I understand her so well and know that, if one day the relationship doesn’t work out, we’ll still be friends. If not, you’re going to lose a friend — a good one!

You may not want to choose someone who has too much close mutual friends too. The problem here is – when you both fail to work out, your friends will be the one getting the shit.

Do I fall in love with the person first, or do I know the person better first then decide if I should love?

Both are fine, but I’d prefer to know a person better before I start courtship. Here’s my explanation – you won’t wanna waste your precious wooing, and knowing the person at the same time. You might find out that he/she’s not the one you’re looking for. Why the hurry then?

Tips please!

You’d need to read:

If you need additional help, contact me!

By Felix Ker on March 21, 2009

It doesn’t matter whether she’s your girlfriend, girl you’re after, or your wife.. Here are a few tips to make a girl (in general) happier.

  1. Be true to her. The truth might hurt, but when she finds out you’re lying, it’s worse.
  2. Love what/who she loves. How can her little puppy at home be irritating?
  3. Spend quality time with her! She wants your full attention.
  4. If you’re really that busy, give her a call when you can.
  5. If you’re not even free to make a call, or cannot call during working hours, a text message warms her heart as well.
  6. Hold her hands in public. Be proud of her!
  7. Hug her! Hugs are stronger than kisses.
  8. Kiss her more, of course.
  9. Don’t sweet talk. Say nice things to her but make sure they’re always true!
  10. Respect her.
  11. Listen to her. Spend some time everyday listening to what she has got to say!
  12. Gifts! It doesn’t have to be any special day. Neither has it gotta be expensive.
    • Flowers - they love it.
    • Soft toys – if she’s not allergic, why not?
  13. Get to know her friends. Especially the people she mix around.
  14. Remember the anniversaries. Men often time forget these dates. It’s time you have an organiser to remember them.
  15. Care for her. Who doesn’t need some care?
  16. Tell her you love her. Simple 3 words “I love you” isn’t so hard to say, right?
  17. Send her a text and say good morning. She’ll feel good to see her boyfriend’s text early in the morning. It might wake her up, but she’ll still smile.
  18. Buy her her favourite food. Not hard right? How about dining at her favourite restaurant?
  19. Drop some vocabulary – such as ‘old’, ‘fat’, ‘ugly’. If you love her, these few words shouldn’t exist in your dictionary.
  20. Praise her. Be it a great job done, nice make up or a nice dress she wore, she’ll be happy.
  21. Compromise! She loves it but you’re not having pasta everyday, are you?
  22. Let her feel loved (on bed). She needs good sex as much as you do. Do I still need to elaborate?
  23. Sing her a song. Just a verse would be good.
  24. Share a joke with her. Laughing is the best medicine. :)
  25. Be romantic. The beach and the stars? The park and the bench?
  26. Don’t mention your ex-girlfriends. She hates it.
  27. Don’t compare her with other girls. I know Jamie was good at this but every girl is different. Accept it. Move on.
  28. Surprise her. Who doesn’t like surprises?
  29. Massage her. She’ll feel you care.
  30. Don’t quarrel over anything. Discuss about it. Problems can be solved with discussion.

The points above can be summarised: Spend optimum time, Buy some gifts, Love and care for her and give her more attention. That’s about all.

How do you ususually make your girlfriend happier? Any tips to share?

By Felix Ker on February 14, 2009

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This article here is written a little too late for 2009. Maybe you can apply this for Valentine’s Day 2010.

On this day usually couples would specially meet up for a special valentine’s day meal and maybe some programs after that. Usually on this day movie tickets will be sold out too.

You ask. I’m broke (or I’m saving up to marry her soon), what can I do?

You should actually tell her about your financial status (be honest about it!). Pretty sure she won’t feel disappointed since a relationship isn’t a 1-person thing.

I would suggest that you can actually spend the day at home. Think about the ways you can manupulate with my idea and make it better. I’ve just got a very rough idea.

  1. Spend the afternoon shopping for something to cook for dinner. How about preparing Fish & Chips or steak since it isn’t at all hard to prepare? Further more, they wouldn’t cost much.
  2. Preparing for dinner together would definitely bring you together. Don’t you find it sweet to be able to prepare food together?
  3. It’s not weird to have dinner with your parents on Valentine’s Day. Prepare a share for your parents too!
  4. Now do wash the pots, pans and plates together. Blow foam on each other.
  5. (After this) You might want to shower (together?). I’ll pass this since my blog is suitable for the general public.
  6. If you’ve got DVDs, you can both watch a movie together and enjoy some soda (or even ice cream).  If not, download Joost and start watching some interesting programs lined up for you. Veoh isn’t a bad choice for videos too! We saved you $20 for movie tickets. Why not donate them to our paypal account? ([email protected])
  7. What’s next, its up to you.

What I got above is a very brief idea that can really save you lots yet let your partner feel important.

Hey Felix, I’m not on a budget, but I’m out of ideas.

No matter where you are, I’ve got ideas for you. It’s how you make it possible.

  • Spend some time doing community service, such as helping out at an old folks’ home or orphanage. That’s a way of sharing your love with the less fortunate. (This idea is highly recommended by felixker.com)
  • Book a hotel room. I would suggest that you a room on the high level. I don’t remember hotels having any restrictions against outside food in your room. Bring back food from anywhere. You’re free to dine on the bed or at the tables. It’s your room for the day and night! If you’re celebrating with your bunch of friends, this would be a good idea too. Most rooms should have a small bar with a fridge, so you can have your beer/wine chilled. The only problem is you’ve got to keep the noise level down.
  • Have a family car (7-8 seater preferred!)? A 7-8 seater would have 3 rows of seats. You can both park the car somewhere and sit together at the second row having your romantic meal. Since most family cars are specious, you can enjoy romantic music (or if there’s DVD/TV, it would be better!).
  • Pamper your partner with a massage and facial session. The both of you can spend 2-3 hours at the massage parlour or beauty salon together. This is a good time to relax together.
  • You’re both gamers? Why not spend a few hours at a cyber cafe. Play a team game together which can improve your relationship. What’s better than protecting your own loved one?

Look, the possibilities of having a wonderful and romantic day with your loved ones are almost unlimited whether you’re rich or not. All you need is your own originality. Think out of the box. Do something that you wouldn’t do on normal days.

READ ON

Personally, I think you should be sweet to your loved ones everyday. Valtentine’s Day has become a very commercialised day. Prices of flowers, gifts and dinner got jacked up for this special day.

It’s Valentine’s Day everyday!

By Felix Ker on January 17, 2009

English translation below!

1、她看到你跟别的女生亲近一些就会生气 (别说她小气,不信任你,她其实是在吃醋,这表示她十分在乎你)
2、她爱忧伤,爱掉泪 (别怪她多愁善感,她只是缺乏安全感,你要知道,她很少会为别人流泪)
3、跟你在一起总爱玩失踪 (别说她淘气,吓唬你,她只是爱看你急着找她的样子,证明一下她对你来说是重要的)
4、说:如果你不要她,她就去死 (不要说她威胁你,她只是告诉你,对她来说,你比一切都重要)
5、她总假装生气转身离开 (记住,她不是真地想走,离开时想要被挽留)6.她会突然冷淡你,或向你撒娇 (别怪她孩子气,她只是想让你哄哄她)
7、.出去吃饭,她吃得很少说吃不了了,让你替她吃 (别说她挑食或者浪费,她只是怕你吃不饱)
8、她总说她会帮你,让你有事找她 (其实她知道她帮不了你什么,她只想让你知道你还有她,她永远在你身边陪你)
9、她说:我不高兴了 (不要怪她无理取闹,她不是真的不开心,只是想你了,只是想要你几句安慰的话,哪怕是:乖~别闹了~)
10、她总说自己又胖了或者长得不够漂亮 (不要觉得她嫉妒别人,她只是怕在你眼中不够完美)
11、她总说你看谁谁谁他们怎么怎么样 (不要说她贪慕虚荣,总羡慕别人,她只是想让你知道怎样做能使她高兴)
12、她总是问:你在哪?你干什么呢? (她很关心你,只是想跟你说说话,你不给她发信息,她很矛盾,怕你在忙,但又忍不住想你,换了别人,爱干嘛干嘛,她不关心,所以请你一有时间就问候她一下,让她放心,让她知道你心里有她,她总是主动联系你,她会觉得她贱)
13、她说:天冷了,记得多穿衣服~ (不要嫌她烦,不要说她像你妈,你妈妈有时可能都比不上她对你的关心,换了别人,冻死也不关她的事,她知道你不傻,她只想让你知道她心里有你)
14、她总说你看谁谁谁他们怎么怎么样 (不要说她贪慕虚荣,总羡慕别人,她只是想让你知道怎样做能使她高兴)
15、她说你看谁多有钱,长得多帅 (你不用生气,在她眼里,你是最好的,她只是想让你为了她努力奋斗)
16、她不分场合的抱你,吻你 (她不是炫耀什么,只是想让别人知道你俩有多好)
17、不论是过马路还是走在哪,她用手死死拽住你的胳臂 (不要说她粘人,她只是告诉你她信任你)
18、她总是走在你的左边 (不要说她多事,她只是想离你的心更尽一些)
19、在买东西时她总征求你的意见 (别说她没主见,依赖你,她只是尊重你,凡事以你为先)
20、买东西她总买便宜的 (别说她小气,她只是想为你省钱)

English translation (by Google). So don’t complain that the English here is bad.

1, she saw you with the other girls will get close to some angry (not to mention her small, do not trust you, she is in fact jealous, which means that you care about her)
2, she loves sorrow, love tears (don’t blame her for being sentimental, she is only the lack of a sense of security, you know, she rarely shed tears for others)
3, with you playing the total disappearance (not her naughty, scare you, she just likes to watch what you looking for her urgently to prove her for you is important)
4, said: If you do not her, she would die (not that she threatened you, she just tell you that for her, you than all important)
5, she turned and left angry pretend (Remember, she is not really wanted to leave when you want to be asked to stay)
6. She would suddenly cool to you, or to coquet( she’s not childish, she just want you to coax her)
7. Eating out, she said, could eat very little to eat, and let you eat for her (not to mention her being choosy food or waste, she just afraid you do not have enough)
8, she said she would help you, so you happen to find her (in fact, she knew what she can not help you, she would just like to let you know you have her, she always keeps you at your side)
9, she said: I am also displeased with the (do not blame her trouble-making, she is not really unhappy, just like you, you just want a few comforting words, even if it is: come on, be nice, stop making noise.)
10, she said, but it is not enough weight or look pretty (do not think that she is jealous of other people, she is only afraid of not perfect in your eyes)
11, she always said you how they see who how to (not to mention greedy Mu her vanity, the total envy of others, she just want you to know how to make her happy to do so)
12, she was always asked: Where are you? You do? (She was very concerned about you, wanted to tell you, you speak, you do not sent her information, she was very contradictory, for fear you are busy, but could not help but think you, for others, love doing what she does not care about , and so you had time on the greetings of her, let her be assured that let her know that you know her, she always take the initiative to contact you, she would think that she is cheap)
13, she said: cold weather, and can still remember the clothes ~ (not too bothered her not to say that she, like your mother, your mother may sometimes none of your concern for her, for the others, do not freeze to death customs her, she know that you are not stupid, she just want to let you know her mind you)
14, she always said you how they see who how to (not to mention greedy Mu her vanity, the total envy of others, she just want you to know how to make her happy to do so)
15, she said that you see who is has more money and is much more handsome (You is not angry, in her eyes, you are the best, she just want you to work hard for her)
16, regardless of occasions she hold you, kiss you, (she is not showing off what other people just want to know how good you were)
17, whether to cross the road or walk in which she holds your hands down your arm (do not say that she stick, she just tell you that she trust you)
18, she was always walking in your left (not to mention her much, she just wanted more from your heart to do some)
19, in time to buy things she always seek your advice (not to mention her not seeking to rely on you, she is only respect for you, everything to you for the first)
20, to buy things she always buy cheap (not to mention her small, she just wanted to save money for you)

I know the translation is bad. Still i think it’s easy to understand the simple 20 points. Right?